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Posted by ModelElaine • 8/14/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
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8/14/08

wenfri

I married one but have no idea where he went to LOL

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1. 8/14/08
  
  Mooqi
  
  OMG, that is too funny! Sometimes I wonder the same.
2. 8/14/08
  
  PetLvr
  
  um.. for all men.
  
  :Ptfttffftttttttff
3. 8/18/08
  
  VampireFaust
  
  HAHAHAHAAH!!!
4. 8/05/09
  
  jrmellem
  
  I married a good looking woman but she must have left with the man she married.
8/14/08

AmyOops

nope personality

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8/14/08

JanelleV

Looks aren't everything.. But I have to admit -- my boyfriend is pretty handsome!

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8/14/08

thefly

Oh man, I hope not, haha.

buzz buzz

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8/14/08

calais50

No, pasty, hairy, troll man, where are you?

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1. 8/14/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  I have one just right on my blog post
2. 8/18/08
  
  kevinatserieatalk
  
  @calais
  
  lol that gives me an idea for the next discussion post
8/14/08

Scribblerchick

No, most women will prefer personality over looks. Men, alas, make initial judgments based on looks alone. Either you pass or not. At least, that's my experience after 20 years in the dating world.

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1. 8/14/08
  
  ThriftShopRomantic
  
  Yup, I've seen pretty much the same thing.
2. 8/14/08
  
  thefly
  
  Hey, thats not fair, not all guys are like that. Ill admit that an attractive woman might get my attention quicker but its not like its a pass or fail thing. Looks just give some women a head start, doesnt mean you lost already. For me, looks are just a plus to an already gleeming personality. Id rather talk to someone for hours than look at them for hours.
  
  buzz buzz
3. 8/14/08
  
  ThriftShopRomantic
  
  Not trying to over-generalize, Sir Fly.
  
  Just even guy friends I had in college-- nice guys, too-- would take one look at a girl and could instantly name the feature they didn't like. "Nope, dude, weird mouth... large head... big nose..." whatever. And then, that was that girl off their checklist.
4. 8/14/08
  
  thefly
  
  But dont women do that too. Ive heard them talk about the same stuff. "Oooh, girl, he's too broke, you see those shoes, they're old as heck and that shirt, he looks like a hobo."
  
  Just sayin'
5. 8/14/08
  
  ThriftShopRomantic
  
  But being unkempt is a sign of other issues. Where having a big nose is genetics.
6. 8/14/08
  
  thefly
  
  how bout having an empty wallet? Isnt that just as vain?
7. 8/14/08
  
  ThriftShopRomantic
  
  Still goes back to money management (finance being a HUGE problem for couples and a big cause of divorce) and personal goals/aspirations.
  
  It's vain if you're concerned he's not spending his money on YOU.
8. 8/14/08
  
  thefly
  
  But what I was asking was isnt that just as vain?
  
  Update: Oh, darn, you added to your comment, haha.
  
  I guess Ill still leave mine here, haha.
9. 8/14/08
  
  ThriftShopRomantic
  
  Sorry, wasn't trying to thwart you there, Fly-- I'd just realized I hadn't answered the whole question.
10. 8/14/08
  
  kikophrank
  
  i don't buy that.. that's a pretty unfair generalization.. i think it's all the same, male or female.. people are different.. a lot are stupid..
8/14/08

usborneactivities

I think personality is way more important. Also the way they treat you is very important. Most drop dead gorgeous guys are jerks who only care about themselves. Ok, I know I'm going to get the flak for that one.

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1. 8/14/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  I agree
8/14/08

CrystalRaven

I think you have to be attracted to something about the person, but that may not be their looks

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8/14/08

voodooKobra

If so, I'm screwed.

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1. 8/14/08
  
  flamingpoodle
  
  Or not screwed..
2. 8/18/08
  
  voodooKobra
  
  Har har.
8/14/08

calais50

I think there has to be some physical attraction there, but personality is king. The guy I'm dating (the one who said he loved me after 6 dates) is good looking, insanely intelligent, relatively wealthy, and treats me like a queen. Of those things, the last one is most important.

