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Recent Posts Tagged With 'abuse'

• Where Recovery Goes

  Posted on Sunday August 3rd, 2008 at 23:11 in abuse, Boys, breakup, change, children live what they learn, choices, cycle of abuse, grief, Healthy, life, loss, love

  When I was married to my first husband, his infidelity and physical abuse was almost besides the point. He was verbally abusive, berating me and calling me every name in the book. He was a bully̷...

• Top Posts July 1 - August 1 and of all time

  Posted on Sunday August 3rd, 2008 at 08:45 in "act as if", "get back where you belong", 12 step, abandonment, abuse, abuser's remorse, abusing, abusive, acceptance, addiction, advice relationships, affirmations

  For new readers, I post links for the top posts of the last 30 days and occasionally run a post for Top Posts of All Time though many of these are on both lists. Here are both lists as of August 1, 2...

• Because I Love Him (Her)

  Posted on Thursday July 24th, 2008 at 07:06 in 12 steps, absence, abuse, abusing, abusive, acceptance, advice relationships, after a breakup, bad relationship, breakup, change, choices

  I’m not sure if I’ve posted about this before, but “because I love him (her)” is not a reason for anything when someone has hurt you. Especially if they have hurt you badly an...

• Father’s Day

  Posted on Friday June 13th, 2008 at 22:11 in abandonment, absence, abuse, acoa, alcoholic, alcoholic family, breakup, divorce, emotional neglect, emotionally unavailable, Father, father's day

  I know this is long but I’ve never really written about my fathers. And I’d like to take this weekend to muse about them a bit. I’ve never met my biological father. He was married ...

• Mother’s Day When Mom Was Not Such a Peach

  Posted on Friday May 9th, 2008 at 16:21 in abandonment, abuse, alcoholism, dysfunctional, heartache, loss, love, mother's day, mothering, parenting, patterns

  If you bungle raising your children, I don’t think whatever else you do well matters very much. - Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis When my adoptive mother was alive we did the traditional Mother’...

• “I Matter” II

  Posted on Thursday April 24th, 2008 at 21:13 in abandonment, abuse, confidence, Self-esteem, self-respect, self-talk

  Hi everyone: I’m still very much under the weather but thank you for your thoughts. I really appreciate it. I’m reposting this for one person who wrote to me. I hope it helps some. Ta...

• 4/13 TFTD ~ These Thin Lines

  Posted on Sunday April 13th, 2008 at 16:18 in abandonment, abuse, caring, codependency, janet woititz, melody beattie, robin norwood, self-care, self-love, self-respect, susan forward, thought for the day

  This was mentioned in a comment but I don’t think that becoming TOO self-centered is really an issue for people who are perenially other-centered. Then Serenity mentioned in another comment abo...

• Personality Disorders with a special nod to Narcissism

  Posted on Sunday March 16th, 2008 at 07:14 in abuse, borderline, clinical, codependent, diagnosis, dsm, martyr, narcissism, npd, thought for the day, violence

  People often ask me what exactly is a personality disorder in the clinical sense. Since I was a diagnostic clinician for 5 years I will try to explain this without being too clinical. But feel free ...

• Don’t Give Up The Day Before The Miracle Happens

  Posted on Tuesday February 19th, 2008 at 17:58 in 12 step, abandonment, abuse, aca, acoa, adoption, battered woman, breakup, codependency, divorce, foster care, grief

  “….in the spring becomes the rose…” I received several distressing letters today from people who seemed to be at the end of their rope and I wanted to share some of my story wh...

• TFTD 2/17 ~ On Betrayal

  Posted on Sunday February 17th, 2008 at 09:55 in abuse, betrayal, cheating, fight or flight, grief, loss, ptsd, thought for the day, trauma, trust

  Betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~ Steven Dietz Betrayal may be described as simply the breaking of trust. It’s when we trust someone and they break that trust (and usually our hearts...

• 2/16 TFTD ~ More on Journaling

  Posted on Saturday February 16th, 2008 at 07:23 in abuse, acoa, addiction, breakup, codependency, grief, journal, journaling, life inventory, loss, ptsd, relationship inventory

  Someone asked about journaling in yesterday’s comments so I’m going to repost some of what I’ve written before with new thrown in. One of the questions was “Should I go back an...

• Loving Yourself / Being Good To You

  Posted on Monday January 28th, 2008 at 18:38 in 12 step, abuse, affirmations, breakup, codependency, confidence, goals, journal, loss, relationship, Self-esteem, support

  I know a lot of this is splashed around the blog, but I thought I’d put it all in here....

• The Abusive and Semi-Abusive Relationship

  Posted on Thursday January 24th, 2008 at 17:56 in 12 steps, abandonment, abuse, abuser's remorse, codependency, control, criticism, emotional abuse, leaving, melody beattie, narcissism, narcissist

  I’ve written about abuser’s remorse on here, where someone who has been abusive suddenly turns into a puddle and begs and pleads with you as you’re walking out the door. Abuser̵...