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Written by a stripper, college student, sex-positive feminist, and hopeful sex educator, this blog is about living, loving, learning, and fucking with the materials at hand.
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Canvassing vs. Stripping Part 2: Objectification
I wrote not long ago that stripping and canvassing are very similar. I stand by this; it's mostly the same skill set and similar interactions. I've been surprised to find, though, that there's one major difference. I actually feel a lot more objectif...
Stripping and "Hating" and Dating Men
When I first started stripping, I heard from lots of my coworkers and a few of my friends in the industry that the job would make me hate men. They said that when you do sex work, you see the worst in men and so it is inevitable that you start to dis...
Money
A disorganized and possibly rambling continuation of my thoughts on my privileged stupidity when it comes to money: how did I get this way?I try to be fairly open about the fact that I come from a very privileged family. For starters: I'm white, star...
Mother's Day
Okay, I know that everyone ever is writing something about their mother today, but I'm just going to go ahead and jump on the bandwagon.In the last year or so, it's been truly wonderful to get to interact with my mom on more of an adult level. I've f...
Quick but Excellent Link on Masculinity
Really, really good post on masculinity and what it would take to create a more egalitarian gender structure. I really like Hugo Schwyzer's blog; he says some really wonderful things about masculinity and parenting. Here's an excerpt from the post:Th...
Links Because I Read Too Many Blogs Not to Share
About Time I Take a StandJem writes another great response to the whole BDSM kerfluffle (yes, that's how I spell that word) going on in the blog universe. It seems like she has a nicely balanced perspective, and I appreciate her respect.Speech on Inn...
Tired
Renegade Evolution wrote a post about how tired she is of the feminist sex wars and all their resulting baggage. It's a long post and she goes into a lot more depth about how this affects her personally, but I share the overall sentiment.I read a lot...
Feminism vs. Real Life
Courtney at Feministing wrote about the ways her feminist ideals differ from her actual life, and invited others to do the same. I think this is a really good exercise in self-awareness, so I'm going to try to answer her.1. I'm incredibly self consci...
Sex Work and Privilege
There have been a couple of interesting and definitely provocative posts on sex work in the blogosphere in the last week. What else is new, right? This time, though, I'm joining the discussion.Renegade Evolution does a good job of answering some of b...
Sexuality Feminism
I’ve been struggling, like many feminists interested in sexuality, with the issue of self-identification. I am clearly neither an anti-porn feminist nor a sex-positive feminist. I very much enjoy porn, but I think its trends and messages are extrem...
Bad Blogger Wrist Slap and Porn Thesis Excerpt
Wow, so I've been REALLY bad at blogging for a while. At the end of last semester, I was dog sick and stressed from finals, and then over break the disastrous travel issue left me completely sapped of energy and words.I'm back at school now, and read...
Public Identity: To Come Out or Not?
I'm at a big crossroads right now.Given how much I've been talking about it, you probably know that I'm writing an honors thesis on porn for my Women's Studies bachelor degree. It's going to be fifty pages and the culmination of a year's worth of res...
The Shit Feminists Say About Porn
I'm writing an honors thesis on porn.I've mentioned this before, and I've said a few things about it. You probably have some idea where I'm coming from, especially since I'm a stripper. That gives you some prepackaged ideas about who I am and what I ...
P0rn!!
I got all my porn in the last three days!As I've mentioned before, I'm writing an honors thesis on feminist porn. All my DVDs have arrived finally, and I'm really excited to watch them all. As I do, I'll review them here.The funny thing at this point...
Visible Panty Lines
I wonder why we don't eroticize visible pantylines?Thongs, pantyhose, girdles, and all those other "shapewear" items are meant to give a woman the appearance of complete smoothness under her clothes. I mean, girdles and shapewear also literally force...
No on Proposition 8!
If you live in California (especially if you read this blog), you probably already know that Proposition 8 on the ballot next week is a measure which will add a clause to the state constitution stipulating that marriage can only be between a man and ...
Tuesday Review: Pornography: The Production and Consumption of Inequality
Okay, I know the Tuesday Reviews are kind of sporadic, but I'm a busy woman. I do my best.This week's review isn't exactly a recommendation, more of an exercise in stretching my brain and my opinions on porn. That's important to do, and books like Po...
Juicy Campus: A Cultural Gross-fest of Slut-Bashing
One of my friends just sent me a link to a new "social networking" site called Juicy Campus. According to the home page, "this is the place to spill the juice about all the crazy stuff going on at your campus. It's totally anonymous - no registration...
Porn in the Library
I'm watching Nina Hartley's Guide to Oral Sex in the library.We have a theater with a projector and a large screen that any student can use by hooking up their computer. It's attached to a big, well-lit room that's open and used fo studying 24 hours ...
San Francisco Prop K: Decrim for Prostitution
I know I've written about this before, but the election is getting closer and I want to bring it up again.San Francisco Proposition K is on ballots this year to decriminalize prostitution in the city of San Francisco. The initiative will stop police ...
Body Hair and Shaving
The other night I had a long discussion with a big group of people about the trials and tribulations of body hair.I was at a party in the house where I used to live, a place full of activists, hippies, and misanthropes. I really loved living there, b...
On Being a Bottom
I'm a huge bottom in the bedroom. My best friend calls me "Little Nelly Bottom."Depending on what sexual subculture you spend your time in, this could mean any of a million things. I spend most of my time in the lesbian community, and a little in the...
That's so Hardcore, Man!
There's this weird idea that we have as a culture, that there is a scale of sex acts from "normal" to "waaaaaay kinky and degraded and weird." Like drugs, as though sex comes in different doses depending on the act, and that you can develop a toleran...
Tuesday Review: Bitch Magazine
This is more of a rave than a review, but I figured it counts.If you spend any time in the feminist blog-o-sphere, you already know that Bitch Magazine has been in trouble. They've been holding a donation drive to raise enough money to put out their ...
I Love Tina Fey
So, this has been up for a few days and a lot of you have probably seen it already. If you hadn't, though, here's Tina Fey as Sarah Palin. I don't need to say much else because you can see for yourself how funny and amazing she is.And one more (not s...