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8/14/08

richsinglemom

Nah...I had one and he thought he looked better than me and wanted me to cater to him all the time. I prefer personality, kindness, and average looks.

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8/14/08

Anok

Define "good looking"

I think my husband is to-die-for handsome. Everyone esle sees a weirdo

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1. 8/14/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  Good looking to me means I would sleep with him
2. 8/14/08
  
  thefly
  
  alright then elaine, how can we arrange this then.
  
  Ill take the couch and you can have the bed then, haha.
3. 8/14/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  thefly,
  
  you just reminded me of this guy I had dinner with a couple of days ago (first date). The waiter was setting our table when I said to this guy "I don't usually have sex on the first date. Not unless I get hammered" My date exclained "Tequila please!"
4. 8/14/08
  
  Anok
  
  Right, well to me it just means handsome features. Of course, what I consider to be handsome, most women see as scum!
  
  So, I guess it's safe to say that ALL women want a "good looking' man, but he may or may not fit the conventional ideal of "good looking".
5. 8/14/08
  
  kat822
  
  nice elaine
6. 8/14/08
  
  thefly
  
  Tequila Please!!
  
  buzz buzz
7. 8/14/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  You know it was a joke right?
8. 8/14/08
  
  thefly
  
  Oh yeah, sure, haha. I was joking around too.
  
  buzz buzz
8/14/08

tiggyblog

I'd rather date a not-so-handsome man with a great sense of humour than a handsome guy with the personality of a can of peas. I guess having a great wit makes someone more attractive in my eyes? It also helps if they have a nice smile and a large

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8/14/08

SolReka

The more money a man has, looks then take second place.

Sad but true.

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8/14/08

KaiteeThePirate

I don't find conventionally attractive men to be attractive, mainly because the few I have known/dated tend to be jerks.

The best part about it is that most women seem to go for the above ideal which suits me fine because it leaves all the nerdy and weird dudes for me.

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8/14/08

keyster94

I think "good looking" is different for everyone...I have a friend married to a guy I don't think is attractive, and neither did she until she got to know him...

Let's get real though, looks don't hurt! Of course the guy needs to have a personality and a brain and be nice and all, but being attractive is what makes you WANT them to begin with....

And so, since you said do we WANT good looking men, sure! But we don't necessarily have to have them to be happy.

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8/14/08

MadameX

I think most people (male or female) want to be physically attracted to their partners, but that attraction isn't necessarily based on objective good looks.

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8/14/08

kat822

I am attracted or not attacted to personality, if they have no personality they aren't getting any kat time

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8/14/08

blogonsmog

I have to keep the mask on - otherwise I have to beat back the women...so superficial of them.

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8/14/08

boytrotters

Well, my wife must not care about looks 'cos she settled on me, which is weird... my personality ain't much chop either. And it's not like she didn't have much to choose from; there were tons of guys beating down her door. All I can conclude is that love's a mystery.

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8/14/08

KiefersCorner

If my memory recalls my wife didn't marry me for my looks LOL. This i know for a fact since i had this dork thing going at the time. But she tells me she did get a good deal for the 3 dollar investment ( thats her words )

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8/14/08

howardbannister

Some women want good lookin' women.

Just sayin'

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1. 8/14/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  I like both, but I am a lot pickier about women, even more so than I am about guys
2. 8/14/08
  
  kat822
  
  tequila please lol
  NOT
8/14/08

Katuluu

I'm pretty sure all women want a man they find good looking, no matter what anyone else thinks.

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8/14/08

lulubelleb

I don't date anyone who's prettier than I am. Water seeks its level...

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8/14/08

drjay1966

Some women seem to want me...I'm not sure if that's a yes or no to your question.....

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8/14/08

acousticguitarist

Gosh, I hope so, I'll always do allright if they do...oh yeah that's right I've got a brain too.

When I met a young women when I was 18, she said to me "oh wow, you're really smart, I thought you were just a dumb beach boy."

