Recent Posts Tagged With 'objectification'

• Ani Difranco - The Story

  Posted on Saturday November 21st, 2009 at 13:21 in music, sexism, objectification

  I would have returned your greetingIf it weren't for the way you were looking at meThis street is not a marketAnd I am not a commodityAnd don't you find it sad that we can't even say hello'Cause you're a manAnd I am a womanAnd the sun is getting lowA...

• What Makes a Woman a Bitch

  Posted on Monday November 9th, 2009 at 22:45 in MEN, self esteem, gender, Stereotypes, objectification

  I want to clarify something about my goal of being more assertive.I know that it's not very nice to tell a potential suitor to fuck off.* There are damn good reasons, though, for no more Ms. Nice Girl. I've written about a few of them over the course...

• A Post of Two Cities

  Posted on Saturday October 3rd, 2009 at 19:26 in MEN, women, san francisco, New York City, sexism, canvassing, objectification

  So, there are lots of things that are different between San Francisco and New York City. There's the weather, the size, the unique NY garbage smell, and SF's general sense of carefree liberalism compared to NY's angsty liberalism. Yes, they are both ...

• Canvassing vs. Stripping Part 2: Objectification

  Posted on Tuesday August 25th, 2009 at 12:41 in work, feminism, Identity, self esteem, gender roles, stripping, sexism, sex work, objectification, sex industry

  I wrote not long ago that stripping and canvassing are very similar. I stand by this; it's mostly the same skill set and similar interactions. I've been surprised to find, though, that there's one major difference. I actually feel a lot more objectif...

• Sexually Harassed

  Posted on Monday August 24th, 2009 at 01:09 in Culture, MEN, women, Rant, san francisco, self esteem, gender roles, body image, Stereotypes, sexism, age, objectification

  Every day I go to work in downtown San Francisco. I get dropped off outside the BART station near my house, ride a train for ten minutes, and walk approximately 100 feet outside another BART station to get to my office. It's a very short trip, especi...

• Self Discipline in Writing, and My Evening

  Posted on Friday August 21st, 2009 at 05:42 in Culture, MEN, work, blogging, Rant, friendship, gender roles, objectification

  I think it is now time to start forcing myself to post every day. I have been very, very terrible about blogging for the last several months, to state the obvious. This isn't because I've had nothing to talk about; my brain continues to churn regardl...

• Stripping and "Hating" and Dating Men

  Posted on Sunday August 2nd, 2009 at 13:18 in relationships, MEN, women, feminism, activism, bisexual, self esteem, gender roles, stripping, Stereotypes, sexism, sex work

  When I first started stripping, I heard from lots of my coworkers and a few of my friends in the industry that the job would make me hate men. They said that when you do sex work, you see the worst in men and so it is inevitable that you start to dis...

• Canvassing vs. Stripping

  Posted on Wednesday July 29th, 2009 at 14:56 in Culture, work, activism, stripping, Stereotypes, sex work, objectification

  To those of you who also work in the sex industry (and some savvy folks who don't), it may not come as a surprise that working as a canvasser is similar in many ways to working as a stripper. That might sound like a stretch, but aside from having to ...

• Future Work

  Posted on Tuesday July 28th, 2009 at 13:11 in life, work, stripping, peep show, sex work, adulthood, objectification

  I wrote not long ago about living at a crossroads right now. Well, one of the major lanes of that road is work: what I'll be doing, where I'll be doing it, and how long I'll be doing it for.I've been working as a stripper for going on two years now. ...

• Watching

  Posted on Sunday May 10th, 2009 at 17:51 in sex, memoir, voyeurism, exhibitionism, objectification

  I love watching people being affectionate and sexual in public. It's really sexy to see two people standing in line and one of them casually reaches out to stroke the other's thigh for thirty seconds as they're paying for food.It's arresting to see t...

• On Being Desired

  Posted on Wednesday May 6th, 2009 at 22:20 in women, youth, self esteem, body image, sexism, age, exhibitionism, objectification

  I try to be confident in my body regardless of what other people think. You know, the old thing where you're supposed to love yourself before you can connect with others. Or whatever.I wear what I want. I take or leave grooming habits (like shaving) ...

• Slut

  Posted on Monday March 23rd, 2009 at 11:54 in sex, women, queer, language, self esteem, gender roles, Stereotypes, sexism, slut, objectification

  I very rarely use the word "slut" to describe myself.There are a lot of people who have decided to reclaim it and try to recast it in a positive light. I'm all for that, and I don't think a word that describes someone who has a lot of casual sex shou...

