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Can Men And Women Be a true Friends?
Posted by webdoor • 5/07/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: friends, man, woman
what do you think about it?
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Depends on the circumstance -
Depends on your definition of true friends. -
I believe men and women can be friends depending on the type of person they are. One just has to know the boundaries so as not to ruin your relationships or chance to have a romantic relationship with someone else. -
uh...yes. -
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Yes. I disagree with the notion that men and women cannot have platonic relationships. I also disagree with the notion that "men are from mars and women are from venus". IMO we have far more similarities than we do differences, and the "hype" focused on differences is aimed at creating a market for consumer products and upholding moribund patriarchal institutions and values.
The notion that men have stronger sex drives than women do and that they cannot control themselves is IMO utterly ridiculous. Without getting into details I can assure you that there are women with very healthy sexual appetites out here, who are capable of controlling their urges; of agreeing not to cross boundaries; and of forming platonic friendships with men that can last a lifetime.
IMO women learn from men and are inspired by them and visa versa. For example: If they want a relationship of any kind with me, men must learn to accept what I demand that they accept and I must do the same. In essence, male-female friendship is a mutual agreement between equals, who contract not to cross boundaries.
Also I can practically guarantee that you will dump all cultural "baggage" when you enter into the back country and bushlands where your survival is paramount and where co-operation is required. There male - female relationships become more genuinely "human" and that all that sensationalized "sexual" claptrap disappears from your mind and speech.
Those who I consider to be my very best friends happen to be males. I do have female friends too but my closest friends have been my friends for decades and, regardless of the ups and downs we have each experienced in our own lives, we have always been there for each other and we always will be.-
well input
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I think true friendship doesn't care about gender -
Unless trying to get into your pants is a friendly gesture, I'd have to say no.
Kidding, kidding. I actually have more male friends than female friends.-
LOL... if that happens, you still get friendly with him and send him to court.. hahaha
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I actually have more male friends than female friends. I find I am more open with the men than the friends. Men tend not to be so judgemental. I can truly shot the bull better with the guys, just relax and be more myself.
I sometimes feel women tend to judge each other even if they don't admit it. -
Of course! What's to stop them if they really want to? -
FRIENDSHIP IS a gift to mankind. A relation made by our choice and not force or fate. Friends are there to help us through difficult situations, they are there to laugh and cry with us, to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand, to make bad times bearable and also to make good times even more wonderful. Friendship comes in all forms and complexities, but nothing confuses this important relation as much as gender does. Now a friend can be of an opposite sex.
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Men and women can be friends. Assuming your talking about straight men and straight women-I think there will be varying degrees of sexual tension in the relationship. Perhaps its as simple as wondering if he/she finds you attractive or you find them attractive. Perhaps its in risking more about yourself and hoping that maybe something more will occur. I think its very possible to appear to be friends and deny the sexual tension in the air. But I guess you'd have to wonder if thats friendship? -
I don't see any reason why not. They just need to be on the same page.-
i also believe that men and women can be a good friends but as we know sometime at some stage there is sex involve in this relationship and then problem creates a long lasting friendship breaks why ?
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Yes'of course they can and once they are so true they can choose to do what they like. -
yeah..why not..as long they don't have deeply relationship to another.-
great defination
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is this some kind of discussion based on The Duke? When the final question in that episode was about can men and women be friends after they actually already had 'S**/intimate/couple/divorced' before. -
they can be.. they always end up being friendzzzzz -
Yes men and women can be friends. Come on we are not animals out here!
Although it is true that both have to have their own values and their understanding of the relationship they have has to be mutual, usually if one tries to cross the boundary and the other does not stop them then usually going back to being friends does not really work.
But if both of you treasure the friendship that you both share more than a one night... then it all works out just perfect!
And you know its friendships who have gone through this ( maybe we should feeling)and overcome that are usually stronger ones... -
Absolutely. But the tendency to check people out as prospects before getting to know them definitely gets in the way of that. It's hard to relate to someone naturally and develop a true friendship with someone when you're sizing them up to see if they fit your purposes as soon as you lay eyes on them.
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A men will always be a good friend of all women.. -
Yes - even I, BC's resident slut LOL, can be "just friends" with a man. In fact, one of my best friends is a man and I have never, nor will I ever, sleep with him. And he's straight. LOL-
does good friends just means having any physical relationship??? i dont think so...
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But, stjavo, is he "just friends" with you...or would he sleep with you in a minute if you'd agree?
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MikeandTiffany that's a great comments. Exactly what I was saying... the minute one of you gives in will the other reject?
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exactly...do u sjtavo???
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I thought they can but I changed my mind later..
I had a perfect friendship with a guy that 'd have been my best friend I could ever get, it was going ok until my heart started to think about it in a way that is beyond merely friendship feelings..
He didn't notice it because I didn't show it but I just couldn't continue acting like a friend while I feel something else!
That's way I feel so bad concerning male/female friendship..-
But there are risks with any friendship. I can't tell you how many of my friendships have broken off after a certain amount of time. And yes, I've been through exactly what you talk about, though for me it was a very good friend who I will remember forever, we began to fall a little bit beyond that the Summer before I moved across the country, and so I had to split myself from her and haven't spoken to her since. I would've taken her gladly if I hadn't moved to Atlanta and she still back in the Northwest, 2600 miles away.
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Of course there are risks, but it differs a lot when it's a male/female friendship rather than friendship of the same gender.
Finally someone went through the same! I'm sorry for you coz I really know how does it feel like.
I mentioned he was seriously one of the people I'm not sure I will meet someone like again or not, I can't just lose someone like him so we still in contact electronically but at the same time, I hate the fact I'm acting someone who is not really me! -
Sure can. My best friend all through school was a guy and still continue to have a large number of guy friends that I play pool, cards, watch the ball games with. I once had a debate about this with one of my "guy friends" who disagreed with me completely. He said that guys can't be your friend the same way a girl can and stated that more times than not, the guy wants more from you, whether it be sex or a relationship. I don't believe that is the case with all guys. -
Yes, of course. Many of my best friends are women. -
Ditto the above, except reverse the genders. :-)
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