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Blind Date?
As I've mentioned, I started online dating back in the dark ages, when very few people had their pictures posted. Not only didn't people have their pictures posted, but most of us didn't have a digital version of ourselves to send as an attachment ...
The Smart Woman\'s Guide To Online Dating
I've already written about my new ebook and the fact that I brought it to market a little later than I'd planned. But I did finally get all the changes I wanted to make done and on Friday night popped it into the online store on Scribd. I didn't bl...
How-To Find A Great F*Buddy (it ain\'t easy), Part 2
To be completely honest, it took a while before I turned to the internet. Even though I'd been using online dating sites for years, the thought of using an online dating site to find a fuckbuddy kinda freaked me out at first. It seemed, IDK, just...
Sharing What I Know
First, I just gotta share this because somehow it's kind of relavent (and oh so funny). I just finished reading a hysterical post over at How Very Lucky To Be A Girl (another new-ish blog I just found, recently). The author's friend was invited t...
Starting Over, Again (for the umpteenth time)
So the plan is that I'm going to start dating again. That's the plan. But I haven't gotten going yet. Why? Well, for starters, I need new pictures. My last "new pics" are about a year old and I'm really strict about that. Truth is, I've put o...
Don\'t Forget
Sorry guys, this is one of my non-post posts. There are just so many things going on, so many moving pieces, I want to make sure everyone is in the loop. First off, today is the last day of the Who Has the Best Online Dating Profile Contest (click ...
More Fun with Audience Participation
As I mentioned earlier in the week, I feel like I'm ready to return to dating again. So now what? Well, step one is for me to unhide my online profile(s). I'll probably activate my profiles on nerve and OkCupid. I took a few minutes (really, ju...
Have We Met?
Meet - verb: to come upon; come into the presence of; encounter I do a lot of online dating. This isn't a new thing for me. I'm an online dating veteran, having first tried it out in the late 90s back when very few people posted pictures of thems...
And You Are It
I have no idea what made me think of this... A few years ago I met this guy (online). We had a pretty great first date. I thought he was smart and funny and cute - all the good stuff. And he seemed really into me. Almost too much. Which cau...
Everyone Deserves Better
The other day my dear friend Singlegal wrote a post that included a description of a date she had, about a year ago: "About a year ago, I was sitting in my car and listening to a guy I was “dating” talk about how he’s never been to the dentist....
Red Light, Green Light - 7 Signs that Say a Woman IS Looking to Hook Up
A couple of weeks ago, before I got this stupid flu thing, I was out drinking with some friends. One of them was a straight guy friend who is completely clueless about women and dating, which I think is kind of charming, in a weird way. But I'm s...
I Can Admit When I\'m Wrong
I admit it. There's a pretty good chance that I've been wrong. For a while. That I've been making some bad decisions. Over and over. Gee, what a surprise. Back when I was saying that it didn't matter that so many men lied on their online prof...
Dateable Redux
Humor me for a moment: please click here Seinfeld: "Elaine, what percentage of people would you say are good-looking?" Julia Louis-Dreyfus: "Twenty-five percent?" Seinfeld: "Twenty-five percent?" Louis-Dreyfus: "Um-hmm." Seinfeld: "No way! It's...
Money, Money, Money + an Update or Two
I'm front-loading this post with apologies galore. I'm totally ignoring my editorial calendar again. I'm just not in the mood for a list post. I promise to return to regularly scheduled programming sometime soon. Now, before I get to the topic at...
No Match
As I mentioned last week, I decided it was time to give my OkCupid and nerve profiles a rest. At least for a little while. In the meantime, I'm supposed to be making more of an effort to go out and meet new people (hard when you're not feeling we...
Sparks
This week we have a post from an anonymous contributor. On that note, if any of my male readers out there would like to send me a story for the Sunday feature, I'd be thrilled. You can stay anonymous, or I can credit you for the post with a link to...
Time to Change
I've been switching back and forth, for the past few months, between two online dating services: OkCupid and nerve.com. Sometimes using them simultaneously and sometimes just one or the other. I like them both (each for different reasons, which I...
3 Guys Online: A Study
Like so many other people in the US, I'm "away" this weekend. So no dates for me (and no, I don't have anything scheduled with Mr. Nicepost for next week and yes, this makes me a little anxious). I'm still an active online dater. Here's a story o...
My Nondate
Last night I had a nondate. A couple of weeks ago I was supposed to meet this guy for drinks, and he emailed early in the day saying he was still interested in meeting me but had had a couple of promising dates with a new girl and so was thinking tha...
5 Things A Guy Shouldn't Put in His Online Profile (Taken from Real Personal Ads )
I've been saving these up, collecting them, over time. Each was taken, verbatim from some guy's profile (no, I'm not going to say which service). I chose these specific statements because they represent classic errors that I see all the time. A...
He's Just Not That Into Me & I'm Kinda Bummed
So I had that first date on Tuesday night. The one that was really short. He still hasn't gotten in contact with me. I haven't gotten in contact with him, either. And I have no intention of doing so. I'm 100% positive that, in this case, it w...
And It Was Good
So last night's date was full of surprises. Most of them good. He's SO an old picture guy. He's the same weight, but his hair is significantly more gray and a totally different style. I think gray hair can be totally hot, btw. In fact, I thin...
Stuff I Learned Cruising For Chicks
So last week I spent some time cruising for chicks. And let me tell you, that was funny. Women can be just as silly as men, and in some ways WAY sillier. I think the thing that surprised me the most was just how many women were overtly looking fo...
He's Just Not That Into Me
The weekend before last I had a really great 1st date. And then hours later the guy left town for work. We'd been in touch while he was away, exchanged a simple - that was fun, let's get together again email volley. And now he's back. Or rather, ...
Learning to Read
Without giving too much away, Lostplum and I have been working (with varying levels of diligence) on a couple of new projects together. One of them is Cupcakes & Cupid (Hey, single New Yorkers, have you gotten your tickets yet? Guys, we haven...
And So I Went to the Date Naked
Saturday was a busy day for me. I woke up and did some yoga (I'm currently practicing at home. I'm still recovering/regaining my strength from my injury this winter.) and then did a couple of hours of work. Then I took a few minutes to call a n...
Online Dating: A Follow Up (2 Minutes in the Cereal Aisle)
Online dating. Everywhere I look there seems to be people talking and writing about online dating (I'm not sure if that's a good or bad omen for Cupcakes & Cupid. Time will tell.). Last week Jezebel questioned whether there was still a stigma...
Good Grief
It can't just be me. There must be something in the atmosphere. Last night I got a three paragraph ranting email from a guy I've never met. It was beyond bizarre. And the funniest bit is that I'm sure he's telling his friends (if he has any) abou...
Cheating
No, not that kind of cheating. I'm cheating, as in not really doing my work, with today's post. It's Friday which usually means a list. But I'm still sleep deprived and can't make my brain work so good. So instead of writing a crappy list I w...
Cupcakes & Cupid
Some of you may have noticed a new little widget on the right side of the page called Cupcakes & Cupid. And if you're really observant you might have even picked up on the fact that there's now a page option up there on my main menu called Cupc...
