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Understanding and Managing Jealousy
Jealousy is one of the most powerful and potentially destructive human emotions. When we feel jealous, we say that we are sick with it. Jealousy is the emotion that can make us feel like we’ve been punched in the stomach and had the wind knocked ou...
Player or Boyfriend? It’s Written On His Forehead
Wouldn’t it be great if you could take one look at someone’s face and know if they were relationship material? It turns out that people are remarkably accurate at predicting just that. A study at Durham University in England showed that B...
The New Double Standard Being Used Against Women
There’s a new double-standard being applied to women in relationships, and it’s even more insidious than Studs. vs. Sluts. A favorite tactic of young men when questioned about their questionable behavior is to accuse the self-respecting woman of...
Thinking Outside the Friend Box
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” Wayne Gretzky As far as I can tell, there are three different camps of guys that girls love to gossip about: 1. Guys they have the hots for. 2. Guys that suck. Note: “Guys t...
Are You Dating a Narcissist?
Narcissus in Greek mythology is a hero, renowned for his beauty. He is exceptionally cruel, in that he disdains those who love him. As divine punishment he falls in love with a reflection in a pool, not realizing it is his own, and perishes there, no...
You Are Who You Sleep With
This entry is part 3 of 3 in the series I Married a One-Night Stand I have one final thought I want to share with you from the story of how I got together with my husband all those years ago. It’s tricky, but I think it’s important, so he...
Awesome Beach Reads
“Summer afternoon, summer afternoon… the two most beautiful words in the English language.” Henry James I’ve read some really good books lately, and I thought I’d share them with you. Full discoslure: I&#...
Boycott Man Whores!
Man whore: A sexually active, promiscuous, younger man who is well known at most health clinics and may have an STD named after him in his honor. Would you date a man whore? Me neither. What if he was willing, even eager, to be exclusive with you?...
Your Unforgettable First Crush
The Frisky found the most wonderful video called My First Crush by Julia Pott. It’s made even more charming by the British accents, which make any ordinary sentiment sound special. Wendy Atterberry accompanies it with some charming remembrance...
Getting Off By Doing Good
Today I’m sharing a couple of important Public Service Announcements. First, a heartwarming story about two Boy Scout Volunteers who generously assist women in the community: 12-Year-Old Boy Scouts Volunteer To Give Women Breast Exams Second, ...
Translator Needed for 10 Hour Text Convo
Here’s what is absolutely great about texting between girls and guys: It’s convenient. You don’t have to talk on the phone, which almost everyone hates to do. It is spontaneous. In a matter of seconds, you can make a plan or make an...
7 Loser Guys to Waste Your Youth and Beauty On
This entry is part 2 of 2 in the series Finding True LoveBookmark and Share More » It’s easy to understand why women get really discouraged as they look around, especially on college campuses. Even the cutest guys become ...
Mixed Bag
Bookmark and Share More »I’m away for a couple of days, but I’m leaving you some toys to play with: 1. Check out Pixcetera’s fascinating look at what magazines do to photos of celebrities. I’ll take Robert...
Geeks Demand Equal Time Under Fairness Doctrine
Bookmark and Share More » Ever since I published Are Emo Guys the Antidote to Frat Poison? last week, I’ve been getting some pushback from geeky types and the girls who love them. Hey, I’m game. I love geeks. In fac...
You’re Welcome, Guys!
Bookmark and Share More » “Snips and snails, and puppy dog tails, that’s what little boys are made of.” Something interesting has been happening here at Hooking Up Smart. As you may know from my Abou...
Are Women Cut Out to Be Friends With Benefits?
Bookmark and Share More » “You’re the best listener that I’ve ever met You’re my best friend Best friend with benefits” Alanis Morissette, Head Over Feet As someone who writes about contemporary r...
11 Reasons to See ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’ ASAP
Bookmark and Share More » Love love love love. So much fun, so entertaining. I wanna go again. Here are my reasons for saying this is an AWESOME movie: It’s better than the book. My beef with the book is that...
Marry Me, a Short Film
Bookmark and Share More »Michelle Lehman directed this cute short for Tropfest Australia about a young girl who is in love with a boy who seems to notice nothing but his bike. Michelle says the film is inspired by a true story wh...
Sexual Attraction + Compatibility = Nothing?
Bookmark and Share More »“I’m really attracted to you. I have a great time with you. You’re awesome, you’re the coolest girl I know. Your friendship means a lot to me. I don’t want to date you.”...
Is Porn Changing the Way We Kiss?
Bookmark and Share More » “Kissing-and I mean like, yummy, smacking kissing - is the most delicious, most beautiful and passionate thing that two people can do, bar none. Better than sex, hands down.” Drew Barrymor...
Calling All Future Cougars
Bookmark and Share More »Calling all Future Cougars! In ten years this kid will be somebody’s 19 year-old perfect BF, unless his bros totally screw him up by then. For now, though, he offers refreshingly sound advice for bo...
10 Ways to Get Inside His Head
This entry is part 1 of 1 in the series Finding True LoveBookmark and Share More » “Never frown, because you never know when someone is falling in love with your smile.” Anonymous Many women make the mista...
Do Guys Need Porn?
Bookmark and Share More » I’ve touched on the issue of guys and porn before in Sex: Men Desire It, and Women Control the Supply. Over at College Candy, they’ve got a good piece that tackles the question of WHY guys l...
20 Mistakes Guys Make When Hooking Up
Bookmark and Share More » There’s a Facebook group called 20 Common Mistakes That Guys Make When Hooking Up and I absolutely love their manifesto. The most common mistake girls make is putting up with this. Demand more ...
