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Can we control our Anger for 1day? ( Day without Anger )
Posted by friend4all • 10/05/07 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Tags: anger, irritation, maturity, self conscious, self control, temperament, Vision
Hello friends,
I like to ask all of you here, is that possible we can have a single day without Anger?
I start today with this view in mind-- I m not going to get mad on anyone? Let’s see. I m sure it's applicable to all of us. We need to be more conscious about our action with others than others action with us.
I m going to share my experience next day.
Let's see?
User Comments
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One day? Isn't that the way we're supposed to live every day? -
MadameX - Excellent Point. -
It's easy for you Madame i think , not for all. i m sure all must be agree with me on that. those are ideal human who abble to live without anger everyday. To start with i say One day.
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Friend4all, my knee-jerk reaction to this was to say that it wasn't easy, that it takes work for everyone, but then I had to step back and reconsider a little. It's true that there are always SOME situations that that arouse anger in all of us, but I do think that it's much easier than it used to be. Whether that's because I'm older now (in my early forties) or because I used to be a REALLY crappy Christian instead of just a mediocre one I'm not sure, but there is definitely a difference. Whether through age, nature, divine inspiration or practice I do not know, but I have come to the point where most of the things people do that would once have angered me only make me concerned for them.
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I'm sure you're right. It must be easier for some then others.
My personal thoughts on this is:
.....If someone has to start off each morning reminding themselves that they are going to do their best NOT to get mad or angry at anyone today. Then I think maybe there are deeper issues inside that person. - More then likely who ever is pissing them off is probably clueless of why or what they did to make them so unhappy or angry.
Their understanding of the matter is at a different level.
I do know this, Christian or non-Christian, healing starts with forgiveness and most of the time we have to forgive ourselves before we can think of having a better day.
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Live without anger for a day. What a wonderful start. What if, say, we could parent without anger! How the world would change! -
Jesus was angry and boy he really flipped some tables lol
Anyway... at the moment i'm drinking this energy drink called "Assault".
You should see the smile on my face, I think it' stuck there.
This stuff kicks me to get going lol
All smiles here today
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Hi I'm a Solid Believer in Enlightenment, Serenity and Peace.; These days, I don't experience Anger anywhere near as much as I use to in my younger years.; Nowadays, it takes quite a beating for me to experience genuine anger.
I try to picture an ideal, and draw a line between what's important, and what's not, and the relative degrees between each issue. If something's not as important as something else I keep closer, then, it's not really worth worrying about it, or getting uptight about it.
Anyways, sometimes I can go days, even weeks, withouht experiencing anger or a feeling of equivalent difficulty. -
Yeah well that's not too easy to accomplish when your girlfriend flips for no apparant reason... I'll try not to be angry with her though when she returns. :-| -
well, i think i m getting all reply with individual reactions for someone else action towards us. Don't you think , we have givine our control to others?
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Hey Richard,
I think u r on right track. That’s the way we should live our life. Being conscious about our self as well as things happen with us, to us, around us, can make a lot difference. -
but if I controlled my anger, I wouldn't have any fun rants in my blog.
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hahahaha, try to find out fun from Positive Action in life than Anger. it's unique feeling.
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Well I already know you can hurt people if you react like you don't care at all that they're angry.
You're not necessarily angry in ressonse, but it can make the situation worse sometimes.... :-S
And sometimes we need to speak up in order to assert ourselves. -
I am human so expect to get angry every now and then if I do not acknowldge that anger it will simply pile up into emotional baggage better for me to say yep I am angry acknowlege why accept it let it go and move on :o)the problem I think is when you become attached to your emotions -
Why not? Don't get angry in the first place! -
Synchronicity,
I do agree with what u say at end. We do need to speak up in order to assert ourselves. Could you tell me, out of 10 time anger, how many times it was just to speak up and how many times it was other than that? -
It is possible not to get angry for one day.. all you have to do is lock yourself in an empty room with no human interaction at all. It is that simple. But you will be bored for sure..-
I'd just piss me off if I did that.
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Footiam,
you mean to say it's just 1,2,3 ? -
Hey Riduan,
thanks for comment. Is that possible we lock our self in empty room and we have no anger for that day?
I like to let you know we can have anger on our self too when we are alone? That anger is called Bored with our self. what you say? -
I'm not sure this is all that useful a goal. There are perfectly good reasons for anger, and anger properly expressed can be a useful instructional tool.
Perhaps you meant innapropriately angry. -
anger?
possible if you do not do anything *whole day* -
For me, anger does come up from time
to time, though far less than it did
when I was less happy with my own self.
And when it does come up, I acknowledge
it is there, so it can be released. I
think it would be unhealthy to pretend
I don't have anger now and then, to
stuff it inside and ignore it... then
it would fester, unhealed. So, yes,
I get angry, and it's OK. I express
it in ways that are safe to me and
others, and then let it go. That
seems like basic personal energy
management to me.
On the other hand, if you find
yourself getting angry a LOT, then
you probably need to examine your
life situations, and your responses
to them, because there may be some
adjustments that are needed. Also,
if you express your anger in ways
that are harmful to yourself, or
to others, then you could probably
do well to get some new anger
management tools.
It seems to me also that many
people do not know how to deal
with basic every day stresses
that come up, and instead of
de-stressing themselves, to
RELEASE the pressure, it just
builds up until it boils over
into anger. So, there is one
way anger can be avoided, by
learning techniques to deal
better with the day to day
stresses we all encounter,
and NOT let them build up
into a bigger problem.
Oh, and as for the original
question - is it possible to
go for one day without anger-
sure it is. I go through most
days without anger.... though
it's not about 'controlling'
my anger, I just don't happen
to get angry in the first place,
so there's nothing that needs
controlling there. -
Jaya
I like to give a brief comment—
1)Do we able to feel anger is coming up inside us? We are that much conscious about changes inside us? If yes, than i m sure, the person won't get angry.
2)Do we able to control our self that time when we feel anger is co ming up inside us?
I do agree with your statement that day2day stresses can lead to anger if we not able to get our self release with stresses. -
It seems to me, though I could be
incorrect, that you judge anger
as a BAD thing. I don't. To me,
anger is just a natural response
to certain stimuli. If it is out
of balance, and is disruptive in
your life, then it is a problem.
But otherwise it is, as I said,
just a natural response to stimuli.
When I am emotionally healthy, less
stimuli causes a response of anger
in me. But all the same, I don't
have the desire or goal of eliminating
anger from my life.
I do, however, wish to have control
over my RESPONSE to any anger that
does arise. For instance, if I saw
someone throw a rock at my dog, I
would be angry. I would hope that,
while recognizing (not suppressing)
my anger, I would stay calm enough
to talk to the person, and find out
why they did what they did, and not
react in a manner that would make
the situation even worse.
So for me, the important thing is
not to avoid getting angry, but to
know myself well enough to understand
why I am angry- what it was that triggered
me, and then to control reaction to the
anger (rather than letting the anger
control me). -
Hi,
Anger it self bad. It's only exceptional even when we can use our anger for positive or creative purpose.
I do agree with what u says at last--- to know myself well enough. Yes, if we know our self 100%, i m sure we don't need to control anger. Important questions raise here is ------
“Do we know our self 100%?“ -
Its really not easy to control anger for even oneday. -
Does is really difficult? i don't think so, it's very easy for a mature person.
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