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Are you lonely or alone ???
Posted by RudrakshRudranjali • 5/30/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: alone, fun, Lonely
Little do men perceive what solitude is, and how far it extendeth.
For a crowd is not company, and faces are but a gallery of pictures,
and talk but a tinkling cymbal, where there is no love.
Francis Bacon.
And on a lighter side, can you narrate any funny incidences . when lonely or being left alone.At home ,office, party,or by a group on trekking..............................
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Loneliness is a strange thing. You can be lonely in a room full of people.
I have a little piece on loneliness on my one blog:
why-so-sad.blogspot.com/-
Thanks for the link will go thru it,
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@betsylckes.........nicely written,
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Alone. Aloneness is the cure for loneliness. The ability to be happy alone.-
"Loneliness is when you think of others, miss them; it is a negative state. Aloneness is the presence of oneself, it is very positive, you can fill the universe with your presence and there is no need for anybody."
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I'm alone but not lonely.-
I too am a loner by choice. I like casual socializing with others, chatting with strangers at bus stops, starting a conversation with whoever is nearby at coffee shops, constantly sketching and making joking comments on napkins and handing them out - whether to the library staff who knows me on a regular basis, or with a stranger at the next sidewalk cafe table and getting a laugh when the mood strikes.
But I need many, many hours alone. And always to be free of a serious commitment to others. I tried marriage once in my early 30's to a several years younger lady, but...I just felt trapped. The marriage ended about 4 years later, our parting about as stress free as we could both provide...but still, a sadness that I felt I had not given her the care and love she deserved.
No children. Been a bachelor ever since. My feelings are not selfishness I think. More a fear that I will never live up to the others expectations. And so I remain distant from intimacies. And deal with it basically - thankfully - okay to day. I draw. Tell my stories. Do my art. -
Rivy the mistake most do is they get tangled in relation ship but they fail to relate.. and hence times comes they feel lonely and are afraid either from relating or relation ships...
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never lonely... and never alone...
I need to search an opportunity to be alone (everyone needs some time alone). But I think that it's better this way, than the other...
hopefully it will stay this way-
God bless , your wishes.. to be true
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We live in a world where relation has supplanted substance.-
al though its difficult to change the world , we can definitely change our own personal hemispheres...
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Being alone is sometimes lonely.
Whenever I feel lonely, I try not to ask why anymore, for I know it is part of my being human. I ask instead, what I may have done to have made myself feel isolated, walled-in, and alienated from the others. In fact, loneliness comes during those moments of isolation, when around me I have built an invisible wall, perhaps, after I have been hurt by others. The same wall protects me from getting hurt again, but, alas, it also imprisons me.-
will you pl elaborate..
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I am never lonely in the sense that I need other people; i have BLOGGERS! LOL. No, if something is on my mind that makes me feel isolated then being with a bunch of people just makes me feel more so; i love people but i really like to be a loner.... -
I am alone, but I rarely feel lonely, I enjoy my solitude. -
im alone.
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I am alone often, but rarely lonely. I love the time I have to myself. And also love the time with family/friends. -
alone but sometime with friends
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WHEN EVER I AM ALONE..I FEAR GOSTS... AND FEAR SOMEBODY CLOSE TO ME..WALKING BESIDE ME...SEE SOME SHADOWS...
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I was reminded of a story the other day where I was alone on a business trip and something funny happened...
I was in London and I went to a restaurant to get dinner.
So I put my name in, they said it wouldn't be long, and then as tables opened up, name after name they called, but never mine.
Pretty soon I began to notice, they were taking people who had come in well after me. Groups of twos, fours, etc. Never me. People coming straight in the door got in-- just not me.
It was becoming pretty obvious they didn't want to serve just one person. Or, for whatever reason, me specifically.
Well, finally, they called my name, and gave me a table...
I was at the table about five minutes when then they MOVED me, into another table, this one wedged into a corner.
If that wasn't insult to injury-- they then took absolutely everything from the other side of the table.
And I'm talking plates, cutlery, the placemat and even the chair.
The only thing they didn't take was half of the bouquet from that side of the table! Even the couple at the table next to me looked surprised and apologetic.
Getting waited on ended up not being easy, even though the couple next to me was waited on and actually paid for their meal before they would give me my bill.
I hadn't been feeling alone or lonely, particularly-- up until it was implied that being by yourself was a huge imposition and something to be shunned at all costs.
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It wasn't because you were alone it was because you're an American and they didn't want to upset the other more civilised diners by placing an American next to them while they were eating.
Which I for one applaud, I wish more establishments in London would adopt this policy. -
It's a shame. I'm a nice, polite American. They might have even liked me.
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What's even worse is when they seat an aardvark at the table next to you. Man, those things stink! -
It's better to be seated next to an Aardvark than served one or indeed by one!
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Fortunately, you just don't see too many aardvark servers these days... or on the menu.
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That entirely depends on the on the quality of the places one deigns to frequent. They have used a fully Aardvark staff at the Savoy and the Dorchester for years now and because the décor is lavender the Aardvark staff blend in unobtrusively. You wouldn't even know the Aardvarks were there if you couldn't hear their roller skates wheels on the wooden flooring.
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I usually don't run into this when I eat alone, though occasionally they are clueless enough to seat me all my myself at a table for four in the middle of the dining room. I usually just politely ask to be moved to a different table.
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Are you lonely or alone ???
- I'm never lonely and I place a high value on solitude.
On one hand, from nursery school onwards we are all pressured to be in the company of family, friends, co-workers and complete strangers from morning until night. On the other, any adult who does not enjoy his or her own company is a sad case with nothing to offer another person in relationship except neediness.
Extroverts are energized by people, and wilt or fade when alone. They often seem bored by themselves, in both senses of the expression. Leave an extrovert alone for two minutes and he will reach for his cell phone.
In contrast, after an hour or two of being socially “on,” we introverts need to turn off and recharge.
My own formula is roughly two hours alone for every hour of socializing. This isn’t antisocial. It isn’t a sign of depression. It does not call for medication. For introverts, to be alone with our thoughts is as restorative as sleeping, as nourishing as eating.
All Loners Aren’t Social Misfits
thistimethisspace.com/2007/08/08/all-loners-arent-social-misfits/-
I'm a bit of both, ill come to a party and become the center of it, but at home I'm by myself pondering and such, being in deep thought without any distractions, for example when im writing a deep post in my blog or writing a poem.
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