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8/14/08

kat822

I don't think you are dumb i've seen ya you are a cutie

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1. 8/14/08
  
  acousticguitarist
  
  red pandas are the cutest... and im not 18 ..gee i wish i was
8/14/08

SweetViolet

When I was single I tended to avoid good-looking men. My experience is that they endure extremes of temptation...I have actually had them approached by women right in front of me!...and it is just too easy for them to stray.

My first criterion is intelligence, the second is kindness, the third is a sense of humour. If a man has all three, he has a chance with me. If he is missing even one, then he can be the most beautiful man in the world but I will not have even the smallest shred of interest in him.

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1. 8/14/08
  
  acousticguitarist
  
  my order for women
  
  Looks > Honesty > Emotional Intelligence> Intelligence > Humour > Music/Art
  
  oh that's right, this is a womens post and here i am filling it up with my nonsense
2. 8/15/08
  
  SweetViolet
  
  Panda, looks aren't even on my list. I found my husband extremely attractive long before I had any idea what he looked like. We met on line, did not exchange photos or physical descriptions. He was smart, from our many discussions I could tell he was kind, and he was funny in a droll, low-key, British humour sort of way. It was a nice surprise to find he was good-looking although he does not see himself as such.
  
  He's smart, he's sweet and kind, he's funny...I'd have been attracted to him if he looked like a troll!
3. 8/15/08
  
  acousticguitarist
  
  that's nice and if that's what makes you happy great
  
  you met on line wow
8/14/08

hayvensage13

the smart ones do =D

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8/15/08

naniez

hi... i will look for man personality..:)..

Women and Beauty

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8/15/08

amitchopra22

i think girls like faces, heights and personality of man and money matters a lot for some girls too if she doesn't have any feelings. the intelligent and practical men may not be beautiful everytime. so please girls love intelligent and faithfull men like me. lol

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8/15/08

hyderabadiz

I think, calais50, amitchopra22, are all making sense. Getting to think the otherwise (close to making us think outside the box)

Wonder, is it all about stereotyping a gender and that is the bottom-line, that we are trying to get to?

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8/15/08

earthlingorgeous

I think what matters is if you think the person your gonna marry looks good. Remember that beauty if in the eyes of the beholder. What's good looking to me may not be good looking to you. It's all a matter of preferences, a preference that may or may not be influenced by outside sources.

If I think the man I'm gonna marry looks like Orlando Bloom but other people thinks he looks like the Crypt Keeper well I still think he looks good so it's me who will marry him not others and he looks so hot to me. I'll marry him. LMAO!

But of course personality is all that matters, how he makes you feel and how you feel when he is around making you think like he is a hunk.

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1. 8/16/08
  
  TonyBriley
  
  I'm not a lot to look at but my wife, who is beautiful, loves me a lot and thinks I am handsome. Its the other traits and the way I treat her that I think make up for any physical flaws. I know a lot of women who want the most handsome man, and usually the more attractive they are the more true this is. But I've also met many that know looks aren't everything and have found what is really important in a partner.
8/15/08

Grumpus

I have dated both gorgeous men and men who are funny lookin'. But they all had something beyond that about them that was attractive beyond the exterior. It was never the looks, nor the lack of conventional good ones. I can't pinpoint what the mysterious 'something' is either...dignity, otherworldliness, self possession...?

I also have noticed that no matter who it is becomes good looking in my eyes once I start to like them more. The same way the most gorgeous person will start looking like a broke ass chump if their personality sucks.

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8/16/08

bloggernoob

not all. but i'm sure a lot of women do. it's not as bad as it is with men, but women are sexual being too.

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8/16/08

mariamichelle

I have met some very nice looking guys that I didn't see as attractive at all after I got to know them. I especially don't like arrogant men.

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8/16/08

xmarks

looks are important for women too

on the other hand you are also promoting you blog about finding a rich man to date.

So . . . . I have a face for radio and a wallet for kmart, not so much interest coming my way.

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1. 8/16/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  but you have a good sense of humor! that's important in dating
8/16/08

peridotash

Personally, I want a good looking man. I don't keep myself in decent shape for any old slob.

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8/18/08

AlwaysInIt

I feel like what is good looking is different for every person. I dated two different men at the same time, before I settled down, and one was more traditionally handsome than the other, but he didn't take as good of care of himself, so while we may have made better looking babies, my current boyfriend smells great!

