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Here are some rules to remind you of what to do and what not to do with chocolate.THE RULESRULE #1 – MEN CAN'T MAKE RATIONAL DECISION BEFORE SEXBefore sex men are not thinking about the big picture. Their hormones are doing the talking for them. Be...
This blog is currently rated a 4.33 out of a possible 5 based on 15 comments.
meridanceHi Anthony,
...really enjoyed your blog. It's interesting to hear a man's opinion on relationships for a change . To be honest, I do think that men get a bad rap and I personally feel that we have to stop looking at each other as either men or women but rather as 'people'.
Mary Smirle BruceAnthony, I was going to give you a 5 rating until I read the part about compliments - good advice! Seriously, your blogs are very informative & thought-provoking - I have just ordered your book.
Have you read any of the theories of sociobiology? I think they fall in nicely with the perepective you are offering: a man needs to guarantee the survival of his own genetic pattern by spreading his seed as widely as possible. Then, if he is fairly sure a child is his, he needs to protect and defend it until it grows up - the big catch is that it is very difficult to be sure (now DNA helps, of course). Because of the continuing uncertainty, he is still driven to continue spreading the seed - just in case.
However, you have not really looked at the other side of the equation - women.
A woman needs to guarantee her genetic survival by providing the best protection and support for her own offspring - and she has no doubt who they are! Hence, she gives her genetic pattern the best chance by mating with the strongest, smartest & best-equipped-for-life male(s). However, these are not necessarily the best ones to be trusted to rear children - those may be the less agressive, more nurturing, less attractive & even weaker males. Good marriage prospects, but not the 'hotties' we tend to have secret affairs with. Hence, the patterns of how and why women 'cheat' differ completely from male ones, and must necessarily remain much more hidden. We do 'cheat,' but we're just sneakier & better at it than you guys - and, in the case of the French women, not ashamed at all!
Whaddya think? Mary
Jermaine JacksonMEN LOVE ATTENTION BELIEVE IT OR NOT WE DO SO WHEBEVER A WOMAN THINK HEY WE ARE OK AND DONT NEED THAT MUCH ATTENTION WE DONT ONCE U SLIP WE CLIDE, WE CHEAT NOT BECAUSE WE WANT TO HURT FEELINGS WE CHEAT BECAUSE WE AT TIMES NEED A NEW EXPERIEMCE
AngelThe problem is that men are biologically polygamist and the women do not make efforts to keep them to themselves.Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man, is a must read e-book for all women. If you're trying to get over the hurt of a broken heart, trying to get out of a bad relationship or hoping not to get into one, this is the book for you. If you are lonely and haven't been able to find Mr. Right, wouldn't know him if you met him or if you've found him and are worried about keeping him, folks this is the book! If you are unhappy, suffer from low self esteem, are over weight and don't feel good about yourself or just feel like your life is going no where, this book can help put your life on the right track. It's a life changer for both single and married women. Do yourself a favor and preview the e-book at; actlikealadythinklikeaman.com
unknown quantitywhen u meet your parner and sex is 1,2,5 or more times a week, 9 years later, sex is maybe 1 time a month or 2.
I feel like i have been cheated, or tricked!
The relationship is not what i signed up for, and having brought up the topic, nothing ever gets resolved.
deden sulaimani think lot of motives why men cheat:
1. no more challenge anymore.
2. want to show off to his friends
3. his lover to needy.
RichardThe temptation for men is what the real problem is. Women prefer long term lasting relationships. Men has always been the hunter Perhaps it is prudent to say women need to keepo the relationship interesting to stop men from straying?
Great blog
Rgards
Richard
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hassanexelent blog.
theotherwomanExcellent blog, well-written and full of great insights into relationships.
PhaseHey, I gave your blog a perfect rating because you could not have done a better job making your points. Guys are guided more often than not by their hormones and it's up to the ability of our sub-conscious in the heat of a moment to not act of line. My blog is dedicated to reliving several moments like it. I'm really curious to know what you think.
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CharmaineSome good points. I will admit that. I want to answer your query, "Why is the fact that men biologically want to be with an endless variety of women, wrong?"
It's wrong because it's not good for women. STD's, an absent father, propagation with women who are attractive but weak...None of this is good for the propagation of the species. We can extrapilate that what is good for women, is good for our species.
I like your comments about weak, needy women. If I were a man I would run in the opposite direction too. But let's face it, no weak minded woman is going to be able to "change" after reading your posts. But good for you for stating the obvious. Cheers!
Zenia Mai Enriquezinteresting topic... do men cheat or is it a pathological condition that every man has?
HY ChongInteresting topic. :) good work!
Angelica AlanizGreat advice.
How do I know? B/C I did all the things you said NOT to do.
And I think the best advise you gave was your last one.
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Personally I do agree with this blog. Men do sometimes give off a vibe that may seem that they are cheating on their spouse, but speaking from a man�s point of view I feel that we are sometimes stereotyped. Most women tend to label all men as liars and cheaters, but all men are not like that. Some men do care about thier woman's feelings and the woman still sometimes blame a man for stuff that he has no idea about. If a woman blames a man for something that he has not done, that will make him want to go out and do something. Usually its something that a woman done herd from one of their friends. I think the most important thing in a relationship is "TRUST". Without trust the relationship will not last no matter how much two people love each other.
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