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Date someone new or someone fro the past?
Posted by stayfitbug • 9/20/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: blog, blogcatalog, Dating, friendship, fun, internet, Online, relationships, women
Now i just had to bring this discussion over here to my lovely folks here at BC. Now...
You are fresh on the dating scene
do you,
Date someone new
- Time to build trust
- Inevitability have to go on many dates to start forming a relationship
- Spend MONEY (if that even bothers you)
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Date someone you already know
- Have history (Could be good history)
- You know what you are getting
- Had a thing for each other in the past but were both in relationships with other people
What are your views on this and which to go for and why?
User Comments
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It doesn't matter to me. If there is chemistry there, I'll give it a chance (past or new).-
I prefer to date someone I knew but of course if I am attracted to her of course! -
I'd say both... but sometimes going backwards isn't cool. Crazy horse... you need to put the full size avatar up here.
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Someone new. You'll never know what to expect...-
spontaneity
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What's that?
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spontaneous. Do things without a plan as such and go with the flow
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I know what that means . i was just kidding
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It seems easier to get things rolling with someone from the past - also you tend to know more where you are setting your foot. Although, this seems to me to be more of a secondary consideration. -
I think the best relationships are based on friendship - I've tended to date people I've known for awhile or have been friends with rather than brand new guys - brand new don't quite know how I click. I have a friend right now who is convinced we're gong to get married LOL and we're not even dating!-
I agree somewhat too. But the argument is... if you are FRIENDS, should that thought of trying to get with you even come up. Should you even call that type of friendship... friendship?
www.blogcatalog.com/discuss/entry/can-men-and-women-be-friends -
I think your comment is reflective of a whole different way of viewing relationships that is probably not common to people who form relationships based in long-term friendship. I don't think "trying to get with you" is the mindset, at all, of a long-term friend who comes to believe, based on the length and depth of that relationship, that you'd make good life partners. -
True, that it is a different way to view things, as sometimes the feelings can be unexpected and truly mutual. Both parties sometimes may not even have viewed themselves in that light. But hey, that is usually the base of a good potential long term relationship which would have stemmed from an initial friendship.
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Someone new. If it didn't work in the past why I would insist on it? I think we must leave the present.-
Someone new. Live & Learn.
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I can't imagine ever dating someone I didn't already know pretty well, but that doesn't necessarily mean "had a thing for each other in the past". I think the best relationships grow out of friendship.
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Ugh, it's not good to look back. I say move forward.-
I must agree with you. I hate people who live in the past.New doesn't mean someone that just come out of the blue. It can be a new friend.
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Date someone I already know because I know what I'll be walking into and the best relationships do grow from friendship. -
I would try to date someone new but that wouldn't work out because I'm not really attracted to them and then set up some awkward whatchamacallit on Craig's List and then back out because it didn't seem satisfying although it sure was when I was in the relationship and then sit alone at home eating ice cream and potato products wondering whether I will ever find love again or whether that love is just a sick reaction produced by my body because biologically it wants to reproduce and betray me.
You know, like, hypothetically. If I were trying to go on dates. -
I have a problem with dating old lovers. I am a repeat offender.
But it's true what people say, it really is the 'same old issues.'
Familiar is not always 'better' when it comes to matters of the heart.-
if there is a bad pas..even the smallest of issues, it probably will come up. Old skeletons are a no no when its like that.
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