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Do Guys want sex more than women?
Posted by bringbackpluto • 9/11/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: MEN, relationships, Romance, sex, women
THE GUYS were asked a few questions recently about sex:
Do GUYS want sex more than women?
Are all GUYS sex addicts?
Can Guys be monogamous?
We got in touch with "OUR INNER RAM" and answered them as best we could.
www.theguysperspective.typepad.com
What do you think?
User Comments
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It's our take the GUYS think about sex all of the time, but it seems that women are just as interested....as often....as GUYS. Has it always been that way, or just now in a more liberated society?
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I'm looking at all the 'recent viewers' avatars...and no one posted a comment!
Come on guys...we're males...it's hardwired into us that we want sex! Duh!! -
Women want sex just as much.
no.
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just like some women are addicted to sex, and some women aren't monogamous.-
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where can I find these women you speak of???
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Depends on the guy, depends on the woman. -
It is predicated on numerous factors, from physiology to societal conditioning. As others said above, it depends on the individual. -
Our bad if it's mislabeled. It's habit to put in a link.
But really, we do see it all the time in these discussions and really don't think too much of it. Meaning if we decide if we're interested in the topic, we comment whether there's a link or not.
We'll click on the link if we want to read more. Not really anything else going on. But sorry if it was taken the wrong way. Our mistake. -
Still interesting to hear people's opinions. Thanks for sharing.
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Well .. you know what they say ..
(according to Men's Style men.style.com/details/blogs/thegadabout/2007/09/are-you-really-.html# )
Men are in their sexual prime early twenties
Women are in their sexual prime mid-thirties
It's a cruel joke indeed, but one always worth investigating. -
No, but they do want it more consistently. Your body is primed to desire sex when it is fertile, which for guys is 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, with the peaks at night and morning and the troughs at midday (afternoon delight, LOL) but always present. For women, it depends upon their current place in the cycle, and at times they will not desire any. Of course, it is a matter of basic human nature that emotions with sudden onset are always the strongest...
Oh, and by the way, monogamy's a choice.
And of course, whenever you are speaking of genders, you are always speaking in general. In General, because of weight distribution differences, slower metabolism, et cetera, women are slower runners, but there are women alive who could beat every guy I used to run with.-
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You covered that quite well! Love the "afternoon delight!"
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Yeah, I had to add that in!
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Yes jeremyjason.....very good reply
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No - I think it's an equaly opportunity desire as long as the woman is completely open about her needs and desires. I've actually been told that I couldn't not be with a guy because he wouldn't be able to perform to my (at least once a day) expectations. My sexual desire is a 24/7/365 kind of thing - and there's never enough. The more I get, the more I want.-
There's a lucky man out there waiting!
But seriously, it's all about good communication. Like you said, being totally open with your desires and needs. -
Yeah really. Hubba hubba, where ya from darlin'?
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I'm not speaking for all women,but I want love more than sex
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Yeah, I think a lot of guys want love more then sex too it's just 1) you're not supposed to admit it in this society and 2) it's kind of fun to joke around about. Love has a gravity that sex will never have, and as such you don't really josh around about it.
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Well I don't get it then. I'm just not a casual sex girl. To me there is no such thing as casual sex. I know I've heard girls say its just sex.... I have never felt that way and never will
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That's actually a good thing. Casual sex has a tendency of leading to superficiality and, eventually, self-hate.
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Yeah I hope you don't think I support a lustful approach to romance, I don't, I was mostly just giving the girl a compliment. If I actually was serious I would speak a lot smoother then that.
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Um we're not married jeremyjason...u owe me no explanation
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Yes, love is important to men but it probably looks different than for women.
I think men equate appreciation and respect for love. And the physical piece is mixed in there as well.
But I guess for both genders it's difficult to define in exact terms. -
Yea,y'all are saying that now,but just let me walk out the room and the strippers come out from their hiding spot,haha.
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Read my post above. You can't ignore the physical, but no, I believe in great sacrifice for the romantic side of life. I believe in monogamy. As for that little joke, that's what it was Holly. A joke.
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yup
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How'd you know??
We call that a "security breach."
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Because I know what goes through a man's head more than u know.
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Which man? Beyond that, don't you believe that what people want because of their values and foresight is every bit as real as what they want as a result of momentary emotion?
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Actually I was being very serious about the love piece. To me family is most important. I would never do anything to jeopardize that!!
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Yeah I wouldn't say family is the most important thing to me, but depth certainly is. Family or not, I don't want to be surrounded by superificial friends and lovers, or live superficially myself.
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Well,now ur getting sentimental...is this where this thread was supposed to be headed
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It's organic. It goes where it goes.
OK, that was way too serious!!
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Tehehe
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M'k boyssss I'm gonna go y'all have fun...
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Personally I tend to have more of a sexual appetite than most of my partners. With the exception of my current beau, I have always been the "wild one" in the relationships. However, I assume this varies with the woman or man your dealing with.
I think it's hard to tell since men's sex drives are usually short lived compared to women's. While there's is an explosive display of fire works, our is a slow burning flame building up to a raging forest fire. -
That is a good analogy lotus. I would take out the word sex,and insert the word LOVE, then you have fireworks.... no 4get fireworks...have u ever heard the song bombs over bagdad? Haha
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I think this describes sex more than love. In my experiance a man's love grows the same as a woman's love does...more fonder and deeper rooted every year. Sex wavers, and changes...love is usually pretty solid if it's real.
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love is musical. Sex is explosive
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Well yea... this thread discribes sex... I'm saying if you can be with your true love,then there is no comparisson. Wouldn't that be awesome...
