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Bald and Fat or Muscle bound Guy - which does it for you?
Posted by wagerwitch • 8/22/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: dude, get for real, you like em nice or beautiful
So like... I like ALL kinds of guys, but I'm a happy kinda gal.
I find HUMANS awesome and beautiful at every point of their life and stages of living it.
However, I noticed that men are exact in that they want bootilicious perfect women...
Ahem...
Women - ARE we THAT choosy?
And what do you honestly think of that other thread and conversation?
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How about fat and hairy? Bald and buffed? Howie Mandel?
Honestly, what you find ideal often remains just that - an ideal. What you find yourself attracted to and creating a relationship with in real life may be something quite different (or may turn into something very different that you still find attractive because it's not all about looks). -
I'm gonna be superficial here and go for the muscle bound guy. Ha! -
the other thread pushed my man-hating up to 11...-
I thought that setting was only for amps in "Spinal Tap".
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no, it goes for man-hating too
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Somehow picturing Epi getting a giant axe
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Ayuh - it kinda made me a little irked too - hence this amusing thread. LOL!
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I prefer hatchet axes...
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He's available, ladies
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Permanently, I dare say.
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Hey! If he was 5 inches taller (he looks quite short) and had normal clothes I would go for him!
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I think men are more focused on physical appearance than *most* women are. Men are wired differently than women are though--men are stimulated visually more than women are; seeing a beautiful woman stimulates them into wanting to procreate. There's a reason why men are stimulated in this manner--because they need to do most of the intitial work for procreating.
I believe that women have historically been drawn to men who could care for them--so most look for qualities that are not as visual. Until very recently in our history, women have needed men to hunt, to protect them, etc.
Also, I think women emotionalize love relationships more than *most* men do. Men can sleep with another woman and it might have ZERO effect on their marriage--they can compartmentalize sex and love. I think women have a much harder time doing this--at least this has been my experience in talking with women. When they sleep with a guy, most become at least somewhat emotionally attached.
Of course, I am talking about large generalizations here--there are definitely both men and women who don't fall into this general pattern.
My husband is not a typically "handsome" man--although to me, he is very sexy! But what makes him sexy is his confident, his kindness, his intelligence, and humor. I would love him no matter what he looked like.-
I think you're right on.
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I am in agreement here.
I've never been terribly "visual" when it comes to men. My first criterion is brains. I hate to admit it, but I just don't have much patience (and ultimately, respect) for a partner who cannot, at minimum, keep up with me intellectually. I have a strong preference for men who are smarter than I am...it keeps me on my toes, I am always learning stuff, and it keeps my ego in check.
Looks wise, the guys who go in for muscle building are just too narcissistic for me. Yes, I am generalizing, but I've known quite a number of men who spend hours in the gym building their muscles when they would have fared better spending those hours in a classroom, building their minds.
My husband is only 37, but already he has an adorable clear patch on the crown of his head...my "kissing spot." And he's plump...I don't find it unattractive at all...I think of him as robust. And he has a beautiful black moustache and goatee...although right now it is a full beard so he can drive his convertible with the top down in winter and not freeze his cheeks off.
But for me, looks aren't really an issue, one way or the other, and never have been. My high school boyfriend was not an attractive boy at all...but he was smart, funny, and adored me. What more could a reasonable girl expect?
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I appreciate the beauty of a muscle guy, I won't deny it. But, to be really attracted, interested in getting to know them, etc, I really have a thin for big guys, maybe because I'm chubby myself. I like to feel small when I'm next to a guy and to have that effect he has to be tall and chubby. I have not read the other thread because I know that 99% of the answers will be thin but with some curves, meaning small waist big boobs and buttocks.
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I like bigger guys too. Taller anyway--because I am tall myself. I've dated men who are shorter than me--but usually they are too uncomfortable with my height and that makes me uncomfortable.
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Oh, I'm a little shorty...virtually ALL men are taller than me!
My late husband, however, was 6'5" which was quite a contrast to my 5'3"! We had our challenges...
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I made the mistake of going to the other thread. I confirmed what I said above.
What is wrong with a guy that likes a chubby girl? Some of the answers make it sound like someone that likes a fat girl is mentally ill.
Isn't the average woman in the US size 14/16? That is not curvy my friends, that is a little fat. I'm a 16 myself and I consider myself fat. I know there aren't a lot of guys that like women like me, case in point I'm still single and I have had only 1 boyfriend. Still, making fun of the ones that do like that type of women makes me sick.-
I would LOVE to be a 16 again! (I am bigger than that.)
Don't let it make you ill...let it be a filter for you to determine which people are too shallow and/or mean spirited to be worth your time.
My husband was 29 when we met and had never been attracted to larger women. But we met on line and spent weeks (no pictures) getting to know each other before we met face-to-face. He knew I was a plus-sized lady before we met, but because of the time we had spent on the net together, there was more to me than my looks (size) to attract him.
Interestingly, after we had been dating for a while, he remarked that he had never realized how many attractive "larger" women there were. He began noticing them in the airport, around his office building, in the malls...it was like a whole new world of attractive woman had opened up to him!
We married about 2.5 years after we met. One of the things that caused me to know he was worthy of my love and affection was the fact that he could...and would...change his viewpoint with more input, and that he was obviously capable of maturing. One of his friends, same age, a nice young man but stutteringly shy and one of the nerdy guys who buttons his top shirt button and carries a pocket protector, is still single and doesn't date because he cannot see value in any woman who is not supermodel beautiful. The boy's gonna be alone for a long, long time!
Don't let the shallow and mean-spirited get to you, Deray. In fact, could be grateful that they put their personality flaws right out there where you can see them easily so that you don't have to waste time getting to know them, only to find out later they aren't worth the effort.
My husband is gorgeous...he's also balding, overweight, and has a goatee and moustache. But he's just perfect to me. -
Thank you SV, your story lifted me up a little. I'm probably just overly sensitive right now.
I have been on a couple of online dating sites for a while. I always put my picture because I don't want to be offended by anyone if they don't realize I'm big soon enough. I've had that happened and it's really hurtful. I'm really amazed at how many not-so-good-looking (to put it in nice words) guys want a Eva Longoria type of girl to date or marry and will not give an average woman a chance. You are right that when I see that I just move on because I know that if I contact them the best that can happen is not to get a response. Anyway, I'm glad your hubby was smart enough to see all your beauty, in and out ;). -
"What is wrong with a guy that likes a chubby girl?"
well, even though it is a western cultural taboo, women look healthy and fertile when they have some curves. The limit to this would seem to be that being in the HEALTHY range is good. -
also, attentive guys are naturally poor
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Deray--I am not a tiny woman myself--I am tall, with curves--I wear anywhere from a size 10 - 14, depending on the clothes.
You are going to meet someone who loves you completely, for who you are, inside and out. There are a lot of men out there who really are not that shallow--my husband is one and sweetviolet's is another.
Just remember to hold out for that special one--don't ever settle for anything less than what you deserve.
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Thank you Melinda, I think the same of you too
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I think they ALL are ok...
But notice - no pictures are posted in here....
And - check it - we women really accept men for WHO they are and NOT what they are...
Except maybe ACHE - LMAO - she kinda wants the fairytale Prince Charming... (LOL - she's so funny) -
Somewhere in between...looks aren't my main criterion.
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