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Taking the Time to Heal in Couples Counseling
This is a day and age of the “quick fix.” People want results yesterday. The idea of healing is becoming harder to comprehend because healing by its very nature is progressive - it takes t...
Marriage Counseling, when Willingness Counts
“More couples get divorced within the first 2 to 3 years of marriage than at any subsequent interval; most of their undoing may stem from a failure to undo their complicities.” (Sarnoff, ...
Coming to Terms with your Partner Through Couples Counseling
Marriage counseling isn’t a magic solution. It will not fix a broken marriage. It can help mend longstanding wounds and bridge gaps. There are times when a couples counselor will advise the coup...
Codenpendency in Marriage
Terrence was at his wit’s end. He was currently working two jobs to keep their family afloat. Sharon had quit her job a year before and still hadn’t found another one. She had found a nice...
Syncing Up with your Partner through Marriage Counseling
When Barb and Damian married, they knew their schedule would be a challenge but they figured they would manage it. Barb is an emergency room nurse who works evening and Damian started his own law prac...
Letting Love Breathe Through Couple’s Counseling
Margot had a difficult childhood by anyone’s standards: her father had left her family when she was 4 years old and her mother died 3 years later. Margot was sent to live with her grandfather, w...
Is it Time for a Marriage Counselor?
All marriages have their ups and downs, as do all relationships. Ebbs and flows are a natural part of human connectedness. So how do you know when you’ve moved beyond those commons problems to o...
Learning to Expand your Family with Counseling
Mark never dreamed of the day his strong, independent mother would need his help as well as housing. He also didn’t envision this happening within 2 years of his marriage to Marie. When the coup...
Are You Standing in the Way of Therapy?
Many people have many different reasons for not attending couples counseling. It ranges from the practical to the moral. Either “I don’t have time or money for it” or “I don...
Family Counseling - Allowing New Members In
Integrating two different families is rarely an easy thing. During these times, our need to be flexible is of the utmost importance. Divorce rates remain high and families need to have a certain porou...
Managing Time and Counseling
It’s not always easy to manage the time for the work that marriage counseling often entails. Such was the case of Jorge and Marie. Both had started a business that was working in the red for the...
Uncovering the Truth in Counseling
When Marta and Graham entered couple’s counseling, they both felt excited about it, which isn’t always the most typical response! But both were open-minded, liberal people who looked forwa...
The Art of Making Time for Counseling
A common refrain heard from many couples who aren’t attending marriage counseling is, “We don’t have the time” or “We’re planning on it at some point, but not now.&...
Freud and your Marriage
Psychoanalytic theory was first developed by Sigmund Freud and later expounded upon by Carl Jung, Erik Erikson and a host of others. The idea that propels psychoanalytic theory is that the unconscious...
When Two Becomes Three
Farber and Lee had planned on having children ever since they were high school sweethearts. They had picked out a name for the their first child shortly out of college. When they got married and Lee b...
Couples Counseling and Finances - How to Share
Deciding to pursue marriage counseling is not an easy choice. Many factors come into play, one of which can be expense. Finances can be one of the most “hot” topics of a marriage. already ...
Couples Counseling and Adjusting the Dream
Tabitha felt like she had been searching for Mr. Right her whole life, she told the couples counselor. When Doug came into the picture, he fit all of her internal qualifications: he was handsome, well...
Transference and Marriage Counseling
You may have heard the term “transference” before but weren’t entirely sure of the meaning: Transference: a phenomenon where patients undergoing clinical therapy begin to transfer th...
Choosing the Right Kind of Therapy for You and Your Partner
Marriage counseling can often pave the way for individual counseling. There are times a couple’s counselor feels it more appropriate for one or both individuals to enter counseling privately. Th...
Treatment before Treatment
Larry was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder (often called manic depression) when he was 19 years old. Zeke had known this about Larry and went through many “roller coaster rides” with Larry...
Which Couples Counselor is Right for You?
Choosing a counselor can be a difficult process, especially when it comes to couples counseling where two people’s tastes and views need to be considered. When a couple are at odds with one anot...
May - December Marriage Dilemmas
Caroline is a shy, retreating woman in her 3rd year at law school. She met her husband, 18 years her senior, while looking for an internship position. While she didn’t get the position she desir...
Crosstalking and Therapy
Cross talking is a common occurrence with couples, especially those that are enmeshed or argumentative. Ted and Sally were suffering from serious cross talk, hence their need for marriage counseling. ...
Cyber Trouble And Couple’s Counseling
Online romances are common occurrences in this day and age and often a married individual can rationalize its existence without thinking its technically an affair. This was the case with Frank and Mel...
Counseling in the Later Years
When Marge and Lee entered marriage counseling, both were several years into retirement. They had over 25 years of marriage under their belt. Both had stated openly that they had rarely if ever fought...
Can Couples Counseling be Enjoyable?
One of the areas of resistance for many individuals as well as couples when entering counseling is the concern that it will be drudgery. One will often paint an internal picture of painful, arduous wo...
Marriage Counseling and Managing Grief
Marla, during her first couple’s counseling session: When Fred’s dad died, he was inconsolable. He died suddenly so Fred obviously had no time to prepare. I tried to be supportive as long ...
Marriage Counseling and Letting go of the Past
On a philosophical level, releasing the past and moving forward can be a challenge for any individual or couple. The need to hold on to the past provides us with fodder, whether positive or negative, ...
Marriage Counseling - Can one Person Carry it?
Diane and Pierre seemingly had it all. Pierre was a highly successful surgeon and Diane a prominent nurse known for her extensive charity work. When the two married, everyone thought it was a perfect ...
Counseling after an Affair
Marla and Jake are in a strange position. They’re seeking couples counseling after an affair took place. The interesting aspect? The affair was between the two of them. Jake had just finalized h...