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8/18/08

ender

umm, not all women are attracted to handsome, pretty, good-looking, nice looking, sweet looking, average looking or even ugly men.

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1. 8/18/08
  
  Manictastic
  
  Wot mean you? Me no get?
8/18/08

wehireu

What people want differs wildly. Some people want interesting look or exotic. Who knows.

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8/18/08

Theresa111

When you are attracted to a man he always looks good. Beauty's only skin deep. So the real beauty shining out makes all men look great.

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8/18/08

buffedstuff

I go for all the shallow things, a man that is faithful, loyal, true, a good friend, a hard worker, kind to those less fortunate, integrity and
a warm place to lay your head in a sometime cruel world. A good looking man is easy to find a good man is hard to find. So all of those things are beautiful to me so that is what attracted me to my husband.

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8/18/08

Arikbo

I'm guilty of looks being what initially grabs my attention, but there have been some great looking guys that lose my admiration as soon as they open their mouth. In the long run Humor > Intelligence > Work Ethic come way before looks.

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8/18/08

kateblogs

I think looks do help a man to attract attention, but they have to have more to keep a woman interested. Personally, intelligence and a sense of humour are the most important qualities. Looks fade, and are never going to be the basis for a real relationship.

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8/18/08

aningeniousname

Nah I'm extremely ugly and I get bucket loads of women.

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8/18/08

timethief

Although I was under pressure to do so, I did not choose to marry a man based on his looks. My friends and family expected me to marry a very attractive man but all the good looking men I met were vain, boring and attracted to me only because of my looks. I married my very best friend and we had talked about everything under the sun for eons before we became intimate. Technically my husband is not as good looking as I am and he's younger than I am too. [SHRUG] Neither of those factors have had any bearing whatsoever on our relationship. We adore each other and nothing else matters.

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1. 8/19/08
  
  Arikbo
  
  I always run across silly studies. When I read your post it reminded of one study that said that most woman won't pick a mate that is more attractive than themselves, while guys do (or try) the opposite. Sounds like statically that should work out then? It must be devastating to all the beautiful men out there.
8/18/08

JamesJay

God! I hope not!

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8/18/08

Chrislag

Thank goodness for my personality... and for women who choose personality first. (else i'd be in real trouble!)

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8/18/08

amtelemarket

Luckily, my wife doesn't

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8/18/08

curlydesigh

I do draw pretty pictures for a living and I am write about fashion so the visual does mean a lot to me. I will always be attracted to good looking men but pretty ain't enough to make up for a crappy personality or bad credit. I need and deserve the whole package.

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8/19/08

myriadlife

Looks are no good without personality and charm but I still enjoy looking at good looking men anyhow! Got to have something behind the eyes though.

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8/22/08

JaydenVasara

if i'm not very attracted to a guy i won't go out w/him - period. but regardless of how handsome he is, if we don't connect on the other levels it won't work. anyone who says looks aren't important is lying, of course they are. i can't be romantically involved w/someone i'm not seriously turned on by.

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9/02/08

fated82

I dont think its true. But lets be real, we all like people who are presentable. Guys do not have to be good looking. They need to be presentable though. Cheers!

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1. 9/05/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  for me, a guy has to be good looking
9/03/08

kdawg68

Can't be true - I'm living proof this is not the case. I'm hideous and yet have never had problems picking up the women I wanted.

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9/04/08

datingdiaries30

I do not base whether I will go out with someone on good looks alone. Even if I am not attracted to someone physically, I may continue to date them to see if I can be attracted to their mind and heart. Personality, humor, and intelligence really grabs me.

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9/05/08

Svasti

Definitely not. I mean, looks don't hurt but I find that when someone is incredibly beautiful as a person (inside) that shines out and I find that person way more attractive than some externally gorgeous guy. And vice versa - anyone who shows their inner ugliness, I can't find attractive no matter what.
I've had drop dead gorgeous partners and butt ugly ones, and everything in between. Who I really want to fall in love with is someone who gets me. Oh, and someone who's good in bed!

