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LOL Link Love
Bringing you a little laughter link love this afternoon: 1. The Los Angeles Times features a couple of interesting iphone apps to help you date and mate. The Girlfriend Keeper generates text messages to send to your SO, allowing you to specify the re...
The Sweetness of Surrender (His)
I love Jason Mraz’s song I’m Yours. Doesn’t every woman? It’s been on Billboard’s Top 100 chart for 74 weeks, a record. It’s the third-best selling digital song of all time, having sold 4.4 million downloads, and i...
The Cost of Always Holding Out for Something Better
Brett and Kate McKay write The Art of Manliness, a successful personal development blog that is tailored to men, but contains many excellent, thoughtful articles that I enjoy. Recently, they wrote about a general condition of restlessness and anxious...
Do Pretty Girls Have it Harder?
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life Never make a pretty woman your wife So from my personal point of view Get an ugly girl to marry you Jimmy Soul, 1970 Do beautiful women have a harder time finding real love? I bet Jennifer Aniston...
Why Women are Hottest in Countries With Too Few Dudes
Recently, the economics blog Marginal Revolution ran a piece called A Theory For Why Latvian Women are Beautiful, after a colleague returned from Latvia astounded by the beauty of the women there. This would hardly surprise Latvian women, 500 of wh...
When You’re Desperate, It’s Time to Get Picky
A few years ago I posed a hypothetical question to my niece, then about 15: Q: There are two men who love you and want to marry you. The first guy is a successful lawyer, drives a BMW, is handsome, kind, and worships the ground you walk on. But well,...
How to Find a Great Guy
You’d like to meet someone new, someone who has real potential for a meaningful relationship. You know there are a million fish in the sea, but you keep coming across the same bottom feeders again and again. How do you meet a good guy? I. Go wh...
Chad Kultgen’s Unputdownable Novels
Recently a college-aged friend turned me on to The Average American Male by Chad Kultgen (2007), a book she found disgusting and reprehensible in every way. She went so far as to say she hated the author. She was about 50 pages in at that point, and...
Understanding and Managing Jealousy
Jealousy is one of the most powerful and potentially destructive human emotions. When we feel jealous, we say that we are sick with it. Jealousy is the emotion that can make us feel like we’ve been punched in the stomach and had the wind knocked ou...
How to Blow His Mind in Bed
Yeah, I know this sounds like a tawdry Cosmo article with stupid sex tips, but I figured it would grab your attention. I found it straightforward and informative, always a plus when it comes to sex talk. Sandra Prior is a Brit – I don’t k...
Is Your Best Guy Friend Thinking of You With His Right Hand?
“Joey: You waited too long and now you’re in ‘The Friend Zone’. Ross: No, I’m not in the Zone. Joey: Come on, Ross; you’re mayor of the Zone!” Friends I’m one of those cynics who thinks it is really, really diffic...
Player or Boyfriend? It’s Written On His Forehead
Wouldn’t it be great if you could take one look at someone’s face and know if they were relationship material? It turns out that people are remarkably accurate at predicting just that. A study at Durham University in England showed that B...
Getting an Upper Hand Job
“Be extremely subtle, even to the point of formlessness. Be extremely mysterious, even to the point of soundlessness. Thereby you can be the director of the opponent’s fate.” Sun Tzu, The Art of War Playing Hard To Get has traditionally b...
Guys: An Instruction Manual
Here’s an article I think is worth sharing. It’s unusually good for this kind of thing. I know I can never get enough of guys explaining how guys think and what they want. Sort of an instruction manual! What Guys Wish We Knew By Sandra Pr...
What Women Really Think About Penis Size
We really need to find a way to get guys to stop worrying about penis size. I’ve gathered a critical mass of anecdotal evidence that tells me the problem is getting worse. Of course, guys worrying about the size of their junk is nothing new. St...
Thinking Outside the Friend Box
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” Wayne Gretzky As far as I can tell, there are three different camps of guys that girls love to gossip about: 1. Guys they have the hots for. 2. Guys that suck. Note: “Guys t...
Are You Dating a Narcissist?
Narcissus in Greek mythology is a hero, renowned for his beauty. He is exceptionally cruel, in that he disdains those who love him. As divine punishment he falls in love with a reflection in a pool, not realizing it is his own, and perishes there, no...
Sorry to Kill Your 4th of July Buzz
Partying on the 4th is an inalienable right passed down from our Founding Fathers. That used to mean parades, fireworks, strawberry shortcake, and beer. The celebrations have gotten more potent, though, featuring vast numbers of 30-racks and large tu...
A Crash Course in Relationships
David Cain has a blog called Raptitude. He describes it as “the gentle art of sanity amidst civilization,” and invites you to have a look around by saying, “Raptitude is a blog for helping each other to enjoy being human. If you are...
7 Things Women Want to Hear (But Only If You Mean It)
This is NOT a post about those three little words. This is a post about what women need to hear waaaayyy before that. This is a post for men, about women. If you’re one of my women readers, please use the comments below to add anything you’d like...
5 Ways to Get More Control of Your Relationships
This entry is part 3 of 3 in the series Executing a Winning Strategy “I have no power. Why should she have the upper hand? Once in my life I would like the upper hand. I have no hand. No hand at all. She has the hand. I have no hand.” Geo...
Brilliant Dating Advice From a Dead Virgin
Jane Austen understood everything about the human heart. That’s an astonishing accomplishment for a woman who died a virgin at 41. Lauren Henderson, a novelist who attended Cambridge University in England and wrote her dissertation on the court...
Monday Medicine
1. I love Indexed. Jessica Hagy is brilliant and funny. You must subscribe to this - I do and I get so excited when it shows up in my Google reader! Here are a couple of my faves, but there are waaaayyyy more where these came from, so head on over t...
To Boost Self-Esteem, Stop Doing Stuff That Makes You Feel Like Crap
Today I welcome guest blogger Krystal, who has her own very interesting blog called Special K Treatment. She has a PhD in Clinical Psych, which immediately puts me in awe of her; I am a huge proponent of therapy, and have enormous respect for people ...
Singlutionary’s Wit and Wisdom
I feel compelled to write today in appreciation of a regular reader of Hooking Up Smart. She calls herself The Singlutionary. She comments regularly, and she has her own blog, which you may have checked out. I love it. I love her. She is a woman who ...
Monday Link Love
Here are my favorite links this week to kickstart your Monday with: Texts From Last Night Thanks to Meg for bringing this site to my attention! It’s another great site for enjoying other people’s f**k ups. Laughing at the misfortunes of o...
Find a Discarded Grocery List, Laugh Your Head Off
I love making lists. I even make lists of my lists. I have lists of list-making software, and I write on my To Do list that I need to learn how to work all my online To Do lists. It’s a little neurotic, I know. I have a touch of OCD - in a g...
Benefits to Dating an Older Guy
I have found a GREAT new blog! It is called: Men Aren’t That Deep The truth about how we think…this won’t take long. It’s written by a happily married father of two who calls himself The Truthful Man. He has lived through being a total...
Please Disappoint Me With Integrity
The Art of Manliness has a great post today: Living a Life of Integrity. It’s written for men, obvs, but very much applies to all of us and the way we treat one another. Here’s an excerpt relevant to relationships: Integrity ...
Mixed Bag
Bookmark and Share More »I’m away for a couple of days, but I’m leaving you some toys to play with: 1. Check out Pixcetera’s fascinating look at what magazines do to photos of celebrities. I’ll take Robert...
