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How to Boost Your Self-Confidence With the Opposite Sex
Another Friday and hopefully all you singles have big plans for the weekend. It’s autumn, and I always feel that there’s a sense of possibility in the air at this time of year. It’s the season for getting cozy, so how about meeting ...
Do Pretty Girls Have it Harder?
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life Never make a pretty woman your wife So from my personal point of view Get an ugly girl to marry you Jimmy Soul, 1970 Do beautiful women have a harder time finding real love? I bet Jennifer Aniston...
You Already Know the Answer
Amy Johnson is a psychologist and life coach who answers questions about relationships. In a recent post, she identified the three most common themes in the letters she receives from people. The commentary is mine. 1. You already know the answer. Peo...
Your Vagina Looks Familiar, Have We Met?
Today I’ve got some links that are going to scare the pants right back onto you. I’ve written before about cameras and sex, which, let’s face it, can be a total turn on. Pics of yourself and your lover naked can be a very effective ...
Understanding and Managing Jealousy
Jealousy is one of the most powerful and potentially destructive human emotions. When we feel jealous, we say that we are sick with it. Jealousy is the emotion that can make us feel like we’ve been punched in the stomach and had the wind knocked ou...
Is Your Best Guy Friend Thinking of You With His Right Hand?
“Joey: You waited too long and now you’re in ‘The Friend Zone’. Ross: No, I’m not in the Zone. Joey: Come on, Ross; you’re mayor of the Zone!” Friends I’m one of those cynics who thinks it is really, really diffic...
Player or Boyfriend? It’s Written On His Forehead
Wouldn’t it be great if you could take one look at someone’s face and know if they were relationship material? It turns out that people are remarkably accurate at predicting just that. A study at Durham University in England showed that B...
Guys: An Instruction Manual
Here’s an article I think is worth sharing. It’s unusually good for this kind of thing. I know I can never get enough of guys explaining how guys think and what they want. Sort of an instruction manual! What Guys Wish We Knew By Sandra Pr...
What Women Really Think About Penis Size
We really need to find a way to get guys to stop worrying about penis size. I’ve gathered a critical mass of anecdotal evidence that tells me the problem is getting worse. Of course, guys worrying about the size of their junk is nothing new. St...
5 Ways to Get More Control of Your Relationships
This entry is part 3 of 3 in the series Executing a Winning Strategy “I have no power. Why should she have the upper hand? Once in my life I would like the upper hand. I have no hand. No hand at all. She has the hand. I have no hand.” Geo...
Dating Rules That Make Sense, Finally
Robot Heart is one of my favorite blogs. Katie, the blogger, posts numerous (many!) things on there every day. In fact, Katie is an amazing woman, with five blogs: Robot Heart Twenty Something Sex, Religion and Politics Daily Beagle Things I *Heart* ...
Intimacy Lite, A Product Not Worth Buying
“Your bones have been my bedframe and your flesh has been my pillow. And I`m waiting for sleep.” Ani DiFranco Em & Lo recently answered a letter from a reader where they coined the term Intimacy Lite. You know wh...
To Boost Self-Esteem, Stop Doing Stuff That Makes You Feel Like Crap
Today I welcome guest blogger Krystal, who has her own very interesting blog called Special K Treatment. She has a PhD in Clinical Psych, which immediately puts me in awe of her; I am a huge proponent of therapy, and have enormous respect for people ...
The Art of the Ultimatum
Dear Aunt Sue, I’ve been with this guy Tyler for a while and I really like him a lot. At first we were just hooking up, and we never talked about the relationship or anything. But it became a regular thing, and I developed feelings for him. The...
Announcing Best Breakup Shorts Contest
Bookmark and Share More »No, I don’t mean the shorts you wore when you last broke up with someone, nor do I mean the boxers he was pulling on as he told you it was over. I mean Short as in, “Notify the Academy, I̵...
The Man Code Sucks!
Bookmark and Share More » Dear Aunt Sue, Do you think guys and girls can really be friends? Or does it always get messed up? My boyfriend and I recently broke up, and I really miss some of his guy friends. I hung out with them ...
Breakup Survival Playlist #1: Shock and Awe
This entry is part 2 of 2 in the series Getting Over a BreakupBookmark and Share More »My heart, which is so full to overflowing, has often been solaced and refreshed by music when sick and weary.” Martin Luther When ...
When He Left, He Left Some Crap Behind
Bookmark and Share More » I love discovering cool stuff and sharing it with you. Here’s a fun site for you to check out, and you might find it useful as well: “Stuff That’s Left Behind is a blog all about ...
How to Know When He Considers You His Girlfriend
Bookmark and Share More » Oooooh, ooooh, ooooh, Amelia has posted one of her Guys on Our IM chats at The Frisky. Love those guys. In the past I have been a little wary of Experienced Guy, but his comments here are very reasonab...
Should I Have Sex With My Ex?
Bookmark and Share More »Dear Aunt Sue, I just got home for the holidays and I know there’s going to be drama with my ex over the break. Everyone always says DO NOT hook up with your ex, so I figure it’s probably a st...
Vampires Make the Best Boyfriends
I’ve gotten really obsessed with HBO’s True Blood this fall. The main vampire character and leading man is Bill Compton, played with steamy intensity by Stephen Moyer. He’s recently returned to his hometown of Bon Temps, Louisian...
