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   10/22/08

   LynneaUrania

   Men don't change for their woman. They change according to what their own needs may be, if they ever change at all. Women often do try to change men, but I don't have any statistics that can verify 99%.
   
   I wish I could change my Agnostic boyfriend, being Melissit Gnostic myself. But it really isn't any use trying. That spark of faith doesn't come from people, but something that is far beyond.

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      10/22/08

      buddhaofhollywood

      What is a mellisit gnostic? I never heard of it.
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   10/22/08

   psychosolodiver

   No. That's why women get so frustrated and guys get tired of hearing their crap all the time.

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      10/22/08

      LGramlich

      I agree. I have to say, I've known enough women who had an agenda to "change" him. I never understood it, myself. Why not just be with someone you like to begin with?
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   10/22/08

   freeatlast

   love, what's that?

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4. 

   10/22/08

   myriadlife

   No

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5. 

   10/22/08

   lotusb

   Why would you want the man you love to change?

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6. 

   10/22/08

   Enlight

   If a man is truly in love with a women—being in love can change a man.
   
   Outside of being on love, good luck trying. I have known many women that try that route and it never works.
   
   The women needs to figure out how to get the guy to fall in love.

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   10/22/08

   bradhart

   if you have to change for someone or they have to change who they are for you, then you should never be together in the first place.

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      10/22/08

      buddhaofhollywood

      absolutely!
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      10/22/08

      BlueSunshine

      We have a winner!
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   10/22/08

   Kryptonitemare

   No, Men "change" for sex. When it comes to love we pretty much give up. Big difference.

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9. 

   10/22/08

   Enlight

   Sex is just sex, although for anyone who truly has been in love with a woman—that person would understand the context of this thread.
   
   I think the western world (not everyone) seems confused concerning the context of being in love.

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    10/22/08

    RTBjr73

    Don't change...just grow as a person

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    10/22/08

    calais50

    My ex husband changed me a lot more than I changed him. There were many things I would have liked to change about him (although I did not try), and here's why. We met when we were young. I grew up and he never did.

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    10/22/08

    JaLpArI

    men can change as long as they are doing the chasing, or as long as they feel insecure... they will change in ways you can't imagine, just to keep you to himself...
    
    but, the moment they get the cue that k! now the gal's all mine... they refuse to budge at things or habits that mite be driving you crazy....

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    10/22/08

    PotatoChef

    We change our story

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14. 

    10/22/08

    mrwolf

    There is no real change. However there may be gradual modifications as time goes by. Call it maturing, growing up, better understanding or whatever you want. You'll that your guy's (gal's) basic personality is still there underneath all the cosmetics.

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    10/22/08

    keanxy

    I fall in love with many women but I never show them how I fell, it really made me feel that I am really a totally loser in love. I will be bachelor I think forever.

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    10/22/08

    ekim941

    First, I want to say that I love your Freudian slip "they tend to mold a square pig into a round hole". Pig instead of peg
    
    From the guys point of view, he got the girl by being himself so why change. If it isn't broke, don't fix it.

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17. 

    10/22/08

    MarkPogue

    Why should he or she change? Why marry someone you wish to change?
    
    Change partners instead.

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18. 

    10/22/08

    curlydesigh

    Men are people and people change when they are ready to change. In my experience if they "change" for you, the result is temporary at best.

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19. 

    10/22/08

    dcdatingdiva

    No, you can't change a man...or if you do change him into quote unquote what you want him to be, after you invested all of the time, effort, energy and love...he leaves you for someone else & you were just the "fixer-upper".
    
    Women & Men should get what they want in the beginning! Then you have plenty of time to do the things you love...like horizontal dancing...

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