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1. 

   10/02/09

   bettieblogger

   For myself, it depends on where I am in my life... Currently, my b/f and I are almost at the 5 year mark. We have dealt with a few things that would honestly break most couple's up so, the fact that we've stayed together through all of that makes me happy and a little proud. I guess it showed me that we're well suited for each other and that we mesh well.
   
   BUT, I can be just as content being a single woman as well... If I find myself at the end of a realtionship it is not unheard of for me to take a long long time to get involved again. Not necessarily because of loss and depression etc. I just feel that after x amount of years with one person that I deserve some "me time" and I usually enjoy that time to the fullest!
   
   Hope that answers your question, if not .. don't blame me, I'm not done my first coffee yet

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   10/02/09

   aspotofblog

   I'm in a 'de facto' relationship and I'm starting to wonder if I'm cut out for domesticity and exclusivity. I'm pretty much a free spirit and don't like the feeling of being someone's possession, since once you're in a relationship, exclusivity and monogamy is expected from you.
   I do enjoy the companionship and mutual support of relationships, though. And I do realize that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. I've come to accept that I'm a restless person, and probably always will be, whether in a relationship or single.
   
   And I'm with Bettie on the 'me' time. I'm strongly considering taking a break from being 'us' and finding myself again. If that means we won't get back together again, then so be it.

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3. 

   10/02/09

   wagerwitch

   Oh come on... Cross over to the other side... Women...
   
   LMAO - nah - really - it's up to you if you choose that lifestyle.
   
   I uhm... unfortunately do NOT allow myself to get bored.
   
   I do however - get upset if someone else won't join me on my anti-boredom crusade.
   
   For me a partner is this:
   
   Someone who is willing to change with me, my likes and dislikes are acceptable - has the same moral ethics - has the same adventurous sense - and is willing to accept me as who and what I am.
   
   I like being cuddly and comfortable with a person - which is only achieved through trust - which is only achieved through time... At least for me.
   
   I like my hubby - and couldn't imagine a short term relationship with him.
   
   I'm a long term person.
   
   And I won't date a guy twice if I can't see myself with him later on down the road.
   
   In fact - every guy I've dated more than once - I've ended up with for longer than a year. One for 8 months, , AND one for 3 years, AND 3 I married(first decided he was gay after a year's marriage and his US Visa arrival/Second one cheated on me during our marriage and more/Third one I'm with.)
   
   I can't see wasting anyone's time after the first date - if I don't have that "you're interesting - I might be able to communicate with you more than this date - and I find you sexually attractive and you smell good - and you're funny in that non-obnoxious way - and we click both chemically and intellectually" Then I'm not going to go out on a second date.
   
   
   So I would say that I am a RELATIONSHIP person.
   
   Maybe I am more interested in the sex - and I refuse to have sex with anyone I'm not with permanently.
   
   LMAO!
   
   I dunno - I do like being with someone else - that I am comfortable with.
   
   Although - I don't mind being alone.
   
   But I would rather be alone than with just someone "else" just to fill the space or the physical need.
   
   Yanno?

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4. 

   10/02/09

   marcusmarcus

   I'm a 'no string attached' person.

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5. 

   10/02/09

   stellak

   After many years of being single, I started dating this guy, so far its been a month, and Im suprised I havent started getting restless and ready to run. We have a agreement that we dont see each other every day, we get a lot of space and me time, so when we're together we actually look forward to it. Our phone conversations are very rare and they last 5 minutes tops.

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   1. 

      10/02/09

      R1VERT1LT

      LOL... any other rules?
      
      I am not a commitment person... I wish I was though...
   2. 

      10/02/09

      stellak

      one other rule: no drama hehehehe
6. 

   10/02/09

   HollytheHousewife

   I'm definately a relationship person. Besides my highschool boyfriends there was just ted. I met him when I was 20 so yea def notta dater of too many.

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7. 

