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Angst and philosophy of a superficially conventional man who has a secret life in which he succumbs to his greatest weakness: women! Lust, love and poor judgement combine to create a cocktail of emotion, twisted morality and humour. This is a tale of sex
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Summer Holidays with your Spouse and Lover
A new web site called Our Secret Affair set up by a married couple (of the "not to each other" variety) caught my attention recently.The thing which specifically caught my eye was their claim to have taken their relationship through an "integration s...
The Joy of Sex Power Tools
Following my recent public flogging at the hands of a gorgeous, blue-eyed blonde I will confess that I felt slightly emasculated. On my way home from work on Tuesday the earlier euphoria was fading and I knew my sense of manhood was taking a hit. I c...
Correction
Erm...It seems that I may have made an mistake in my previous post, which I now need to correct.Apparently there was a procedural error and certain key facts were not verified before publication. It appears that Cate is NOT a dude after all.She is, i...
The Truth
The latest post over in Cateland contains a version of events which I cannot endorse.I was very much hoping that I would not have to reveal the real truth. However, Cate has left me with no choice. I have been offered huge sums by the British tabloid...
Double Jeapardy
Here in the northern hemisphere psychologists have determined that Monday January 19th was the most depressing day of the year. I was made aware of this fact courtesy of the BBC as I got dressed to go to work that very day.It is to do with the cold ...
Pleasure-Pain Theory
A couple of years ago there was an advertising campaign here in the UK in which people appeared to enjoy near-orgasmic experiences whilst consuming a yoghurt related product.Each time an attractive lady tucked into a tasty, creamy carton of healthy g...
Compartmentalisation
Years ago, when W and I were in couples' counselling following my first affair, I remember her venting her outrage that I had maintained such normality at home whilst conducting a parallel life.She felt that I must have been acting when I was with he...
A New Friendship
I spoke with Cate on the phone today.It was a good conversation. Quality communication. We were able to say a lot before the emotion finally choked us.I won't say that I wanted our affair to end. I didn't. But I will say that I understand why she had...
Mixing Pleasure with Pleasure
We British are not famed for our cuisine but we should be.Or at least we should be famed for our imported culinary triumphs. There are those who say that originality is to be applauded but if you ask me it is more important to recognise the best that...
Mystery Shopper
A man in a business suit queued up at the supermarket checkout.As he unloaded his chosen items he wondered what a casual observer might think of the contents of his shopping basket:minty-fresh chewing gum;strawberries;cans of pre-mixed gin and tonic;...
Being Dumped
Being dumped when you have to suffer the pain and frustration alone and in silence is bad enough. Being dumped by email sucks. Being dumped when you don't really understand why leads to paranoia. Being dumped when you are worried about the person ...
If you go down to the woods today...
Here are a few tips if you decide to have sex in the woods.(1) Take insect repellent. Cate and I didn't and we are now covered in bites! Ouch!(2) When you think you have found a suitable spot you might want to spend some time making sure you really a...
Medical Attention Required
Ugh!I have man flu.I feel terrible. I have had two paracetamol, two aspirin, two ibuprofen and a can of lager.My body no longer seems to be regulating my temperature properly. I am sweating, yet I feel cold. My head hurts.Now, here's the thing: despi...
Pecan Pie
I received a parcel at work this week.It was from Cate.It contained a plastic fork...... and pecan pie!Mmmmm!!!!My favourite! I cannot resist pecan pie. I ate it all immediately. It tasted divine.Thanks babe! You're incredible.T xxP.S. I only felt sl...
High Maintenance
"You like it when women are high maintenance, don't you?"This question was put to me by Cate, a couple of weeks ago. It wasn't a question I had really thought about before. However, I immediately knew she was right.I do like drama.I hate it too. It c...
I Hate My Blog
In my experience, having an affair is almost like being schizophrenic. You inhabit two different worlds in which you expose and exercise two different sets of emotions. Switching between these worlds can take its toll and sometimes, depending upon th...
Cate
Today, I want to scoop Cate up in my arms.I want to spin her around, throw her up in the air and catch her.I want to hold her tight and breathe in her scent.I want to touch her, taste her and devour her.Cate is fabulous. She makes me happy. She make...
HNT
Phwoar!Cate thinks she may be developing exhibitionist tendencies.Wahey!TLazy Philosopher writes about the angst and philosophy of a superficially conventional man who has a secret life in which he succumbs to his greatest weakness: women!...
Smut Meme
Cate emailed me today and demanded that I provide her with my answers to the Smut Meme which appeared on Cake’s blog.Cake seems to have no shame when it comes to stealing other people’s material (I never forget!) and the Smut Meme has been no exc...
Come back anguish, all is forgiven!
I am happy.I feel stable.I am not overwhelmed by sadness over some lost relationship. I am not wrestling with angst brought on by my wife's indifference. I don't feel torn by life's competing responsibilities.In fact, I am struggling to find anything...
Well Worth the Wait
I went to the railway station to meet Cate.Having parked my car, I decided to go and meet her on the platform. As I walked, a railway employee stopped me and asked me if I had a ticket."No, I'm waiting to meet someone," I replied."That's ok sir, plea...
Mood Music
From time to time I have noticed other bloggers posting music videos.You know the kind of thing.* clears throat and adopts whiny voice *"My lover has [dumped me/makes me feel great/lives in my heart forever... (delete as applicable)] and this song il...
Thinking Blogger Award
Thanks to DamagedNoMore for bestowing a Thinking Blogger Award upon me.I don't normally go in for these memes but I quite like this one so I have decided to join in the fun.My 5 awards are as follows...1. Bittersweet Me is prolific in her posting (32...
Sex Texts and Decorum
I find the dynamics in the early stages of a new relationship to be absolutely fascinating. Such is my obsession with psychology and human behaviour that sometimes I will catch myself mentally “stepping out” of a situation and “observing” mys...
I love my blog
Warning: this post contains excruciatingly self-satisfied triumphalism that may cause nausea. I feel very good about the blog just at the moment. It has been a wonderful thing for me. I am feeling very pleased with myself indeed! Why? Well...
