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Dealing with a Problem POA a.k.a. Booty Call

Posted by sjtavo • 9/14/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: booty, Dating, sex

So my discussion post just got deleted?? here it is again! LOL I have a POA [Piece of Ass} who just doesn't get the picture... he will not go away nor see my reasoning/logic...

read my blog to get the dirt and any advice is welcome!!

thanks for the replies that I received before my discussion piece suddenly disappeared!

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9/14/09

TJlubrano

Haha I just wrote a comment and then suddenly it was gone! I'm not so sure if you read it...but I'm sorry you have a case of POA. I would be running in circles! But man! He's really persistent! I doubt erasing his number will work?

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1. 9/14/09
  
  sjtavo
  
  wouldn't do any good - we have each other's numbers memorized (he's been a POA for over 2 years, I just ended the POA relationship with him in July after, once again, outting him to his girlfriend!) It's ridiculous and nothing I do works. He's not a dumb guy but he's really dense about all this - it makes him such an annoyance! [yea i don't know how it suddenly got deleted but i did get your comment before it disappeared! LOL]
2. 9/14/09
  
  TJlubrano
  
  Wow!!! Really really annoying! I think if he doesn't stay away after telling him that you are seriously through with him...go with what WW says...get a restraining order. I don't know what other option is left.
9/14/09

wagerwitch

LMAO - well - that's an interesting topic.

A lot of people don't see women as capable of being "LIKE" men in that we just like them for a piece of meat.

And once their purpose ends - and/or they get serious... We want them to go away.

However - the problem of the convo getting deleted isn't because of the topic - it is because you posted YOUR link IN the post.

And - well - that is kinda frowned about - cause people click on your name - go to your BC page - and then go to your blog.

I used to post my link in every thread and every post I made here at first - until I learned you weren't supposed to... LOL!

Anyhow - about your annoying dude...

Just don't respond - tell him you're not going to respond - that you're done - thanks for the time - but you're now seeing someone else - and you'd appreciate it if he'd let you enjoy your life - cause this guy JUST MIGHT BE THE ONE!!!!

And then if that doesn't work...

Get a restraining order.

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9/14/09

cookingasshole

what a loser! you should denigrate him further by blogging about it...oh wait.

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9/14/09

sjtavo

ahhh thanks for the advice on the link - and lack of inclusion to avoid deletion (I'm such a newbie LOL).

I have tried the "I'm dating someone" card - he lays off for a couple weeks and then he's back. I will intentionally pick fights with him just to get a couple days' of silence. It's ridiculous!

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1. 9/14/09
  
  cookingasshole
  
  sounds like you are doing all the right things!
9/14/09

DailyBeerReview

Restraining Order.

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9/14/09

sjtavo

a restraining order for texting?? if they were threatening I think i'd have an argument but they're a nuisance more than anything else from a deeply confused, emotionally retarded, sex-starved 30 year old man. I think the cops would just look at me like "come on, mercy f&ck him already" or something!

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1. 9/14/09
  
  TJlubrano
  
  Oh haha well it sounded really serious and annoying and that it got on your last nerve. Hmm let's see. If they're just a nuisance, can't you ignore it all? Or change number?
  
  Have to agree with WW again. With what she says below. Stalking is against the law.
9/14/09

wagerwitch

Restraining order because stalking is against the law - ONCE YOU HAVE TOLD SOMEONE TO GO AWAY - and they keep contacting you - is against the law.

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9/14/09

sjtavo

it's ridiculous - i guess because my attitude has always been if someone tells me to go away, stops responding to me, etc.... i just leave them be - rejection is a part of life and i'm certainly not going to degrade myself by chasing someone who doesn't want me - so why can't he get the picture? men are "supposed" to be strong and self-sufficient - this is just a prime example of rejection depression I guess..

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1. 9/14/09
  
  wagerwitch
  
  People in general are all different.
  
  This man sounds like a man who LOVES to be rejected and LOVES to grovel.
  
  Sad - but some people are like that.
  
  But since he is NOT going away - and YOU WANT him to go away - and you WANT him out of your life - but he keeps surfacing - the only thing you can do is NOT give in to his needs.
  
  You tell him: Please don't contact me in any way EVER again - I do not wish to speak with you. ANY OTHER FORMS OF COMMUNICATION WITH ME will result in me contacting the police for your stalking behavior.
  
  After that:
  You hang up on him.
  You don't respond to his texts.
  You document every contact attempt.
  You turn the information into the police if it happens after you tell him not to contact you.
  You continue to hang up and not respond.
  If he tries to show up at your place - you call the police instead of answering the door.
  
  People like this can turn into MAJOR problems - and can be deadly if you are not careful.
  
  These kind of people love to be hurt - but once they get their fill of being hurt - they explode.
  
  And you might be the trigger that starts the explosion.
9/14/09

PetLvr

I think it's called "mixed messages" when you say stuff like ..

I have told him I don’t want to hear from him until he is absolutely single.

.. because it says you still want him.

If that's the case - to solve two birds with one stone, perhaps you should only insist that there will be booty call when it's a threesome with his girlfriend.

I believe they call that the "George Costanza" move. If POA tells girlfriend, she will be sick of the suggestion and dump POA leaving him to be single for you. Or, he will be too chicken to ask the girlfriend and ultimately leave you alone. If POA tells girlfriend and they both show up at your doorstep, you can embarrass POA by wondering what a horrible suggestion he has made and kick him out of your life forever. Or, so it's another booty call night except with 3 people.

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1. 9/14/09
  
  sjtavo
  
  LMAO ok that was absolutely hilarious! I wouldn't mind reinstating his POA status - I am simply sick of the drama with his girlfriend/quasi-girlfriend. And because of his lying and cheating and plain just being annoying, I don't even want to sleep with him. I'm just in a catch-22, I realize that. But even when I tell him stay away under no uncertain terms, he still doesn't stay gone. it's sort of sad LOL