User Comments

1. 

   3/20/09

   LynneaUrania

   I do, precisely because gays and lesbians don't consider me to be one.

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2. 

   3/20/09

   kat822

   no gay so I can't say

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3. 

   3/20/09

   fruitcake

   I've been referred to as "a white girl" so I don't see the problem.
   
   The way I see it..."A" is only a vowel, it can do no harm.

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   1. 

      3/21/09

      GFG

      I love white girls
   2. 

      3/21/09

      fruitcake

      Well good for you...you want a cookie?
   3. 

      3/26/09

      JaydenVasara

      lol.....
4. 

   3/21/09

   dekadaye

   depends on who is using it and how
   some people dont think about it others may use it in a way to purposely reduce one's personality to sexual orientation

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5. 

   3/21/09

   davedol

   A better question would be...are straight offended, or flatterd if a gay hits on them? That is one tricky question!

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6. 

   3/21/09

   HalfCrazy

   No, not really.

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7. 

   3/26/09

   Epicharis

   I find it a bit offensive. I'm not going to get upset with people, but I think it's offensive if you say "she/he is a gay" rather than "she/he is gay".
   
   The implication of the definite article is that 'gay' is a thing not a description of a certain aspect of someone's life. Referring to someone as 'a lesbian' doesn't have the same connotations, presumably because the word 'lesbian' has not generally used by intolerant homophobes.
   
   'gay', 'lesbian', 'homosexual' and 'heterosexual' are adjectives and when they are used as nouns it is usually for brevity so you don't have to say "gay man" or "heterosexual woman"...but if you put an 'a' in front of 'gay' it takes on accusatory and derogatory connotations. I imagine it's entirely die to the phrase's historic usage.

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8. 

   3/26/09

   wagerwitch

   I'm not A Gay...
   
   I'm not 2 gay...
   
   But yanno - uhm.... I really don't care what other's do in their bedrooms or WHO they do it with as long as it's willing and they are happy about it.
   
   It's just - well - NONE of my business.
   
   If someone called me gay - I'd say - well obviously you don't know me very well.
   
   Offended? Nah.

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9. 

   3/26/09

   bassboys

   If someone does call me gay I'll be worried i'm sending out the wrong vibes.. and on that note. am i the only one seeing the "mature gay dating" ads on BC????

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10. 

    6/06/09

    deeofcanada

    Yes, yes I do. I think it is not only offensive but clearly shows an ignorance of English language usage. However, I wouldn’t start a parade about it! LOL

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11. 

    6/06/09

    amrhima

    I wouldn't because first; it's not a bad thing, for me it's nothing more than a taste different than mine, and second it's because you can only be offended if you choose to, but thats another topic.

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12. 

    6/06/09

    TigerXtrm

    Well, if you ARE actually gay then what's the problem exactly? It's a shame the word gay has become an offensive term, though one has to admit that some persons who lean more to faggotry than homosexuality don't exactly give a decent image of being gay. I have nothing against gay people myself, I do hate the leather faggots though.

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