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As Adults How Much Do You Practice Safe Sex?

Posted by DaVincisBlogLog • 9/22/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: condoms, contraception, da vinci's blog log, pregnancy, safe sex, women

I wrote a post today about it and I just wanted your feedback, thoughts and opinions.

davincisbloglog.com/2008/09/as-adults-how-much-do-you-practice-safe-sex.htm...

User Comments

9/22/08

RTBjr73

My wife and i still practice safe sex...we put vaseline on the locked doorknob so that the kids can't barge in.

:-)

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1. 9/22/08
  
  Shiley
  
  Lol!
2. 9/22/08
  
  Theresa111
  
  AH HA HA HA HA HA HA HA!
3. 9/22/08
  
  newward
  
  LMAO! Oh that was perfect!
9/22/08

tjefferson85

I left a comment on your article. All of those factors play a part in the orverall decision of using protection or not. I think the most important one, length of the relarionship. If you have long-term goals and you see the relationship progressing, you and your partner should discuss rhe issues you both have and weight the pros and cons of each decision.

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9/22/08

gingerbeer25

@RTB...I like the Vaseline tip.

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9/22/08

HelloAnnie

No vaseline, no protection, no pills: just natural goodness. We've been married forever.

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9/22/08

CrystalRaven

Married almost 16 years, I have my tubes tied, nada now

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1. 9/22/08
  
  SweetViolet
  
  In the same ballpark here...married almost 5 years, had a hysterectomy eons ago, no protection necessary.
  
  (Yah...I know some husbands cheat, but I'm trusting that mine doesn't.)
9/22/08

DaVincisBlogLog

lol at the vaseline...of course this is mostly for unmarried couples...but still the rates of infidelities makes it so that even in committed relationships you need to be careful

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1. 9/22/08
  
  earthlingorgeous
  
  I agree with what you are saying @ davinci even married people cheat to their partners for life threatening their health and their partner.
  
  safe sex is no sex at all if you can take that!
  
  I left a comment on your blog too.
9/22/08

tjefferson85

Your right DaVinci, the unexpected happens to often to not have any safeguards. Once you stop trusting though it will make the situation worse before it gets better though.

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1. 9/22/08
  
  DaVincisBlogLog
  
  I think it's sad that we even have to think about this these days in "committed" relationships and marriage.
  
  I'm still optimistic about people being faithful though, lol...even knowing the stats
9/22/08

annaswan

Before I was married - this wasn't even an issue that was up for debate. It was simply a given - no protection, no sex. I had various reasons, a sexually transmitted disease being the #1 and an unplanned pregnancy being just below that. But in all honesty - had I not had a close friend contract a disease, I'm not sure my attitude would have been the same. I may well have been more lax, had I not seen the devistation of an STD first hand. That's just the brutal truth. Her situation scared me so badly - I just never quite got past that, and never "risk it"... for no one, for no reason. *shrugs* I don't know, maybe had that not happened to such a close friend... I just don't know.

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1. 9/22/08
  
  DaVincisBlogLog
  
  I agree that many people who never have things like this hit close to home are so much more lax about it...probably because of the "it won't happen to me" syndrome
9/22/08

Anok

The Mr and I use continue to use birth control (condoms) to prevent pregnancy before we are ready to have another child.

That's about it.

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1. 9/22/08
  
  bradhart
  
  The problem with condoms and the pill can and do fail. Our son was a failure of the first. Then we decided the pill would be much safer. She had been on the pill for 10 years, since the birth of our son, without ever missing a day. We decide that no more kids would be ideal and I should get a vasectomy. 4 days before I was scheduled for the surgery she finds out that damned pill failed us, my thought is it did it out of spite...
2. 9/22/08
  
  Anok
  
  I can't take the pill - all those artificial hormones are no good for me. (They make me terribly ill).
  
  And of course condoms can fail...it wouldn't be the end of the world right now if I got pregnant though, either. So it's just that bit of extra assurance until we're ready to plan to have another child.
  
