Recent Posts Tagged With 'assertiveness'

• Michael Jackson, the Curse of Talent?

  Posted on Sunday June 28th, 2009 at 09:38 in goal setting, happiness, self esteem, self-confidence, michael jackson, self talk, talent, assertiveness, confidence exercises

  “Being confident is not always the same as being good at something”? That interesting statement appeared recently on another blog, My Life with Angels, which in turn was responding to a post by Maggie Stiefvater. On several occasions I ha...

• 20 Ways to Build Self Confidence?

  Posted on Sunday April 5th, 2009 at 10:06 in tips, google, obama, digg, self-confidence, dress, body language, assertiveness, confidence exercises

  I often look at other sites, articles and blogs in the field of self improvement. Partially for my own interest - I’ve always enjoyed reading and finding new ways to move forward in this area. But also to point others in the direction of good w...

• Give yourself an Oscar

  Posted on Sunday February 22nd, 2009 at 09:27 in goal setting, self esteem, thanks, praise, self-confidence, thank you, oscars, assertiveness, perfectionist

  It’s the season for award ceremonies – particularly in the world of entertainment.  We’ve just had the Grammies and Bafta, not to mention SAG, Golden Globes, Emmys… the list is endless.   Tonight things reach a climax with the 81st Acad...

• How to be assertive

  Posted on Saturday January 17th, 2009 at 10:35 in sarcasm, behavior, self-confidence, anger, Behaviour, passive, body language, aggression, assertiveness, assertive, maniplulative

  I have done bits and pieces on assertiveness in the past, this post brings everything together to give an overview of this important skill - otherwise known as confident communication. A good definition is:- “expressing my rights and acknowledging ...

• How to Say No

  Posted on Sunday September 14th, 2008 at 08:54 in communication, self esteem, assertiveness, confidence exercises

  When I stated this blog 18 months ago, some of my early posts were on saying no. However, my posts then were barely a paragraph long at times. Writing the past two posts on criticism, and being unable to properly link to this related skill, I thought...

• How to Deliver a Criticism Sandwich

  Posted on Sunday August 31st, 2008 at 02:30 in communication, critic, self esteem, praise, criticism, assertiveness, confidence exercises

  If you have low self esteem, criticizing others is worse than receiving criticism (as we hate to offend or upset other people) Cartoon kind permission Tom Fishburne Sadly many adults avoid promotion because they can’t face the prospect of bein...

• Dealing with Bullying Behavior

  Posted on Sunday April 13th, 2008 at 10:42 in communication, assertiveness, confidence exercises

  I was woken up this morning to the rather distasteful image of Gordon Ramsey and Graham Poll - in shorts. Both were being interviewed on TV before setting off on the London marathon. Gordon Ramsey is a well known TV chef, who has an international emp...

• Perhaps Britney should manage England?

  Posted on Thursday November 22nd, 2007 at 12:08 in appearance, self-confidence, assertiveness

  I came across this great post recently What you can learn about blogging from Britney Spears - even the title is great! Michael Martine makes some interesting observations and I recommend reading - thanks to Chris Garrett gor the original link. What...

• Expressing opinions

  Posted on Sunday August 19th, 2007 at 14:12 in building, communication, build, Self-esteem, self esteem, self confidence, self-confidence, Belief, abilities, assertiveness, confidence exercises

       As well as expressing feelings, another thing that we can avoid if we lack self-confidence is expressing opinions. If you are asked for an opinion, the simplest route is to give honestly and without apologising.  This is an area where if y...

• How to expressing feelings

  Posted on Sunday August 12th, 2007 at 15:06 in building, communication, build, Self-esteem, self esteem, self confidence, self-confidence, Belief, abilities, assertiveness, confidence exercises

  My posts on confident communication, or assertiveness, have looked at how to say no, and types of behavior that are not assertive - such as passive, manipulative and aggressive. I also went over a “bill of rights“, that expands on the un...

• Manipulative behavior - indirect aggression

  Posted on Sunday July 29th, 2007 at 15:19 in building, build, Self-esteem, self esteem, self confidence, self-confidence, Belief, abilities, assertiveness, definiton

  I hope you like the new theme - I’ve spent most of the weekend “tweaking” rather than getting down to 1001 other things I had planned! Indirect aggression - I find this the most interesting of behavior types as I know its a style I...

• Are you a bully?

  Posted on Wednesday July 25th, 2007 at 14:29 in building, build, Self-esteem, self esteem, self confidence, self-confidence, Belief, aggression, abilities, assertiveness, definiton

  Aggressive people can be surprised if anyone suggests that they should learn to be more assertive. Because, unlike passive people, they may actually be getting what they want. Getting what you want by being a bully may work in the short term, but l...

• Passive behavior

  Posted on Sunday July 15th, 2007 at 09:38 in self-confidence, assertiveness, definiton

  Following on from my series on saying no, I last gave a definition of assertiveness, and mentioned the three other behavioral types - passive, aggressive and manipulative. When we think of unassertive behavior, we tend to focus on passive. Passive...

• Assertiveness

  Posted on Sunday June 24th, 2007 at 15:21 in speaking, self-confidence, assertiveness, definiton

  I have now put 10 blogs into the category of assertiveness - including all the saying “no” blogs and the bill of rights. But I have yet to define assertiveness, or say why it is so important for having great self confidence. The best de...

• Simple 'No'

  Posted on Thursday June 21st, 2007 at 02:42 in building, build, Self-esteem, self esteem, self confidence, speaking, self-confidence, Belief, abilities, assertiveness, confidence exercises

  My final technique for saying “no”, is by far the simplest - but certainly not the easiest!  By just saying “no”, and nothing else you may be perceived as rude or aggressive.  But like all the other techniques, circumstances...

• Asking for Information

  Posted on Thursday June 14th, 2007 at 12:18 in assertiveness, confidence exercises

  Moving on with our saying “No” series, the next stage is another more “negotiation” type statement. Responding with a question, asking for information, is another way of stalling whilst clarifying the exact request being made...

• Bill of Rights

  Posted on Saturday June 9th, 2007 at 14:56 in building, build, Self-esteem, self esteem, self confidence, self-confidence, Belief, abilities, assertiveness, confidence exercises

  I've been running a series of blogs that look at saying 'No' ' an essential part of confident communication.  For some, learning to say this small word isn't easy.  We have learnt that saying no makes us uncaring, or selfish.  Also, we learn to be...

• A Raincheck 'No'

  Posted on Sunday June 3rd, 2007 at 11:46 in building, build, Self-esteem, self esteem, self confidence, self-confidence, Belief, abilities, assertiveness, confidence exercises, great self confidence

  A “raincheck no”, says a clear no to the current request but does respond with a positive offer:- I can't work your shift tomorrow as I'm doing something; however I can help out later in the week if thats any help?” The bottom line...