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Getting in touch with one's "INNER RAM" sounds dirty... o_0
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Rams get a bad rap I guess.
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Okay, here it goes.... I think as people everybody is different. When I was single I did not think it was bad to have casual sex. Of course, not with different people all the time or unprotected. I mean no strings attached, feel like an itch on my back and need a scratch type of sex. It's normal to desire the opposite sex and need it. I have definitely experienced a male's point of view when I had a partner who usually did not want sex only once or twice a month!! I thought I was going to die when I heard that. He thought I was crazy when I said 3 - 5 times a week. We argued our sides but in the end he's right, everyone has a right to be who they want, want when they want it, and express themselves as they wish. That is why you need to get to know a person inside and out not only the sex. Because the sex can be oh so good and you associate the sex to the relationship when there is nothing there or little sex and great relationship. There needs to be a balance, at least that's what I think, be open with your partners about what each of you want in bed. But no, sometimes I think guys get a bad rap for always wanting sex. Joking aside, it's natural for women to be ready after climax and it takes men a bit longer to get started again or some are finished after the first try. So let's not jump the gun, women are able to go the distance, more than once a night, but some of us go the lazy way out when we want. In men, I've met cuddlers, romantics, and straight up all nighters. Be careful, be safe, but most of all be selective!! Don't just hook up with whoever and whatever.-
The Guys and I couldn't agree more. Being selective and finding the right partner, not just with sex, is very important. Many people choose a partner for the wrong reasons and are sorry for it later.
Thanks for your thoughts!
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Guys just want sex with more women -
i think id rather have sex with the girl i love rather that with any girl, it makes it more special i guess. alot of emotions would be involved.-
I agree!
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Hey yall...it has been awhile:
Do GUYS want sex more than women? DEPENDS ON THE WOMAN
Are all GUYS sex addicts? NO
Can Guys be monogamous?NOT MANY BUT IT IS POSSIBLE-
I think more GUYS can be monogamous than you think. At least the GUYS we know. But yes there are a percentage that just don't know how to behave.
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Timethief -- what did you say that got bleeped?-
NatetheGrate
We'll answer that. Not sure why her comment was removed. She made a good point. We mislabeled the discussion by first putting it under General Discussion, when it should have been Shameless Blog Promotion.
It wasn't our intention to mislabel, but more habit of putting in a link.
But we didn't remove her comment.
Hope that clarifies it for you. THanks!
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M'k here goes for me. I don't have casual sex,never have,never will. GOD,has put the person on earth that I'm supposed to be with,even if that person doesn't know it yet. GOD created us for one another....eye to eye,face to face,heart to heart. There is norhing on earth more precious than that kind of love. It goes deeper than sex,and more intimate that you truly believe you are one. That is what sex/love is supposed to be about....period end of story
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So, no quickie for you ... LOL
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Exactly,I love myself more than that. I mean don't get me wrong, I'm sure I'm gonna be pretty lonely for a while,but when the right person does come its gonna be soooooooooooooooo much better
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loool xD ok, but you know having just one won't kill you!
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What's the point if its not someone I have feelings for. Its just not me
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For the love of your God, is just to have a little fun! What's the problem with that?
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I can have fun by myself
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Good answer.
Nothing wrong with waiting. And nothing wrong with having a little fun. To each his own. -
Oh! LOL Never thought you admit that... LOOOL
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I didn't admit nothin boy
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no? "I can have fun by myself" This says a lot... LOOL
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Well I can
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Yes... to each his own....now if y'all would excuse me please,I gotta go finish my hair... I'm dancing tonight....another thing that is fun!!!
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eheh Go, and have fun I was just playing with you!
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Do GUYS want sex more than women? NO
Are all GUYS sex addicts? NO
Can Guys be monogamous? YES -
I hope your right...
Need a girls advice real quick....please -
White jeans
Red tank that has kinda lacy around the clevage area,but doesn't show clevage
Or
Black and white silky shirt its white with black poka dots that has black ribbon at clevage area,but shows little clevage and i usually don't... tash says yes I say no -
It all depends who your partner is. -
Red Tank
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Yea...that's what I went with don't wanna feel all hootchie
I goin out with the girls and I only dance by myself -
Guys more than girls? in their dreams... -
Well....2nite sucked sooooooo bad. Tash took me to a private party. There was no dancing..... all it was,was a bunch of college boys looking to get laid....I'm so over going out with her. She is looking for a man (which I've told her a million times,u
Can't find a good guy at a bar,party,or a club). All I wanted to do was dance dammit!-
So the red top didn't help? Bummer! Yes it's hard to find a place to just dance. That's probably why women go to gay clubs. So they won't be hassled.
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Women want sex just like guys, but women not speak with mens about it! -
It depends. Some guys want women more than sex
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I think sex has different meanings for men and women. In general, I think they have the same needs but there are men and woman who want more. Nobody is the same. And it depends very much on your partner. Men just show want they want easyly and most women have their own way to ask for more.-
Very well said! Makes sense to us.
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I imagine some women want sex just as much as guys, we're just too subtle about making it known sometimes. Guys can tend to be more direct/forward about it.
And yes I believe they can be monogamous and many are. I guess since many women are, again, not as forward as guys and for example "check them out" in a different way while men are quite free with their eyes, they appear less loyal.
If I hardly made sense, forgive me, it's early!-
I like what you said, "they appear less loyal." That is so true. We might stare, but that doesn't mean we're going to cheat on our partner.
Very insightful!
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Men want sex more. Women enjoy sex more. Simple enough.-
Slight revision. Men want sex more. Women enjoy sex longer! And longer might be more.
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