  But if I got pregnant right now, it wouldn't be terrible or anything.
3. 9/22/08
  
  bradhart
  
  I agree an unexpected pregnancy isn't the worst thing that can happen no matter how it happens but is certainly is a shock when it does happen and you are planning on making sure it can't happen.
4. 9/22/08
  
  Anok
  
  Oh, yeah it would be a shock But it would still be a good shock
5. 9/22/08
  
  DaVincisBlogLog
  
  I think it's nice to hear that people still plan pregnancies, lol
9/22/08

DaVincisBlogLog

Yea I have to say so much drilling goes into teenagers when as adults many of us are not practicing safe sex and aren't in monogamous relationships and even when we are people are cheating.

Also there are far too many unwanted pregnancies happening, stds, etc...

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9/22/08

4Freedoms

As a tantric sex and kama sutra mentors, we still practicing safe sex. This brings us to long and lasting relationships and healthy sex.

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1. 9/22/08
  
  DaVincisBlogLog
  
  very interesting...from what I know most do teach about safety practices.
9/22/08

NikkiCorrupt

All Of The Time...u cant trust anyone

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1. 9/22/08
  
  DaVincisBlogLog
  
  glad to hear it
9/22/08

calais50

This reminds me of an episode of "My Name is Earl." A guy hires a hooker, but doesn't have a condom, so instead, he uses the free shower cap provided by the hotel. When he discovers he has a disease, his response is "damn shower cap!"

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1. 9/22/08
  
  DaVincisBlogLog
  
  wow, very sad...but what's worse is there are plenty of people who do try to use silly things as protection substitutes...or even the pull out method
9/22/08

ModelElaine

As we say in Russia, Recipe for safe sex is "sleep at home, sleep alone"

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1. 9/22/08
  
  DaVincisBlogLog
  
  lol, good one
9/22/08

henchmanmike

Married... But man was it fun being single.

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9/22/08

Sylvia

I safely tie my husband to the bed regularly.

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1. 9/22/08
  
  Anok
  
  Yes! We can't have them bouncing off the bed.
  
  That would be dangerous
2. 9/22/08
  
  blackzero85
  
  lol...
  
  This topic is hilarious.
9/22/08

aningeniousname

I am a great advocate for safe sex, I always ring her first and make sure I know exactly how long her husband will be out for.

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1. 9/22/08
  
  DaVincisBlogLog
  
  lol too much
9/22/08

atlprincess

I use condoms in the beginning of any relationship. After its gotten a little more serious, we can both get tested and go for the gold.

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1. 9/22/08
  
  DaVincisBlogLog
  
  sounds like the sentiments of most
9/22/08

ekim941

I've been abstinent for 3 years. Aside from the carpal tunnel syndrome, that's pretty safe.

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9/22/08

Jeunelle

I've been abstinent for years too and about to hump on something pretty soon. Throw me a leg or something, like a blow up doll and I will flatten that sucker.
If I do decide to partake in "DA NASTY", condoms are a must, unless we are married
and we have yearly blood test and sit down and share our results together.

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1. 9/22/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Condoms would be a must for me too.
  I mean, you want the FULL 2 seconds, don't you
2. 9/22/08
  
  Jeunelle
  
  Wow a whole 2 seconds...Will you marry me?
  I want a good honeymoon and brand new cadillac.
  
  Its the least you can do if I have to put up with your Full 2 seconds of much ado about nothing.
3. 9/22/08
  
  ekim941
  
  I guess I could wear 2 condoms and give you 4 seconds.
  Gosh woman, I am not a machine. (that's in your top drawer).
4. 9/22/08
  
  Jeunelle
  
  @ekim941...hey hey hey...let's not go into what's in my top draw.
  I keep my lizards in there and gladiator outfit which is the perfect size for you.
5. 9/22/08
  
  Jeunelle
  
  Bring your own helmet and sandals.
6. 9/22/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Gladiator outfit? I was thinking more along the lines of wearing the alien outfit again, Uhh, I mean, for the first time ever.
7. 9/22/08
  
  Jeunelle
  
  Oh Ok...Well that can work too...
  Do you know how to probe?
  Or do I have to show you how it's done?
8. 9/22/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Yes.
  
