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Brown Girls and White Guys?
Posted by Spootmyway • 8/19/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: racial issues
I went "House Hunting" with a friend the other day because he was looking to buy a house. The agent thought we were a couple and asked us 24 questions. It seemed as though she was shocked to see a "brown girl" and a "white guy" together. Is there something wrong with that?
Ummm... I don't think so!
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Of course not.
By the way, NPR did a story recently about black women and interracial dating. www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=111781484-
Interesting Article...
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Her 24 questions are more shocking than the scenario of "brown girl-white guy" living together ...-
Yeah, it was shocking to me as well, I didn't think people noticed it as much :s...or at least! I didn't think they'd care as much..
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I do not see anything wrong with it at all!-
Neither do I, It was just a little sketchy with her lol!
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was she like giving you the 3rd degree of why yall were together? what did you say? Why wouldn't you say,um it's kinda like none of your business,and you have a problem with it.... We could definately give your commision to someone else.-
Oh gosh, for once she (kinda) makes sense! -
I know right? She asked us how long we've been together, how we met, If we've met the parents, she asked what my background was. A lot of personal questions! I didn't want to be rude, so I just mentioned that we are here to look for a house for him, not find out about me from then on wasn’t pleasant; she was more of a b1tch than a real-estate agent since I was asking all the questions for him because he knew nothing about buying a house. Hence the reason, he took me with him.
I don’t think she understood that! -
What would your reaction have been if she hadn't shown interest in you? Of if she hadn't assumed you were a couple? Especially if you had been truly a couple. Would you have felt it rude? Would you have said, "What, she doesn't think a white guy would be with a brown girl?" -
Like I said,Hey just gotta Idea... Ya looking in M-town my aunt hasn't been able to sell a house in over a year. I'm sure she'd be MORE THAN HAPPY TO HELP!
Anyways,back to what I was saying,drop her like yesterdays gladiator shoes,and get someone that is willing to WORK FOR YOU! I've seen some of my aunts checks in the past(when the market was good) The realtor should be at your beck and call. If they aren't find one that is.
My aunt even has a (the phone can't ring more than 2xs policy)
if a client wants to see a house u drop what your doing and meet them there.
That is a good realtor. MAKE EM' WORK FOR THAT CHEDDA GUH!!!!
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I think what you're experiencing is the confusing aspect of racism in the 21st century.
it's like a sick game.
Certain pairings of interracial people are celebrated - while others are viewed with "circus freak" curiosity.
This will all disappear in a matter of decades. I'm not even sure it's all really "racism", but it does feel that way.
What I mean by that is that, looking in the mirror at myself and being honest, I have to confess that an asian male/black female pairing would probably strike me as "unusual" - doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it - but I recognize that I would recognize it is I guess what I'm saying.
It's also dynamics. The most prevelant interracial pairings are of the white female/black male and white male/asian female variety. Folks are bit more "used" to seeing these pairings (although speaking from a white male/asian female perspective, I've noticed that disturbingly we seem to be the group it's vogue to criticize and label in a disgustingly, blatantly racist way...i.e., "he must have an asian fetish", or "she must be a money grubber" - not to mention the usual "traitor" comments, which really ticks me off).-
Yeah, a lot of people are misunderstood. However, this area is very “classy” and there aren’t many coloured people around town! Especially when I moved here. We were the only coloured people in our neighbourhood, and we moved from a city full of diversity. So you can imagine how much of a change that would be.
Totally, people love to criticize, especially when they see their own race with another race. Usually, there quick to judge. “Why is he with her, blonde’s are so much hotter” or “Why is she with a white man?” Like, I’ve heard those before and to be honest it goes in one ear and out the other. You’d get the odd ones that’ll be a complete b1tch to you and then you’d have the people you know, talk to, and trust be happy for you. I guess people are always going to be people and we’ll have to deal with it. -
Why are you saying colored? I don't go around saying I'm a not much pigmented person. YOU ARE A PERSON first and foremost. Period end of story.
I have said this before to a VERY VERY GOOD friend of mine.
We ALL BLEED THE SAME COLOR!! There is NO difference between you and me,the John J. Mack's of the world,or the girl at 3rd and brooks standing on the street corner.
