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A woman says....
Posted by Mike768083 • 7/18/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: female, male, man, relationship, sex, woman
A woman tells a man that she is NOT ready for a serious relationship right now. Does this mean:
1) She does NOT want that man now or ever & she's trying to HINT to the guy she's not interested in him anymore
2) She is really JUST not ready to be tied down yet
3) She's confused about her feelings and is unsure whether the man is right for her
4) She wants that man, but not right now
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A woman tells a man that she is NOT ready for a serious relationship right now.
- IMO generalizations and speculations aren't helpful. It depends on the individual woman. Ask her directly because it's the only way to know what her answer is.
As for me, I say what I mean, and I mean what I say. -
our world would be so much simple if women ever spoke what they actually want, in one crisp sentence.
Don't Believe me :
"I had a word with my wife, she had paragraphs with me." Frued.
A woman can say more in a sigh than a man can say in a sermon. ~Arnold Haultain ( and using some magic u have to interpret that)
A man's face is his autobiography. A woman's face is her work of fiction. ~Oscar Wilde ( how the hell can we read your eyes, lips face... whatever)
I wanted to quote some more.... but I want to live some more days.-
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absolutely right!
lets have the rest of the quotes please....or pm me the link... -
wow, no wonder you're having so much trouble with women
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Without capturing the nuances of the situation, it's impossible to give a meaningful answer. It could mean any or none of those things. You're just going to have to ask her.
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I choose #1, especially if she is the kind of person who is concerned about the feelings of others. -
It could be any of those
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If she's an honest straightforward woman then it would have to be choice 2. -
It could also be that she doesn't trust herself enough to be in one, but is really hoping that the guy would convince her that they could make it work together.
They don't say 'women are complicated' for no reason ya' know? -
I say it's #3--although it is hard to know for sure without knowing the woman.
Personally, I am honest with people. If I say that I'm not ready to settle down, that's what it means.
Sometimes a cigar really is just a cigar.-
Nope, it's always a phallic symbol. He just didn't want her (can't remember her name) to think he was gay.
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My psychic link to all women has failed me at this point and I can't come up with the right answer.-
Next time that happens just remember that all women are basically the same, so your opinion will definitely be the same as that of all other women. It's quite lucky that we're so simple!
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Thank you for that, my brain tends to get overheated thinking and stuff. Well I am a woman so that is to be expected.
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You really shouldn't do that...your brain wasn't made for thinking and stuff...it's just there to keep your head the right shape so that you look nice.
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but still wants you to buy her presents
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And bathe her
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It means she is NOT ready for a serious relationship right now. Take her at her word and forget the bogus psychology.-
Take her at her word and forget the bogus psychology.
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Actually, she may be ready for a serious relationship...just not with him.
The underlying message here is that HE is not what SHE wants and he should just move on. -
what NP said
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I believe she wants the doors not to close but doesn't or can't arrive at a conclusion about how she feels at this moment. Now that is a dicey one because she then reserves the right to take any direction in the future so you better ask than assume. Best of luck! -
ditto to timethief.
it varies from one person to another. -
I can't speak for all women, because contrary to popular belief we are all different. I've said that to a guy and meant it, there have been points in my life where I don't want to be in a serious relationship with him or anybody else. Perhaps sometimes the attraction is more physical than anything else, so its better to make it clear. -
QUOTE : A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired : UNQUOTE -
totally depends on the person - sorry! -
It's hard to think how it matters. She's said "no thank you", so trying to analyze exactly HOW she means no seems rather pointless. -
Sorry to tell you but she's not interested.
Think about it, if you really liked someone, then you would do anything to see, speak and be with that person no matter what. You would constantly be looking for excuses to be with them not excuses to not be with them.
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"Think about it, if you really liked someone, then you would do anything to see, speak and be with that person no matter what"
That sounds like a rather middle-school view of "really liking" someone. More like obsession than anything that could lead to an actual relationship.
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I agree - it's the same for men or women. If they are interested in you and WANT a relationship with you, it doesn't matter if their house is about to blow up, they will have a relationship with you. Those are just time-old excuses that some people seem to buy into.
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She is not at all ready to be tied up...
A women don't like to be questioned...in a serious relationship, u got tied up with things such as question and answers, timings and all that stuffs...most of them don't like it...that's it.. -
In response to MikeandTiffany's comment.
Middle-school view??, I think its quite a logical point of view.
"Really Liking" is just an example.
If you cared or loved someone, then you wouldn't be saying "your NOT ready for a relationship", because 9 times out 10 within a few months they find someone else anyway. They're just making excuses, rather than telling you the truth that your not their type.
Everyone's ready for a relationship when the love of their life comes along.-
I generally agree that someone who makes excuses about not getting into a relationship probably isn't interested. But the idea that you'll "do anything to see, speak and be with that person no matter what" is just silly in adult life--I would hope that you wouldn't sacrifice the interests of your children, your livelihood, your responsibilities to other people in your life, etc. to "see, speak and be with that person". If you would, it sounds more like illness than love to me.
There are also circumstances in which it would be totally irresponsible for a person to enter into a relationship. For example, an alcoholic in the first few months of recovery. Of course, that only applies to a small number of people, but the idea that "everyone's ready for a relationship when the love of their life comes along" is just silly. There are certainly people mature enough not to trash the lives of the one they love, their dependents, etc. just because they're "in love".
-Tiffany
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Oh common, I speak generally, that's just dumb. Of course you would put your children first and other important priorities.
And by the way, people do get "dumb" when there in love!, haven't you heard of the saying "Love is blind".
Your example about the "alcoholic" holds no weight.-
"Your example about the "alcoholic" holds no weight."
Why not? Anyone seriously working the program knows that they're not supposed to consider getting into a relationship until they've been sober and actively working on themselves for at least a year.
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Oh yeah, this alcoholic example in reference to this discussion is "SO" common!!
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Which is why I said that this accounted for a small number of people when I mentioned it. But there are many other reasons--mental health issues, physical health issues, family demands, etc. that might have the same impact. The point is that the idea that anyone who is interested in someone will automatically deprioritize everything else in his or her life to pursue a relationship is ridiculous.
If you click the reply button on the post you're responding to, your answer will appear beneath the post you're answering rather than randomly somewhere down below.
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I think the best possible way a man would find out what exactly a woman meant by that statement is to ask. A woman who genuinely is not looking to be tied down, but is still interested in a man probably won't have issues with explaining further because she won't want to push him away entirely. If she can't or won't explain further, than she probably just isn't interested in that particular man. -
MikeandTiffany, a "REPLY' option doesn't appear under your comments for some reason, it appears under lotusb but not yours, don't know why.
Anyway, good debating with you.
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