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Angst and philosophy of a superficially conventional man who has a secret life in which he succumbs to his greatest weakness: women! Lust, love and poor judgement combine to create a cocktail of emotion, twisted morality and humour. This is a tale of sex
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Wrath of the Would-be Bridesmaid
I mentioned in a comment to the Hell Hath No Fury post that there was no recurrence of W telling the kids that I didn't want them and that I was leaving to be with another woman.That said, she perpetuated a softer version of her story for a while bef...
Lost and Alone
W and I spent the day talking. Nothing was resolved but it was part of a necessary process. W needed to learn about the affair, to understand what had happened, to get her perspective back. It was the beginning of a long journey.Afterwards, I did wha...
Mistress Does Ironing
You will recall that in the previous post I mentioned that I retrieved some clothing from the laundry basket before making my escape from the marital home.The following day I washed the very same clothes in S's washing machine.She very kindly offered...
Should I Confess to the Affair? (Part 2)
Observant readers will note that the last time I wrote about this topic I included "Part 1" in the title, thereby implying that there would be a follow up post.And here it is. Kind of.Before I go any further, I would like to re-emphasise the core mes...
A Sensible Night Out
This entry follows on from the "Moving On" post and is about the period during which W and I were rebuilding our marriage following my confession. By this time, S had moved to another part of the country to live with her new boyfriend and I was no lo...
Have You Stopped Beating Your Wife?
I haven't blogged much about the immediate aftermath of my confession to W about the affair.The main reason for this is that, unsurprisingly, it was a particularly intense and stressful time. It has taken me five years and a lot of blogging to calm d...
Post-Orgasmic Disgust
After the confession, W and I did not have sex for around 4 months.When we finally did start having sex again, some of her behaviour surprised me.The first observation I would make is that there was a kind of post-affair honeymoon period. That is to ...
Moving On
This post follows on from the Toys and Mind Warfare posts.S and I saw each other regularly through the summer of 2003. Often, we would meet up at a pub which was conveniently on the route home for both of us after work. We would then drive together i...
Pushed to the Edge
After I confessed to the affair with S, W and I continued to attend counselling for a further six months.It was a very tough time for both of us. It became clear that W had stored up resentment for years which she now began to release in the form of ...
Behind Closed Doors
You know that couple across the street? You know, the ones who seem so sorted and happy in their marriage. Mr and Mrs Perfect-Pants. Perfect house, perfect kids, boat on the lake, charity work and school governors...Shall I let you into a secret?Mmmm...
Out of the Fridge into the Frying Pan
Recently, I caught myself cautioning Cate against the risks of comparing me to her husband.It is a dangerous road to go down because it is all too easy to fall into a negative mindset in which you do down your spouse and elevate your lover to lofty h...
My Wife's Secret - Part 3
So, unbeknown to me, here is what had been happening...During the early years of our marriage W had a growth in her vagina which meant that penetrative sex was painful for her. This is why she avoided sex as much as possible.Apparently, she had belie...
My Wife's Secret - Part 2
Warning: Although I would like to think that on occasions this blog is mildly erotic, the following post certainly isn't. It contains references to medical conditions and procedures which men may find distressing. Squeamish chaps may wish to go and c...
My Wife's Secret - Part 1
During the early years of my marriage, I would often fear that W did not enjoy sex or, at the very least, that she found sex with me to be distasteful.During sex I enjoy eye contact and kissing. W appeared to dislike both. She would often look away a...
A Letter to S
Five months after the confession, I was tidying up in the bedroom at home when I came across a hand written letter. Inspecting it, I realised that it was written by W and addressed to S, presumably at a time when she believed I was going to leave. ...
Which came first: Gifts for Sex… or Sex for Gifts?
One of the consequences of telling W about the affair was that she insisted that I gave her all the same things that I had given S. I was marched down to the shops and made to buy her jewellery, perfume and clothes: all things which, whilst subjec...