• Feminism vs. Real Life

  Posted on Wednesday February 25th, 2009 at 21:38 in women, feminism, activism, Consumer, self esteem, gender roles, clothes, stripping, body image, sexism, sex work, objectification

  Courtney at Feministing wrote about the ways her feminist ideals differ from her actual life, and invited others to do the same. I think this is a really good exercise in self-awareness, so I'm going to try to answer her.1. I'm incredibly self consci...

• Working on Valentine's Day

  Posted on Sunday February 15th, 2009 at 21:16 in life, work, self esteem, stripping, exhibitionism, sex work, objectification

  I went to work last night at the club, not sure at all what to expect. It was either going to be tons of lonely guys (and lots of lap dances) or a bunch of couples doing something "exciting" for Valentine's day instead of the usual candy hearts and h...

• Blow Job

  Posted on Sunday February 8th, 2009 at 23:52 in life, MEN, sex, gender roles, masturbation, penis, objectification

  Well, I just gave a blow job. And got nothing in return. Took about thirty seconds.I guess it's a nice affirmation that I'm good at that, but it wasn't very satisfying. Even though I've been fantasizing about sex where I'm used by a man, I do want to...

• The Shit Feminists Say About Porn

  Posted on Sunday November 16th, 2008 at 02:12 in Culture, feminism, Rant, porn, gender roles, sexism, sex work, objectification, third wave, sex industry, sex-positive

  I'm writing an honors thesis on porn.I've mentioned this before, and I've said a few things about it. You probably have some idea where I'm coming from, especially since I'm a stripper. That gives you some prepackaged ideas about who I am and what I ...

• Visible Panty Lines

  Posted on Saturday November 1st, 2008 at 16:49 in Culture, MEN, photos, feminism, Consumer, anatomy, gender roles, clothes, body image, exhibitionism, objectification

  I wonder why we don't eroticize visible pantylines?Thongs, pantyhose, girdles, and all those other "shapewear" items are meant to give a woman the appearance of complete smoothness under her clothes. I mean, girdles and shapewear also literally force...

• Tuesday Review: Pornography: The Production and Consumption of Inequality

  Posted on Tuesday October 28th, 2008 at 15:42 in Culture, review, women, feminism, activism, porn, Consumer, language, gender roles, Stereotypes, sexism, sex work

  Okay, I know the Tuesday Reviews are kind of sporadic, but I'm a busy woman. I do my best.This week's review isn't exactly a recommendation, more of an exercise in stretching my brain and my opinions on porn. That's important to do, and books like Po...

• Blow Jobs, Annihilation, and Growth

  Posted on Thursday October 9th, 2008 at 15:12 in relationships, MEN, youth, self esteem, gender roles, memoir, straight, sexism, penis, boredom, slut, objectification

  When I was younger, I was a blow job queen.My first real boyfriend told me that I sucked his cock on our second date. I don't remember this, but I believe him. I can't actually remember when I started seeing or playing with his dick. I've played with...

• Stripping for Friends

  Posted on Friday October 3rd, 2008 at 22:07 in MEN, work, Identity, friendship, memoir, stripping, exhibitionism, sex work, objectification, sex industry

  This weekend I drank too much and ended up stripping in my room for my friends.I have a pole set up in my room, which I spent too much money on but which I love. It keeps some of the stripping addiction at bay if I can spin around the pole to languor...

• I Love Tina Fey

  Posted on Sunday September 21st, 2008 at 17:12 in Culture, women, feminism, gender roles, Stereotypes, objectification

  So, this has been up for a few days and a lot of you have probably seen it already. If you hadn't, though, here's Tina Fey as Sarah Palin. I don't need to say much else because you can see for yourself how funny and amazing she is.And one more (not s...

• Jerk It to Synthetic Pubes

  Posted on Friday September 19th, 2008 at 21:03 in women, porn, anatomy, masturbation, objectification

  I found this really cool video at Synthetic Pubes. He posts beautiful pictures of naked ladies which never fail to arouse both sexually and aesthetically. I definitely appreciate tasteful things which turn me on. The song is Jerk It by Thunderheis...

• Coming Out to My Parents

  Posted on Sunday September 14th, 2008 at 13:59 in Parents, Identity, stripping, age, sex work, objectification

  I came out to my dad about being a stripper on Father's Day.Aren't I such a good kid?I'd already been dancing for nine months at school, but I hadn't felt ready to tell my parents right when I started.I hate lying to them. The lie I told them about m...