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Angst and philosophy of a superficially conventional man who has a secret life in which he succumbs to his greatest weakness: women! Lust, love and poor judgement combine to create a cocktail of emotion, twisted morality and humour. This is a tale of sex
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The Final Communication
A month later, S called time via an email.This was the gist of it:T,It is over. You have let me down again. I am not going to let you humiliate me any more.I will not let you hurt me. I am a strong person and I am determined to make the most of my li...
Dead Couple Walking
Even today, I am glad that I met S.If I could go back I would change many things but I would not change the fact that I knew her. If there is one thing I have failed to convey in this blog it is what a wonderful person she was. Yes, she was manipulat...
Head in Sand
I'm not proud of it but I didn't use my two months wisely.I stuck my head in the sand. I didn't think about my problems. For the first time in years I focussed on work. It was a busy time and I occupied my mind with corporate tedium.I didn't even kee...
Breaking out of the Loop
According to an article in the New York Sun the brain activity exhibited by people who are in love is very similar to that of those who take cocaine.Frankly, I am not surprised. I have likened my feelings towards S to an addiction on more than one oc...
Isolation
The kids had flu too. So did W. Ours was a plague house but I chose to suffer alone in the spare room.Maybe it was the flu poisoning my brain or maybe it was the isolation of my sickbed, but I began re-evaluating my relationship with S.She had obviou...
Flu
Ladies,Here is how to tell the difference between man-flu and real flu.Place an envelope containing £100* beneath an upturned bucket at the bottom of the garden. Make your man a cup of coffee and take it to his sick bed. Inform him what you have don...
Family Support
I continued taking the steps. I called my sister and told her about the end of my marriage. She was very kind and understanding. We had never been close siblings but we spoke for a couple of hours and I felt loved. Afterwards, I was quite choked u...
All’s Fair in Love and War
I had been aware that S’s next door neighbour, a single man of similar age who I shall call Bill, had been pursuing her for a few weeks. I suspect that S was enjoying the attention and, for that reason if nothing else, she had not discouraged it...
Walls Closing In
It didn’t take long for S to catch on to the fact that my marriage was on the rocks. I had every intention that she and I would live happily ever after once W and I had separated but common sense and bitter experience had taught me that it may n...
Mistress or Martyr?
I agreed with some of S's points.For example, I knew deep down that the city shag pad idea was nuts. To this day I do not know whether it was a flawed but otherwise serious suggestion or else some kind of bizarre female trickery.Mind you, I think the...
Wrath of the Would-be Wife
I told S about W's city shag pad idea.She was not impressed."So, you're telling me that you turned your back on me so you could go back to your wife and live a lie? First of all I find out that you sought out another bloody mistress and now I find th...
An Unconventional Proposal
In the years since I confessed to the affair there is no doubt that W has contemplated divorcing me.She has also thought about ways to preserve the marriage, or at least those aspects of it that she values, whilst simultaneously being ready to change...
Mistress Condemns Adulterers
One of the wonderful things about an affair conducted within a secret bubble is that you don't have to put up with any real world shit. There is no need to worry about the bank balance, the problems the kids are having at school or your spouse's dri...
Nostalgia
I do love the Mamma Mia musical which is in cinemas at the moment.It is said that part of its success (and that of the stage version which preceded it) is its ability to evoke joyful nostalgia.Hmmm... I'm not so sure sure about the "joyful" bit...I f...
Secret Bubble Bursts
S, in common with my other mistresses who came later, had no place in my every day life. We met through the internet and our real world paths never crossed. We had no common acquaintances, we worked for different companies in different industries and...
Sex with the Ex
As it happened, the first time I went to Newville was over a weekend. Consequently, C and E were home with their husbands and S and I were alone.S was at a milestone in her life. It was a moment to reflect upon personal achievement and narrow escapes...
The Witches of Eastwick Newville
I was aware that the household containing the ex-mistress, the best friend and the almost-mistress was a dangerous melting pot with seriously explosive potential.But I didn't let that worry me.I love to observe the absurd, the insane and the unpredic...
Throwing Petrol onto the Flames
A few months prior to our conversation about her new job in Newville, C and I were discussing a very different topic.She was having a go at matchmaking.This was a period during which S and I managed to abstain from the physical affair although we rem...
Playing With Fire
C called me."I've got a new job," she said.I was impressed. A couple of months earlier she had walked out on her previous employer without having anything else lined up. I had been shocked and concerned. I rarely change jobs and I could not imagine w...
Loving Gift or Debt Settled?
I “lent” her the money.I never expected to get it back and I know I never will.I think there were lots of emotions running around inside both our heads in relation to the loan, some positive, others negative.Looking back, I think that the loan pr...
What a Fucking Loser!
This post describes events which occurred after Moving On. It was during a period in which S and I were no longer conducting a physical affair although we often spoke and occasionally met. We pretended to one another that we were just friends but I ...
The Lowest Night of My Life
When it came to ending my affair with S, I decided to do it by phone. This, I reasoned, was better than S's own favoured mode of communication for dumping me: the text message. I wasn't brave enough for a face to face meeting, not least because I sus...
Red Mist
No new post today, just a link to a long rant in response to a comment on a recent post.Dear Single Mistresses,I'm sorry if I have over-generalised. I don't really mean to tar you all with the same brush. I hope you know I have lots of respect and sy...
Life Goes On
I know this blog has made for heavy reading lately.I was going to post another troublesome post today but I can't bring myself to do it. I can tell from the comments that some of you are finding it emotionally draining and I can assure you it is even...
The Brief Period of My Marriage When I Lived With Another Woman
At the time of my confession I believe I was suffering from temporary "madness" characterised by two catastrophic behavioural defects:(1) I was being open and honest with both W and S; and(2) I had stopped trying to control or influence events and in...
Mistress Does Ironing
You will recall that in the previous post I mentioned that I retrieved some clothing from the laundry basket before making my escape from the marital home.The following day I washed the very same clothes in S's washing machine.She very kindly offered...
Hell Hath No Fury
The events described in this post occurred some years ago immediately after the moment of my confession. I have not managed to describe this episode before because it is painful to me. In fact, even now it has taken me a couple of days to write becau...
Moving On
This post follows on from the Toys and Mind Warfare posts.S and I saw each other regularly through the summer of 2003. Often, we would meet up at a pub which was conveniently on the route home for both of us after work. We would then drive together i...
Good Girl Bad Girl
"The difference between you and W is that you are a 'Bad Girl' and she is a 'Good Girl'."This is what I once told S in response to questions about my wife.She went quiet and looked thoughtful. I knew that look. She was hurt and I was in trouble.Women...
Mind Warfare
From time to time I used to ponder the possibility that S had read a book on "How to Get Your Married Lover to Leave his Wife". As she gradually raised her game I wondered if the chapters in this mythical guide were sequenced in order of increasing ...