  Step one- Open your top drawer.
  
  Step two- Ooops, not supposed to talk about your top drawer.
9. 9/22/08
  
  timethief
  
  @ekim & Jeunelle
  I howled . I literally howled with laughter all the way through your exchange. My cheeks hurt from laughing. Too funny.
  ..... I ♥ it
10. 9/22/08
  
  Jeunelle
  
  Heheheheee you all are going to get cancelled for sure.
  
  Yeah TT my cheeks are red, I can't stop laughing either.
11. 9/22/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Jeunelles cheeks hurt too but not from laughing
12. 9/22/08
  
  Jeunelle
  
  I recommend spanking...it's a good way to keep the cheeks
  in top shape.
13. 9/22/08
  
  ekim941
  
  So, probing with a side order of spanking, is that for here or to go?
14. 9/22/08
  
  Jeunelle
  
  This ain't no drive through sucker.
15. 9/22/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Sucker? I hardly know her.
16. 9/22/08
  
  Jeunelle
  
  That's your problem. I'm busy with my lizards...deal with it.
17. 9/22/08
  
  DaVincisBlogLog
  
  omg thank you so much for pointing out the yearly testing...It's a must even when in a committed or married relationship
  
  as far as humping something...I would say just get a bullet. I've been told it works wonders, lol
18. 9/22/08
  
  Jeunelle
  
  DaVincisBlogLog...Well isn't that the best advice ever.
  I could see how a bullet could end the desire.
  
  YES it's definately important to get yearly testing even if you're married, after all your spouse can bring something deadly home to you.
19. 9/22/08
  
  newward
  
  two thumbs up for the humor... I am crying over here!
20. 9/22/08
  
  timethief
  
  This is my all time FAVE humor thread
  ... I can't stop laughing. ...
  It's truly hysterical.
  You two could be a comedy team.
9/22/08

tjefferson85

i have forced abstinence, cause i am in iraq and i haven't seen a woman i na long while!

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1. 9/22/08
  
  DaVincisBlogLog
  
  wow I didn't realize you were blogging from afar...more power to you my dear. I'm even more flattered now that you take time out to follow me thank you for what you do.
9/22/08

tjefferson85

Well, your an interesting person, with a lot to say and i love the conversation, it's pretty lonely over here, lol.

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1. 9/22/08
  
  Jeunelle
  
  @tjefferson85....Thanks for keeping us safe over here.
  I will keep you in my prayers for a safe return home.
9/22/08

tjefferson85

@jeunelle and timethief
you both are also equally interesting and you all make me happy to have found this site! There are so many interesting and thought provoking discussions, not to mention the humor, lol. I love the whole experience, i hope to keep doing this for years. I know i'll never stop writing, so i will keep coming with my work!

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1. 9/22/08
  
  DaVincisBlogLog
  
  I feel the same way
9/23/08

blackzero85

xD @ comedy presented in this thread.

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1. 9/23/08
  
  DaVincisBlogLog
  
  yea some of this is pure comedy
9/23/08

bladeaxe4

nah, not really into practicing anything like that, i live on razor edge.. so i need my reserves of energy for keeping my journey on and on...

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1. 9/23/08
  
  DaVincisBlogLog
  
  wow, well I hope you share that with all your partners.
9/23/08

igmarketing

when we do it in the water, we use life belts. isn't that safe?

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1. 9/23/08
  
  DaVincisBlogLog
  
  lol
9/23/08

farangrakthai

Didn't they say somewhere that safe sex is no sex.
I think I read it on some American website...
So, no, we do not have safe sex.

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1. 9/23/08
  
  DaVincisBlogLog
  
  I think it's the safest sex is no sex, lol