PERIOD END OF STORY
PEOPLE,HUMAN BEINGS,we are not different species of people,well most of us anyway -
Totally agreed!
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Good!!!
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in the town i live. 8 out of 10 white girls are dating (and will only date) black men. 7 out of 10 black women are only dating non-blacks so no one cares. Everywhere you turn, mixed kids are outside strolling with their parents. No one cares actually if you are not in an interracial relationship, people do a double take because they are not used to seeing that anymore. For me, i am too busy living my life to care about others so i say whatever floats your boat as long as it's not my man we are cool!
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Indeed - the beauty of interracial children is proof positive that we were meant to mix genes...otherwise we all end up like Arkansas "hill folk" after a few thousand years.
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can't see anything wrond with any girl being with any guy. I don't see what someone's color has anything to do with anything.. except that contrast is always a bit more spicy and exciting to the eye. Brown and white are complimentary colors and fit extremely well together.. like coffee and cream -
Have you ever been house hunting before? Have you ever dealt with a real estate agent before? If so, was this situation drastically different from before?
I think a lot of what people assume is racism is really just normal interaction seen through a lens of racism. Something like:
"That cop is watching me. Does he think I'm going to shoplift?"
vs.
"That cop is watching me, because I'm black. Does he think I'm going to shoplift, because I'm black?"
I've just recently been house hunting, and agents ask a lot of questions to get a feel for what you're looking for. It's just part of the process. -
She was probably shocked because it is more usual to see a brown girl in a ring tra la la la. -
I don't think people really care about this as much, I suppose though it depends on where you live in the country. My sister's husband is white and they get the "evil eye" occasionally. I've dated outside my race and got it a little too. My great grandmother is the product of a mixed race marriage. Her parents were forced to move north and live with their 13 children in the back woods so that they could have a life together in the late 1800s. Her mother was a white women of German heritage and her father was a very dark negro man.
If it weren't for love being color blind I would not be here today.-
Totally Understand! I don’t see why “colour” is such a big deal, I know back then it was hard core. I guess people are still adjusting to the evolving society and it’s modern changes.
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"I don’t see why “colour” is such a big deal"
In my experience, and from my point of view, "color" is more a big deal to those with the color than to those without the color. Sure, there are assholes [racists] all over the place, but they ain't the vast majority.
From reading and talking with a lot of people, there is almost no foolproof, universal, way for a "non-colored" person to interact with a "colored" person what some "colored" person, somewhere, some time, couldn't find offense or slight in the interaction. It's a frickin' mine field.
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She was mostly likely feeling you out to see if the neighborhood would be a good fit. I wish someone would have done that before my husband and I bought our home in a totally racist neighborhood and had to move two years later before my children knew what was going on. Don't take it personal, maybe she admired you two!-
You had to move because of that? Oh no! People are slowly adjusting! it'll take time for it to sink into people's heads that "It doesn't matter" anymore...
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"It" LOVE shoulda never mattered. LOVE DOESN'T HAVE A COLOR
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I'm not in a interacial marriage. But nonetheless nobody wanted "US" there. It was so obvious. Anyway, I'm so happy with the neighborhood we're in now. All colors all races. Great people and my kids have loads of friends:)
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Are you sure it had anything to do with race. I once (20 years ago) felt the realtor in LA was showing us shite houses because she thought my husband was mexican (often mistaken as one) and then I discovered anything in that price range was going to be shite.
It isn't unusual for Realtors to ask a LOT of questions regardless of race. -
As a couple people have said, it may not have anything to do with race. I'm not saying it wasn't on her mind, but a lot of agents do ask a lot of personal questions. -
The city I live in, a lot of people are fake and full of shit! We'll see how far she goes.
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Just ignore those kind of people. They are useless! They enjoy that kind of thing because they don't do have anything to do.
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Just keep asking the realtor "there aren't any filthy Belgians that live here, are there?"
(note: I've no idea why I always pick on Belgians considering I have Belgian ancestors...maybe it's their lack of military prowess over the years?)-
dr. evil started it
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oh, you'll meet lots of people like that here in Korea. You'll just get used to it after hearing it several times from people you meet.
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