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Posted by TheBloggerExposed • 4/21/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic

have been married?

When it comes to dating, do divorcees get equal opportunity? Or are they reserved for slumps and last resorts?

Is attraction and chemistry just that, or does having a history detract from the appeal?

Just wondering....no special reason (sniffles)

User Comments

4/21/08

monkeytale

Matters not to me. Of course I would need to be actively dating though.

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4/21/08

aningeniousname

I've been married fourteen times up to now and I feel my history presents the ladies with a challenge.

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1. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  I'd be careful, Bloggerexposed, I think Anin is about to "Pop the question".
2. 4/21/08
  
  aningeniousname
  
  Yeah How about it Bloggerexposed? Wanna be number fifteen? I'll let you you wear the dress at the ceremony.
3. 4/21/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  OMG, anin, I don't know what to say! Except for yes! yes! yes!
4. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Dang!!! is it really that easy?
  No wonder you are on #15
5. 4/21/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  I thought the little donkey was a girl. Of course that's legal where I live...but I was just looking for clarification.
6. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Is that a donkey or an ant eater?
7. 4/21/08
  
  aningeniousname
  
  Oh yeah I have still got the old magic.
8. 4/21/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  but what are you? donkey, ant eater, man, woman?
9. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  F) all of the above?
10. 4/21/08
  
  aningeniousname
  
  I'm an ant eating donkey man who likes to dress as a woman. I have you penciled in as number 16 Drowsy.
11. 4/21/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  lol ... good grief. I hope you have an eraser!
12. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  If you look closely, looks like the aardvark peed on the floor.
  That might explain the 14 divorces.
13. 4/21/08
  
  aningeniousname
  
  You don't have to worry about the pee, I have a bag on my side now.
14. 4/21/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  Oh yeah, it does look wet! LOL. Well, I just looked at his bc page and I think it's a man. Not sure about the ardvark/donkey thing tho.
15. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Wow, an aardvark with a donkey thing would be "the" man
16. 4/21/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  I just resent that he's already lining up #16! How do you know I'm not the one?
17. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  It's not you TBE, he has a quota
18. 4/21/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  lol, that's true blogger!
19. 4/21/08
  
  aningeniousname
  
  You are the one baby! But an Aardvark needs options, If you are going be like this all through our marriage I might have to consider withdrawing my proposal.
20. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  I knew it!!!!
  
  He is an aardvark.
21. 4/21/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  ah ha! so you are an ardvark. Take my name off the list, I thought you were a donkey.
22. 4/21/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  seriously ekim, you and I think so much alike ... and at the same time. It scares me a little.
23. 4/21/08
  
  aningeniousname
  
  But for the ladies I'm an "Hardvark"
24. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Aww, C'mon, don't want to change your name to DrowseyAardvark?
25. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Yep Drowsey, sometimes it sounds like we are hittin off the same bong.
26. 4/21/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  lol @ hardvark. Okay, I'm rethinking.
27. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Well the "H" is apparently not for Housebroken.
28. 4/21/08
  
  aningeniousname
  
  I told you! I have a bag now! The only problem is that sometimes it gets a little full and there is spillage.
29. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Spillage still counts, puddles, who do you think is gonna clean up that mess?
30. 4/21/08
  
  aningeniousname
  
  Well Bloggerexposed first and then after I divorce her Drowsey will do it.
31. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  So, instead of rice, they should throw some more absorbent kitty litter.
32. 4/21/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  dream on ardvark man. I don't even do my own cleaning.
33. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Drowsey, you leak on the floor too?!?!?
  A match made in flip flop heaven
34. 4/21/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  lol no, but I can see how you'd misunderstand.
35. 4/21/08
  
  aningeniousname
  
  You have convinced me Drowsy, I'm bumping Blogger to number 16 and your next baby!
36. 4/21/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  Ah, if there's spillage, she can have you! I'm done with cleaning up pee and what not. There are certain bodily fluids that just don't turn me on.
37. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Now I want to know what the "And what not" is that you've been cleaning up?
  Wait, maybe I don't.
38. 4/21/08
  
  Juliemccoy
  
  If he's got a bag he's a colosta-vark! Still doesn't serve as a turn-on though! I DO NOT want to be #17!
4/21/08

ekim941

It's really strange that you pose this question. I have noticed similar discrimination with women.
Also, I noticed that I won't date a divorced woman if I knew her husband (Is that weird?).
But to answer your question, I would actually prefer a divorced woman, I would feel like we have more in common.

