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   9/14/09

   ThriftShopRomantic

   Unfortunately, it seems bad behavior gets attention more easily.
   
   And for every 10 people who frown on it, you'll still have a good chunk of folks who will either make excuses for it or condone it.
   
   I suspect it's a case of that old Oscar Wilde line about preferring to be talked about badly, than not talked about at all.

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   9/14/09

   mikeny07

   Anger Management was a great film that came out a few years ago. I wish everyone in the country would rent it. You will laugh throughout the movie.
   en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anger_Management

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3. 

   9/14/09

   HollytheHousewife

   Kanye west is the biggest,most arrogant ugly person I've ever seen in my life!!!!! Why do people still listen to him?
   
   Nothing ever happens to these idiots bc they can afford pr damage control and rehab....

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4. 

   9/14/09

   timethief

   It seems that good manners have been tossed out the window at all levels. These days it seems celebs are demonstrating bad behavior, so from celebs right down to the line to the ordinary everyday citizen our society is fed what we want to hear by the media - hyping of bad behavior. Like Jenn says above I believe the Oscar Wilde line has become the order of the day.

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5. 

   9/14/09

   Jaybetee

   Along these same lines, I listened to an NPR program the other day about the healthcare debate here in the states. One of the protesters against healthcare reform stated that he and his group get much more exposure by being loud, rude and instigative than they would if they actually had civilized discussions with people about the issues.
   
   I guess it's a situation that's not easily fixed. People by nature pay attention to the biggest, loudest and most controversial topics..so to get exposure more people become big, loud and controversial.
   
   In the case of Serena though, I don't think she was trying to get attention through her actions. I think she honestly was mad and lost her composure. She made a bad decision to let her emotions get the best of her instead of remaining composed and focused on winning. I can imagine how frustrating it must be to lose a point when your that close to being eliminated from a major match, but losing her temper obviously did not help.

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   1. 

      9/14/09

      MidwestMom

      I read Serena's apology, and while she said she shouldn't have lost her cool, she made a point of maintaining that the call was wrong. I didn't see the call in question, so I can't judge. But I wonder, if we compare what she said/did with John McEnroe's outbursts, would there be much difference??
      
      Maybe it's not so new.
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      9/14/09

      Jaybetee

      I definitely don't think it's new and, yes, it is very McEnroe-ish.
6. 

   9/14/09

   wagerwitch

   I don't know if its just the celebrities.
   
   I am seeing kids in our town act out inappropriately - and people in general doing things that are rude and uncalled for.. Online and off.
   
   I'm slowly getting disappointed in human beings.

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   1. 

      9/14/09

      timethief

      I share your disappointment. What I have witnessed online over the course of 6 years is a decrease in courteous behavior and an increase in bad behavior. These days one doesn't have to surf very much at all to witness personal attacks, defamatory statements, cursing, sexual innuendo, and cyber bullying online in blogs, forums and chatrooms. What I'm concerned about is that we may become so used to this bad behavior in online communities that it becomes accepted.
      
      In my own small, close knit and semi remote community I do not witness the same phenomena. In fact, the schools, homeschoolers, children's clubs and youth clubs here are focused on the opposite. They are focused on eliminating bullying and bad behaviors by teaching and enforcing courteous behaviors, and by providing professional counseling for transgressors. When our youth leave this place to attend highschool in the city on the big island they are frequently under attack by urbanite kids who seemingly have no boundaries. That's why parents here have chosen to become very active in the Parents Advisory Committees in the highschools and they are making a big difference.
7. 

   9/14/09

   Theresa111

   Arrogance is usually distasteful. Bad manners and shocking others is very boring to have to witness. Aren't most of us heartily disgusted and weary from displays of this nature?
   
   Were that everyone was cultured and displayed good breeding.

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   1. 

      9/14/09

      ThriftShopRomantic

      I don't know, Theresa. It seems over the last couple of years I've heard folks in forums praise controversial behavior because anything else-- nice, polite, etc-- is "boring."
      
      Perhaps it's an off-shoot of reality TV, where you gleefully betray your opponents and talk yourself up to the cameras.
      
      Certainly folks pay attention to and tend to know the folks who make the biggest scenes.
      
      I guess the question we need to each ask ourselves, is that what I want to be known for?
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      9/14/09

      Theresa111

      I have to agree that bad and cynical behaviors it the cool deportment. I would rather conduct myself in a manner whereby when I look back I will feel proud and not ashamed. I find it uplifting to appreciate people and to make them welcome and a little humility along the way is preferred to rampant ugly behavior, which I do not tolerate.
      
      It really all comes down to this: When one looks at ones reflection in the mirror what thoughts course through that tiny brain of your. Yes, my darlings, we all have little tiny brains.
8. 

   9/14/09

   HollytheHousewife

   Well sometimes there is a need to say OH HELL 2 the NO! I ain't gonna be treated like crap.
   
   What kanye and serena did,are spoiled rotten bratts that need to be checked

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   1. 

      9/14/09

      Jaybetee

      In my own experience, I have noticed that I may get more attention if I yell and make a scene, but I get way more accomplished if I approach something calmly and act with civility. Even when I have been involved in a "hostile" situation, I think the people you are arguing with find it easier to compromise with someone they feel has treated them with respect rather than yelling, fussing and possibly making them look bad.
      
      BTW Holly, I am not implying that you do this...just making a general comment based on my personal experiences.
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      9/14/09

      timethief

      I agree with your general comment based on experience simply because it mirrors my own life experience.
      
      In the region of Canada in which I live, yelling and making public scenes is tantamount to committing credibility suicide. It's almost a guarantee that nothing the histrionic scene maker ever says thereafter will ever be taken seriously. From there are out they will be discredited and avoided like the proverbial chicken running around in circles shrieking "the sky is falling", and/or the little boy who yelled "wolf" too often.
      
      I live in a small community in a region full of politically active citizens, and I do think we have something going here that those who live in cities have lost. We have the power to shun and to boycott drama llamas and, we use it.
9. 

   9/14/09

   HollytheHousewife

   Whateverrrrr,u know you're so talking to me,haha!
   
   I actually have gotten quite a few people to listen,even politicians. I wasn't totally rude to the senators,but I tell them what's going on on "main street" and how we are fed up. Somebody has to do it. I wasn't yelling or screaming at them,but I did show disdane towards them.

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10. 

    9/14/09

    Theresa111

    He's on Jay Leno and after the head hung down apology and BS explanation, now he's trying to perform. Turned the volume all the way down. Going back to HHM!!!!!

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