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Does Attitude Count more than Ability?
Last week I received an email announcing the relaunch of Success magazine. As the email was unsolicited - and technically spam - it didn’t seem a particularly auspicious way to relaunch a magazine! But it did lead me to dig out my old copy of...
Self Confident men, Shy and Flamboyant
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A Christmas Carol
On 19th December 1843 “A Christmas Carol” by Charles Dickens was first published. Over the years the story has been retold many times on stage, television and film. The main character Scrooge has entered our language to depict meanness -...
Do you have Passion or Desire?
Over the last couple of weeks, it was impossible to listen to a news bulletin without hearing the phrase “road map” - often accompanied with the Talking Heads “Road to Nowhere”! The politicians then emerged with the “Ba...
How to develop will power
Since starting this blog I have reread some of my own books on self confidence and personal development, and generally researched and followed up links on the topic. Some I have made reference to, or quoted. I have paid particular attention to any...
Build a self confidence portfolio
I’ve written a lot recently about thinking and self talk, in particular how we tend to automatically focus on negatives. This applies just as easily to confidence. If asked, most of us can list things we cannot do, areas we lack confidence wi...
Challenging negative thoughts
This post and Distract Yourself from Self Talk was inspired by a previous comment saying “how am I supposed to stop caring about what people think? It’s not a switch I can just turn off…” I said there were two techniques, one - &#...
If you don’t make changes…
In what habits do you want to change, I started getting you to think about what aspects of your life will be like in the future - if you don’t change anything. You can look at the whole you, but I find it simpler to take one aspect of “y...
What habits do you want to change?
I don’t spend all my time watching TV, I promise, but I’m going to start yet another post with a reference to a particular show. There’s a programme called “Honey, we’re killing the kids” which each week presents ...
Are you competitive?
Personally I would have always described myself as non competitive. I have never particularly excelled at anything, either academically or sportingly. At school I did OK, but never was top in anything. On sports day I never won anything, being rat...
improve self confidence
This is going to be a fairly rambling post! Recently I joined a self development forum, partly to promote this site, but also to try and interact with others either with problems or solutions. The problem when you start blogging is you don’t g...
Expressing opinions
As well as expressing feelings, another thing that we can avoid if we lack self-confidence is expressing opinions. If you are asked for an opinion, the simplest route is to give honestly and without apologising. This is an area where if y...
Body language
I’ve started a new categorie - body language. Some posts, such as the recent “Can you improve confidence with a smile” have touched on the importance of what we communicate with our body. I have read that 65% of the signals we se...
How to expressing feelings
My posts on confident communication, or assertiveness, have looked at how to say no, and types of behavior that are not assertive - such as passive, manipulative and aggressive. I also went over a “bill of rights“, that expands on the un...
Free self improvement products
“How to access 77+ high quality self-improvement products for free” Well I was sceptical myself when I came across this site. But it was a link from an ezine that I trust, so I registered, and (having waded through a few sales pages!) f...
Manipulative behavior - indirect aggression
I hope you like the new theme - I’ve spent most of the weekend “tweaking” rather than getting down to 1001 other things I had planned! Indirect aggression - I find this the most interesting of behavior types as I know its a style I...
Are you a bully?
Aggressive people can be surprised if anyone suggests that they should learn to be more assertive. Because, unlike passive people, they may actually be getting what they want. Getting what you want by being a bully may work in the short term, but l...
The Big Swim
Back from a lovely vacation, back to work, and today - the Big Swim. I had mentioned in a couple of previous posts that I had set myself a challenge of competing the 1.4 mile swim between two piers in Bournemouth, on the South Coast of England. Lin...
Simple 'No'
My final technique for saying “no”, is by far the simplest - but certainly not the easiest! By just saying “no”, and nothing else you may be perceived as rude or aggressive. But like all the other techniques, circumstances...
A Sad Twist to an Earlier Blog
We've all done it - typed our name into Google to see who else is out there (or whether we register in some way!). I did this yesterday and had quite a shock. I had blogged about the London marathon back in April, saying how completing it was such...
Bill of Rights
I've been running a series of blogs that look at saying 'No' ' an essential part of confident communication. For some, learning to say this small word isn't easy. We have learnt that saying no makes us uncaring, or selfish. Also, we learn to be...
A Raincheck 'No'
A “raincheck no”, says a clear no to the current request but does respond with a positive offer:- I can't work your shift tomorrow as I'm doing something; however I can help out later in the week if thats any help?” The bottom line...
