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Seven Secrets to a Successful Divorce-what every woman needs to know
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Discover the secrets to a successful divorce for women. Author Christina Rowe shares the survival skills you need to have a positive divorce outcome!
- Added on: Mar 30th, 2007
- Country: United States
- Language: English
- Author: Christina Rowe
- Listed in: Relationships Moms
- Tags: divorce separation divorce advice divorce lawyer divorce information mother's rights
Recent Posts
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An inspiring song for single moms...I received an email this evening from a singer Kevin Burdick. Here is what he wrote: "I’ve a special place in my heart for how difficult it is to be a single mom. One of my songs off of my 2nd Album was called â€...
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I have some great news. SWWAN (Single Working Women's Affiliate Network) is holding a series of online workshops from August 2- August 8th and my readers are invited to attend for free!You won't want to miss "Secrets You Wish Your Mom Told You". 8 ...
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Has Your Divorce Made You Fat?...Divorce is one of the most painful life experiences you can encounter, so it is no wonder that people gain weight after a divorce. If you have used food for comfort in the past, you are at high risk for overeating dur...
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Do Separate Bank Accounts Lead to Separation? Some couples decide to keep their finances separated after they marry. They maintain separate bank accounts and even divide the bills up each month, each contributing their share of the household expenses...
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Getting Back Together with an Abuser.. I just read on people.com that singer Rihanna and Chris Brown are back together after he was arrested several weeks ago for allegedly beating and threatening her. How sad. It makes me think about all of the marr...
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What Do People Really Think About Your Divorce? With the divorce rate so high, most people know someone who is divorced. In this day and age, we would think that the old stigmas of the past about divorce are gone. But do people secretly judge you for...
Comments & Reviews
This blog is currently rated a 4.82 out of a possible 5 based on 11 comments.
Chandi
Hey,
I blog about divorce too. I just left a comment on your site. Congrats! Nice site!
Looks like you've put a lot of time into it. I am so worn down sometimes by the divorce process that I cannot get to writing posts. I would love to get your feedback on my site:
http://italiandreams.wordpress.com
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Christina Rowe
Hi Mary Beth,
Wow, I did not know that the government could take collected child support arrears to support their collection programs. I did know that if you have recieved public assistance, then they can remiburse themselves with the collected child support.
I am defintely going to look into this and find out more information. Please let me know what you come up with.
Thanks also for all of your nice comments:)
Christina
Mary Beth
Hi Christina. Thanks for replying to me, and yes you are right about arrears owed, they are supposed to be owed to the custodial parent. However in my case when my child did became emancipated (which is my oldest child) In the recent past of June, I received a letter from the State saying all this back child support money and it stated the amount which has been lowered from itâ??s original $17,625.80 has now been lowered to $14,279.05 b/c the State did indeed collect my back child support money all without a notice to me first. When I first opened this very bad piece of mail, you can imagine how horrified I was to see this in black and white. Then it stated you have the right to an Appeal, which of course I am appealing....ugh and what a headache this is to me now....trying to find a lawyer who will actually want to take my case....but I am trying....I have been working as a legal secretary for the last seven years and previously b/f the firm I work at now I was working at a Financial firm. I was in college when my kids were babies/toddlers and just b/c I collecting â??someâ?? assistance way back a long long time ago, the State now believes that all this significant back child support money of $17,625.80 is all owed to Them and â??Oâ?? zero amount is owed to me the custodial parent. Keep in mind the accrual time of my child support was All While I Was Working and she was indeed a small child. But How In The World Can the State Come Back From The Dead and Collect This!!! I was told that is why they deliberately sit on your case and wait for the child to become 18 yr. , to make it look good they may wait unit 19 yrs. or 20 yrs. old, just so it doesnâ??t look obvious. They even do this to the custodial parent even if she or he Never Ever collected a dime of public assistance. There is another program out there called the Amnesty Program, and people especially mothers will THINK this is a great program when really, what they are doing is taking their driving license away, the pass ports, bench warrants for their arrest, liens on property like you were saying, however when they get a bunch of deadbeats that are in significant arrears NONE of this money is being directed to the families, it is all going back into the System!!!! and Why because they claim itâ??s to Support the â??Amnesty Programâ?? I did my homework on this one and I researched and it is happening in every single state. Earlier I was like you I thought it was just b/c they; domestic relation enforcement unit were lazy.....but my hunch is that all Women are going to be in the Shock of Their Life when their child reaches of Age....Unfortunately.....it just hasnâ??t been to these women yet.....and Iâ??m afraid it will.....as matter of fact I know it will....And This Does Indeed Make Me Mad! And someone needs to blow the whistle on this! I hope to God it doesnâ??t happen to you Christina.....and hopefully the laws will change by then....I am working hard on this. Thank you so much for your help and letting me vent a little...I love your blog it is so pretty and I can tell you are very informative with your knowledge on this matter....any feedback from you would greatly be appreciated. Thanks Christina.
Christina Rowe
Hi Mary Beth,
The state cannot hold child support arrears that is owed to a custodial parent just because the child has reached 18 years old.
The problem with these government agencies is that they are overwhelmed with many cases and the old adage "out of site, out of mind" applies. If you are not actively calling them and getting on their case weekly, your case can go unnoticed.
The key is to be a pest and stay in contact with the case worker assigned to your case. Ask them to search bank account records, garnish wages and even put liens on any property you may find that your ex owns.
Although it takes energy and time, if you are proactive and give the state agency any information you may have about your ex, you have a better chance of collecting the child support that is owed.
I hope this helpes. Let me know if you have any other questions:)
Christina
Mary Beth
I like what you have to say...and you are right you probably do have to do some of your own homework....but the trouble I keep finding with my matter is, once the child reaches 18 yrs. of age and you are still owed a significant amount in child support arrears, what happens is the State and these “Enforcement Agencies” are deliberately procrastinating enforcement during the accrual time when the child is still a minor. That’s b/c it is advantageous for the State to “sit on a case” and let the deadbeat get into significant arrears and do nothing until the child is of age so the State can then retain all of your back child support money....of course the State will say it’s to support “these programs” instead of redirecting the money to the family or mother and/or father that is owed. But that is okay there are Laws to protect us in this matter if the State ever happens to do this to the custodial parent. Any of your views would be helpful. Anyone else out there with this problem? Please write back...and hopefully we can be guided to help.
Mary Beth
I like what you have to say...and you are right you probably do have to do some of your own homework....but the trouble I keep finding with my matter is, once the child reaches 18 yrs. of age and you are still owed a significant amount in child support arrears, what happens is the State and these “Enforcement Agencies” are deliberately procrastinating enforcement during the accrual time when the child is still a minor. That’s b/c it is advantageous for the State to “sit on a case” and let the deadbeat get into significant arrears and do nothing until the child is of age so the State can then retain all of your back child support money....of course the State will say it’s to support “these programs” instead of redirecting the money to the family or mother and/or father that is owed. But that is okay there are Laws to protect us in this matter if the State ever happens to do this to the custodial parent. Any of your views would be helpful. Anyone else out there with this problem? Please write back...and hopefully we can be guided to help.
DiamondVVV1
Some very interesting articles here -- nice blog!
patCH longueuil
I can surely use some of the tips on your blog... Interesting!!!
This blog and her book should probably be read by every woman who is contemplating divorce. It is well written and thoughtfully conceived.
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