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The Philosophy of Infidelity
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Angst and philosophy of a superficially conventional man who has a secret life in which he succumbs to his greatest weakness: women! Lust, love and poor judgement combine to create a cocktail of emotion, twisted morality and humour. This is a tale of sex
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The Truth
The latest post over in Cateland contains a version of events which I cannot endorse.I was very much hoping that I would not have to reveal the real truth. However, Cate has left me with no choice. I have been offered huge sums by the British tabloid...
Pleasure-Pain Theory
A couple of years ago there was an advertising campaign here in the UK in which people appeared to enjoy near-orgasmic experiences whilst consuming a yoghurt related product.Each time an attractive lady tucked into a tasty, creamy carton of healthy g...
A New Friendship
I spoke with Cate on the phone today.It was a good conversation. Quality communication. We were able to say a lot before the emotion finally choked us.I won't say that I wanted our affair to end. I didn't. But I will say that I understand why she had...
The Final Communication
A month later, S called time via an email.This was the gist of it:T,It is over. You have let me down again. I am not going to let you humiliate me any more.I will not let you hurt me. I am a strong person and I am determined to make the most of my li...
Being Dumped
Being dumped when you have to suffer the pain and frustration alone and in silence is bad enough. Being dumped by email sucks. Being dumped when you don't really understand why leads to paranoia. Being dumped when you are worried about the person ...
The Lowest Night of My Life
When it came to ending my affair with S, I decided to do it by phone. This, I reasoned, was better than S's own favoured mode of communication for dumping me: the text message. I wasn't brave enough for a face to face meeting, not least because I sus...
Was it Worth the Pain?
Ms. X asked me if the pain of my love affair with S was worth it. After all, as she put it, it has taken me a long time and a fairly substantial blog to recover.Good question.The answer is that I think it was worth it up to a certain point in the rel...
Dumped by Text Message
I have lost count of the number of times S dumped me by text message.I object to it.I don’t like it. It’s rude. Don't do it!I have never dumped anyone this way and I never would.After all, I am a gentleman.If I want to get rid of a lady then I de...
Confession of a Mad Man
The events described in this post follow on from my Caught Between Two Voids post.It was December 2002 and the relationship counselling continued without any sign of a breakthrough. At Christmas, I drove W and the kids up to Scotland to visit my sist...
Empathy
Going through the grieving process after the end of an extramarital affair is an extremely lonely and painful experience.Lots of people have extramarital affairs and many of those affairs involve deep, emotional, loving connections. So it must be tha...
How to end an affair
Very often the problem with ending an affair is that, deep down, neither of you really want to do it. And if you don’t want to do it then you will usually make a bad job of it and fail. When S and I tried to end our affair, we would always lea...
Time Out
When S and I resolved to end our affair for the second time she decided that she was going to quit her job and take a holiday of a lifetime in order to get over me. She bought a round the world ticket and made plans to spend time in South Africa, Sin...
