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I’m 35 years young and based in the UK. As well as blogging, doing a few part-time jobs and being a bit of a loony, I’m a freelance writer who writes predominantly on queer-related topics.
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Simplicity….
I’ve always been greedy. I have always placed quantity over quality, in all things. My CD collection is vast, hundreds of titles yet I only really seem to play a small percentage of those. It’s all about numbers, having more than I ...
Bringing It Home To Me
I ventured out to our local gay pride event last weekend. I have actively avoided going to Reading Pride because it always felt a little close to home, on so many levels. I’ve been to a couple of other prides this year and really enjoyed my...
Far-right group to protest at local pride event
Far-right group the National Front are to be allowed to ‘peacefully’ protest at this year’s Reading Pride parade and festival. Their demonstration has been given the go ahead by local police in a move which has angered and divided t...
Smoking is killing LGBT’s in large numbers….
A study soon to come out in the United States shows that the percentage of smokers among gay men and lesbians is far higher than that of their heterosexual counterparts. 37% of lesbians in the United States light up as compared to 18% of straight w...
I went to a gay bar…
Last night, I plucked up the courage and went on my own into a gay pub and I cannot tell you how scared I was, well maybe you know. I had been circling the establishment for days, walking down to it then past it then round again and past it and if ...
Come out come out…
I came out today to my two closest straight friends and they took it in their stride and of course as is so often the case, they already knew. So yeah, we were talking about something or other and one of them happened to mentioned someone who looked ...
Pride…
Today, I ventured out to my first Pride event. Oxford Pride. It was a wet and dreary day and I think this reflected on the amount of people who turned up. Still, it was well worth going if only to see a man wearing make-up and wearing white rugby...
The Times of Harvey Milk (documentary)
“If a bullet should enter my brain, let that bullet destroy every closet door.” Harvey Milk In preparation for the dvd release of Milk starring Sean Penn, I sat down and watched the Oscar-winning documentary The Times of Harvey Milk, narr...
The Power of Friendship….
Wikipedia lists friendship as “a co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more people. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection and respect along with a degree of renderin...
Kelly McGillis comes out as lesbian…
Kelly McGillis has ended speculation about her sexuality by coming out as a lesbian. The Top Gun actress told website shewire that she was single and definitely looking for a woman. Speaking to shewire’s Girl Rock video blog, Kelly said: ̶...
Strange…
Today started off like any other. It was warm and sunny outside. A friend had called up to ask if he could come over and while he was setting off, I nipped in the bath and generally spruced myself up. I knew he was going to be there shortly, so bo...
Realisations….
It’s been a strange old day if the truth be known. I got angry because I was bored. I didn’t want to walk into town because I wanted to save the bus fare for ciggies then acted out because it seemed like such a long trek so I threw a ...
Gavin Alker walks free from court
Gavin Alker, one of the chief protagonists in the murder trial of openly gay Liverpool teenager Michael Causer, walked free from court today cleared of both murder or manslaughter charges. I, like many, felt that his involvement in this terrible crim...
The grass is greener…
I’m sure we’ve all heard the saying “the grass is greener on the other side of the fence” and I’m sure most, if not all of us, have believed that at some point in our lives. I know I have. For years, I harboured the fant...
New vistas…
Apologies for not being around all that much recently. I discovered, much to my own shock and horror, that I have a level of musical ability. A friend of mine remarked a few weeks back that I ‘played’ my acoustic guitar like a bass, usi...
One lump or two?
Quite a few people now either know I’m a poofter or heavily suspect it. When going to buy coffee the other day I bumped into someone I knew (who knows about me) who was also looking to get themselves a cup so we headed over to the nearest Cos...
What is that white stuff?
I’ve just read what could quite possibly be the funniest customer complaint email EVER. You can read it in its full glory here. You’ll have to keep scrolling up to click to see each and every image which is referenced by the text but ...
Madness!
Today I thought I was going mad. I went along to Google and typed in a regular link and what came back? A flag below the address which said This Site May Harm Your Computer. I looked down the page and it said this next to every web address ther...
Words don’t come easy…
Words. Letters added together to form clumps of meaning. When I was questioning whether I might be bisexual I found not hostility exactly but noticeable resistance from some people who identified as gay. Some people since then have quite simply...
Happy Birthday Peter
You may be wondering, Peter who? I’m talking of none other than Peter Tatchell, tireless gay and human rights campaigner extraordinaire. It’s his birthday today, I shalln’t say how old though if you’re interested you could alw...
Days go by…
Today I went into town to see a friend and we encountered one of the drunkest guys we’ve ever seen. I don’t know how he was able to stand let alone manage (almost incoherently at times) to string a sentence together. He was short and ...
Gay Stereotypes
Is it true that lesbians love nothing better than a spot of DIY, attacking walls with spirit levels to affix shelves while espying the latest flat-packed purchase with relish as they set to work with the requisite amount of spanners, drill bits, wren...
Is this love or confusion?
I came out to my Mum again today, probably the 10th or so time I’ve had to do this. She seems to think that if I don’t mention it for a while that it’s gone away but it’s never going to go away. I told her that I’ve pu...
Chillin’ and willin’
I’m sitting here just chillin’ really. I’m making peace with myself, I think I’m finally understanding who and what I am. Out today, I noticed loads of women and could appreciate their beauty but in truth, I couldn’t...
It’s only natural…
I was looking at the graphic on Mr Fabulous‘ blog which says ‘Gay by Nature - Absolutely Fabulous By Choice‘ and also thinking on an article I saw at Queerlife.co.za today which you can read here. I really don’t like hearing a...
It’s beyond belief
I’ve been thinking about my last post and wondering why billions of people have a belief in something even if it’s simply reading the stars in the paper each day yet I have no sense whatsoever of anything supernatural in origin. Sure, I...
It’s a shame
I’ve been watching the evolving arguments relating to the Pope speaking out against homosexuality. Why aren’t people able to comprehend that Catholicism (and Christianity to a larger extent) will always be against homosexuality, well homo...
