The economy has played a significant role in the dramatic reversal of marriage, now days the number of stay at home husbands have increased while the wives are more frequently becoming the bread winners and as a result, Hollywood has created a show called House-Husbands of Hollywood; a reality show about stay at home husbands married to very successful woman. My assessment of the show; boring and not a very accurate depiction of an average American family, although I might say on their behalf maybe that’s not what they were trying to accomplish. However, the show has a great premise but the show’s producers aren’t doing anything with it, just another reality show, in other words; low overhead cost with no apparent direction. Another case and point, I’m afraid all of the husbands and wives are doing too well financially therefore making it more difficult for the average American to relate. An then the show tends to insult the viewers intelligence with one of the husbands claiming to be an unemployed actor and constantly looking for work in Hollywood, well idiot; u mean to tell me that you’re not getting paid for doing the show or u just need more money than what u already have (not going over to well in Michigan).

The part of the show I like; I think it’s great that couples can work together in spite of the woman being the bread winner and still making the marriage work, but that does take a special bond in order to pull something like that off (in real life). Financially I guess it makes more sense in some instances, like child care; it cost a lot of money for child care and then you don’t know how well your child is actually being taken care of. But the issue that would scare me the most if I was in a house-husband situation is the risk of your significant other losing respect, most woman by nature are attracted to powerful men, will she lose respect when you’re constantly asking for money? Cooking cleaning and watchin kids all day is a job then after a hard day’s work you still have to ask for money… doesn’t sound like fun to me but that’s just one Black Man’s opinion. Another concern, does the role reversal play a pivotal role in the bedroom, guys after while your woman might start wanting a little more male type treatment since she’s bringing home the bacon there’s always the possibility that she may want you to start incorporating more warm and soft colors in your night-time attire, then she might start wearin suits then casually ask you to let your hair grow then recommend a perm, then last but not least during sex she might flip you over on your stomach and then…….

As far as respect goes in some instances the house-husband may not be as weak as you think, it could be a cover up, and sometimes I’m confused. I don’t know whether the House-Husband is a Pimp-In-Disguise or a Manbitch. Let me elaborate on the difference between the two and woman let’s decide together what you have at home. First of all when I say Manbitch I mean that with the upmost respect because taking care of children and preparing meals, doing laundry, helping the kids with their homework that’s a fulltime job. And any man that (steps up to the plate) puts his ego aside and puts his family first, I take my hat off, but U have to admit, Manbitch has a nice ring to it. Guys can you imagine your wife talking to her girlfriends referring to you as her (Manbitch) well… what you don’t know won’t hurt and hell what’s wrong with a little role reversal maybe it will help bring a little more excitement to the relationship (marriages can always use some of that).Now on the flip side of this sit-U-ation, ladies if you have a man at home and you have no kids to take care of, he has no job, and you’re his cash cow than he’s not a house-husband he’s a (Pimp- In-Disguise) and like Tyler Perry says; you can do better all by yourself or as I would say; get you a man that can carry his own weight.

A piece of advice; ladies if your man is dressing the kids, cooking breakfast and dinner, taking and picking them up from school, keeping the kitchen clean, feeding and clothing the kids, than I’m happy to announce you have a good Manbitch and you better not let him get away, but keep in mind, (even though you wear the pants) treat him with respect and never let his friends or him know that you call him that otherwise you might have some problems.

This whole role reversal is still a fairly new medium within the past 2 decades. So the advice that I give to successful professional women that are having a hard time finding a significant other, “don’t look for the powerful men with the big bucks you have your own money and anyway just like you, a lot of other women are looking for the same type of guy and it’s going to be extremely hard for him to be faithful (not to mention the out of town business trips).” So Look for a guy with a big heart and bad breaks; what I mean by that he may not have the education, may be broke, may not be as smart as you or your friends but he tries his best and works hard whenever given the opportunity. And if he gets the opportunity to be with a beautiful and successful woman like yourself he will worship the ground you walk on. Look for the big heart not the big pocketbook! And just maybe, just maybe you will someday find a Manbitch.

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