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Can men and women be friends?
Posted by stayfitbug • 9/15/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: Dating, friends, life, love, relationships, women
Can they? Or is it just friendship that could possibly blossom into something special.
Because of that scenario, is it then possible for men and women to be TRUE friends, without that thought even coming into play?
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I have tons of female friends who I would never date because of their set of values but would not forsake as friends. No special reason why this can't be the case. And anyways, even if the thought does occasionally come up, as long as you think about these things somewhat ahead of time you can dismiss it quickly. -
I have loads of male friends and the thought never comes into my head to change it from just being friends. I am very close to 3 of my male friends, we spend most of the week together, go out and do general friend things and also know everything about each other. One good thing about being close to the boys is that they look after us girls and do anything for us
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But do you know if they are thinking the same, and that they don't see you i the 'attractive' light what so ever. If any of those friendships became more than just friends, what does that then mean? Would it be wrong?
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Yes they just see us as friends. We talk about "relationships" we have with other people and if we're out and see someone we find attractive we let each other go for it, with no jealousy or anything. We know each other very well to know that it cannot go any further between us.
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See, i've had that kind of friendship before, but after a while, deep down you both know something is there. But can that be controlled? Should it be controlled? Is that just like an interview process for a possible real thing?
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yes, we have a common passion, art. That's as far as it goes. -
I have one platonic male friend. The rest just wanted to get in my pants or got jealous, so I had to terminate the friendship.
I can be friends with a guy if he keeps quiet about his intentions and doesn't pester me constantly, but I've found that a lot of men find that difficult. -
i absolutely believe men and women can be friends. it's been my experience, however, that we may end up sleeping together once and then never again because of how much we value our friendship, but I have many male friends I consider among my closest (some of whom I have NOT slept with) and we share everything. I look at them as my brothers, an extended family and share a deep love and pride for them. Having said that, when you start dating someone, that man tends to be very jealous/suspicious of those friendships and it's always a dilemma but I never forfeit my friendship - my partner just has to learn to deal.-
see.. you sleep together once... so friendship that could lead to something special. You did sleep together after all. that last statement is a common problem...Why? because your partner knows how men think
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The only platonic relationship I have with a male is with my gay bff.
Thats it. But that's just me.-
That i can get. But straight men and female's as friends...only? I don't buy it. Unless you are just associates. but where do you draw the line, because every good relationship usually starts off as a friend ship (learning months/ years). Should that then be could something else other than friendship? Like testing game? Or a horrible word like INTERVIEWS?
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Well my point here is that that is just me. I think depending on the type of person, situation and nature of the relationship it's is totally possible to have a platonic relationship with the opposite sex. I don't ever think on standard fits every person, that's way to general.
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I think it works best with men who have strong beliefs of some sort because they're used to limiting the field.
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why not ? yes ,it's possible thatcan men and women to be TRUE friends. i have lots of friends .
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Sure they can. 2 of my absolutely best friends are guys. We even all lived together in Toronto for over a year. -
I like to sleep with my friends so yes. Or atleast try. Thats how our friendships start -
Surely! I prefer male friends dan women.
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I think you need to participate here @ your avatar
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Of course it's possible. Especially when one of the two is gay, or both. -
I have many close male friends, many of whom have been in my life for a couple of decades without a hint of anything romantic/sexual between us. -
If you ask a female friend for sex n she really doesn't mind (provided there is a right context) and then you back off because you didn't really mean it - that's platonic friendship-
Or if you simply never ask, for the right reasons, to begin with.
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Point I was making is, she's there for you as a true friend, even if sex ever became necessary...
And you don't really want that from her
And I may add, the trust! -
Understood.
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Well of course boys and girls can be friends... -
why not? The mind is sexless.-
I'm not sure that's entirely true but I will say that the heart has many compartments and it is easy enough to fit people as appropriate, and once someone has been fitted that way they remain that way whether they like it or not.
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Now that is one thing to think about! @ compartments
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I have plenty of male friends. They have all tried to get in my pants and the ones who took "no" for an answer are the ones I still talk to.-
Well... it's because they now know where they stand i guess.
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O Suzie, that reminds me. When are you coming by to pick up your pants? -
I was wondering where I had left those.
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hanky panky on BC. Gosh is this place sexual
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I have quite a few male friends I would never date - I love them to death, I may have even slept with them once or twice, but a romantic relationship (or repeat of physical relations) will never happen.
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Men and Women can ofcourse be friends but not "best" friends. The feelings tend to slip over the table from either of the individuals.
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Now that I disagree with completely. For a lot of high school my best friend was a girl who was properly compartmentalized in my heart and did not trouble my glands one bit.
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Yes they can be just friends. A person who cannot just be friends is either A) immature, B) sexually frustrated, or C) immature and sexually frustrated. Most friends would rather stay friends becuase they realize that dating between them would be a waste of time and a waste of a friendship. -
Yeah.. I did read it somewhere that this scenario is possible only when both or one of them finds the other person even just a teeny bit repulsive..
Other than that.. no way. -
Of course they can, I mean two people of the same sex can be friends without this question being raised. It depends on the intention of the friends. -
The premise of the question is that sexual relations and friendship are incompatible. I think that's a truism, not the truth.
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True, but there is a certain inherent value to NOT having a sexual relationship as well. People need barriers, and as I've pointed out before there is only an intrinsic value to monogamy, with complete monogamy being the best kind.
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Of course you can be friends with the opposite sex without it going anywhere. You can even find that person attractive, doesn't mean you want to or will sleep with them.
My best friend is a man, we've known each other since we were 13 and were in our mid 30's now. Not once has anything ever happened between us.-
I agree with bettieblogger. Those who I consider to be my very best friends happen to be males and our relationships have never included sex. I do have female friends too, but my closet friends have been my friends for decades, and regardless of the ups and downs we have each experienced in our own lives, we have always been there for each other and we always will be.
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