   10/02/09

   nothingprofound

   I'm not a commitment person, I'm a total individualist, still I've been together with my wife for thirty years. I haven't found the relationship to interfere without anything I ever really wanted to do.

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8. 

   10/02/09

   MissSuzie

   I thought I was, but I found out that's not the case. I'm better suited "on a limited time basis."

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9. 

   10/02/09

   HollytheHousewife

   Yea,some people are just that way

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10. 

    10/02/09

    sjtavo

    As I wait for stones to be hurled at me from my discussion thread LOL it's a hard call. On one hand, I adore being single because I was raised to be so fiercely independent and to never rely on a man for anything. As such, I love my alone time and my freedom. On the flip side, I love being domesticated with a man. I'm not opposed to a relationship if it's with the right guy, cohabitating in a big enough house (I require my own room for "me time").

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11. 

    10/02/09

    reginaldcdotme

    I think as a person gets older they want to settle down for different reasons. I think the 20's are for exploration of your world and yourself. I am long past my 20's and even then I knew I was not a long term person then. Take your time and when your ready you will know it.
    
    Being now in my forties having been married in my 30's fathered children and now divorced I have had plenty of life experience. I also know that with the right person for me I am a commitment person.
    
    You're young, enjoy your time and explore relationships no need to rush into a life long commitment when most of life is still ahead of you.

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12. 

    10/02/09

    HollytheHousewife

    Well I know one good thing about teddy being on the road is I do enjoy my space. When he was home on the weekends it almost felt like my routine would be kinda messed up. You know kinda like there was just another person for me to take care of. I spoiled him. When he came to get the girls last week his goatee was a beard,his nails were filthy,and his eye brows were bushy. His little gf he got has definately not been pampering him. I was like haha, that's what happens when you take a good women for granted....

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13. 

    10/02/09

    activeleisure

    I think it completely depends on where you are in your life. When I was in my mid twenties I was still "finding myself" and travelling the world. For this reason (and others) I didn't get married until I was in my 30s
    
    I actually wrote a recent blog entry and used a metaphor of "eating crackers" vs "eating cookies". I was basically saying that too many people have relationships that are bland and unfulfilling (crackers) rather than searching for the "right" person (cookies).
    
    It actually created somewhat of a debate since one reader called me disrespectful and rude for referring to another person as a cracker. Whether anyone agrees or not, it was a time in my life for discovery.. of who I am and what I wanted!
    
    Here's a link to that post:
    
    thehubbydiaries.wordpress.com/2009/09/24/crackers-vs-cookies/

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14. 

    10/02/09

    HollytheHousewife

    On the flip side though I do miss my one week bath where the he would run the bath,put my book and radio in there,bubbles,and NO KIDS!!!

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15. 

    10/02/09

    crazyTsu

    I could be what I set out for myself to be

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16. 

    10/02/09

    ToughCookieMommy

    I love being in a committed relationship. The dating scene really sucks these days.

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17. 

    10/02/09

    dbowles1017

    No and yes.

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18. 

    10/02/09

    DiggaDominus

    I'm in my first relationship and loving it.
    Once I got into my 30's, freedom took a backseat to the feeling of belonging.

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19. 

    10/02/09

    MadameX

    I'm not a relationship person, but maybe not in the way you mean. The question seems to be presented as "relationship v. playing the field", but I'm more in the "doing fine on my own" camp.

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20. 

    10/02/09

    hatingtherain

    I'm into relationships, mostly because I'm clingy and emotionally male-dependant.

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21. 

    10/02/09

    trailofpen

    I prefer both, but not simultaneously.

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22. 

    10/02/09

    BeamingBalance

    I've been happily married to the same man for more than a decade so I guess that qualifies as a "relationship." :-)

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23. 

    10/02/09

    siralmo

    haha i am very much a a relationship person... to my demise

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24. 

    10/02/09

    HollytheHousewife

    Good for u and ur relationships

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25. 

    10/03/09

    Penifeca

    I'm married. Relationship is a must. It's a pleasure.. Tschüss Piet www.penifeca.de

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