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9/05/08

rijaxn

Not all. Whitney Houston, Kimori Simmons, and Beyonce surely didn't.

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9/05/08

monhershaft

YES!!!

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9/05/08

keropidark

As a realist, yes they do. If there is no attraction how does one reproduce? It's ingrained in our biology. The wonderful thing about it is "good looking" means something different to everyone. And a good looking soul counts too.

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9/05/08

annaswan

The day I met my hubby - oh heck yes looks was important! He was working out in his back yard on his car and had his shirt off. I finally threw my own cat over that fence - just to have an excuse to go over there and talk to him! LOL

But in all honesty - had he been a jerk - we wouldn't be where we are now either His looks captured my attention, his personality and spirit captured my heart.

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9/05/08

Sebastyne

In addition to just not caring about looks; not all women can handle the pressure of dating a handsome man. (Insecurities kick in, other women pay attention to the man and they realize they themselves aren't equally attractive to the man... Men seem not to have the same problem with beautiful women.)

Personally, I like them handsome if not gorgeous.

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9/05/08

biddude

Hello Unfortunately in our society most people are infatuated with looks.I believe that this is a natural human reaction to things of beauty.Like looking at a beautiful sunset or a pretty flower.For most people though I think that they find that beauty can be only skin deep.Not always but in the end we all usually try to find somebody that can deal with all of our flaws and that we feel comfortable with.A relationship that lasts has to move beyond the initial infatuation with a persons good looks.Once the honeymoon is over.Which unfortunately the honeymoon always has to end.

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9/05/08

globalgirl

Good looking is subjective, isn't it? What is attractive to one is ugly to another and visa versa. In addition, one can be good looking on the outside but ugly in the inside, transforming one from a prince to a toad. Or worse.

Now, if you ask about attraction, yes, I think all women want to be attracted to their husband, fiance, date, boyfriend.

Attraction is one of the greatest mysteries ever. Even more than the pyramids.

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1. 2/09/09
  
  MadScientist
  
  Well its a mystery certainly older than the pyramids.
  
  And its a good thing that all you ladies do not find the exact same things "Attractive", as it would leave a lot of us guys out in the cold with no potential mates. We are not all tall, blonde, adonis types. Some of us are about 5'6" tall and are nearly bald at 35 and have back hair (eww.. I know I feel the same way and its my hair).
  
  But I got lucky, my wife was an amazing creature of 6 feet of model gorgeous woman... now, granted if you serve a bologna sandwich to a starving person, it is as fine as caviar... I guess I was just lucky she was starving.
9/07/08

santosh1978

may be the case with few but surly not everyone

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2/09/09

manilaROSE

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder..

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2/09/09

foodhere

I really really really really hope not

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2/10/09

sunnyberra

I don't think looks are a top priority, but they do play their role when deciding to get to know someone. But, apparently, what I think is handsome or appealing is not the status quo (I think the guy who did the Tropicana commercials *very* cute *g*). That works out best for me, anyway

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8/05/09

yuliasetiawan

as long he's not prettier than me...

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8/05/09

jrmellem

Not to ring my own bell but I might be the only terribly good looking man with a great personality who is not also a vain man. Oh wait, that makes me sound vain. OK then how about this. I'm average looking and only a little vain with the personality of waxed fruit. Actually, I did get approached for sex numerous times in my younger days so, either there are a lot of desperate women out there or I had at least a little something going for me.

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8/17/09

bljohnso

I don't even know why anyone thinks this question is deserving of any thought. When you use a qualifier such as the word 'all' especially when speaking about women/men, you're immediately answering your own question, no.

Anyway, women for the most part, without throwing around blanket generalizations, are less likely to be shallow and usually are less focused on physical appearance. Many men are the ones who need a trophy on their arm to feel complete. Women look for a combination of looks, smarts, humor, drive, money, and experience. I think men would date a door stop if it had a nice pair of breasts and and long hair.

Blake

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8/17/09

LolitaV

yes, i want a presentable, good looking even hot man to go with all the personality and key qualities i can't compromise on. i think i found him.

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