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4/21/08

JillSaxon

I dated a divorced guy once. His bitterness was through the roof. Definitely not the guy you want representing Team Divorcee.

When it comes to someone who has been divorced or has been involved in a number of relationships gone wrong, I always worry about baggage and the affect it can have on a current relationship.

But I think if you're attracted to someone... you're attracted. Knowing their history just might determine how you act on it.

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4/21/08

thebigandyt

definatly, i'd be more wary of someone with a large career gap. thinking why doesn't anybody want to date him/her?

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1. 4/21/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  Just because someone hasn't dated in a while doesn't mean no one wants to date them ... maybe they don't want to date.
2. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Yep, Drowsey, I can feel ya on that one
3. 4/21/08
  
  thebigandyt
  
  thats true. i was making sweeping generalisations again.
4. 4/21/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  wow...sweeping generalizations. You don't often see that online
4/21/08

DrowseyMonkey

I've never really thought of it that way ... but at my age it would be kind of weird to meet someone who had never been married ... or at least never lived common law. So I think I'd be more likely to think a man in his 40s or older was a bit weird if he'd been single all his life.

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1. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Much less, a virgin. How would you like to teach him "Everything"?
2. 4/21/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  OMG - no. Just the thought of it...no way. Give me an adult with some life experience ... please!
4/21/08

cayasm

The thing is we all come with a past, thats a given, however how it's dealt with when taken into the next relationship. I've been on dates with divorced men some are cool but others give you a complete breakdown of the marriage and why it went wrong, but I'm only hearing one side of it and it's hard to judge who may be right or wrong.

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1. 4/21/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  Well, ekim, you're right. I probably won't after your public display of dust-cropping this discussion. Really, haven't you heard of forum etiquette?
  
  Let's take it slowly and see if you can keep things to yourself from now on.
2. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Speaking of keeping things to myself, you had to air that out (pardon the pun) on Cayasms response. Great, can't we keep this just between the two of us? Do you have to tell everyone about my relaxed sphincter?
3. 4/21/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  Oops!
4. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Honestly, I wish I was joking, but a few years back I dated a woman that said, "Let's take it slow". 2 weeks later she married some guy. I can't help but laugh when I hear a woman say, "Let's take it slow".
5. 4/21/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  Dang, that's kinda shitty. How many times did you two go out? Had she been engaged for long?
  
  (Hey, that shitty remark was totally unintentional, but quite appropriate, eh?)
6. 4/21/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  I hate to "break" it to you, but I'm thinking it may have had something to do with your loosely challenged sphincter.
  
  Is there anything you can do about that? Like anus kegel exercises?
7. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  She couldn't have been engaged for more than 2 weeks. She's divorced now (Big surprise) and we only went on 1 actual date.
8. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  I disagree, We went to the beach and I stood downwind.
  I think Kegels would work on both my anus and vajajay
9. 4/21/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  Ha! Good thing!
  
  So have you tried the kegels?
  
  Oh, I see. Only one way to find out!
10. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  I'm afraid to
11. 4/21/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  Afraid of spontaneous shart combustion?
12. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Afraid of having my giblets go up north and becoming ovaries.
  They have been out of work in the south.
13. 4/21/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  Hmm... that would be a rather unfortunate predicament to find yourself in. Good thing you have a daughter already.
14. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Yep, It's been 14 years since the ex slipped me some ruffies and used the electric probes on me. I woke up to a turkey baster and the smell of toast.
  That might explain the loose sphincter.
4/21/08

pointlessbanter

It depends if they have kids.

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1. 4/21/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  so...you want them to have kids or not?
2. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  I've had women not date me coz I had a daughter that lived with me.
3. 4/21/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  Yeah, I guess I can see how that may be a concern. I've never dated a man with kids ... actually I did but his kids were grown up and I never met them. I think I'd be a bit leery about being introduced to the kids unless it was a very serious relationship.
4. 4/21/08
  
  pointlessbanter
  
  @drowseymonkey it depends on what I am looking for.
  
  If I am looking just to get laid a women single mom is perfect. They don't have a lot of time to mess around so when they go out they have a goal and know what they want to do it. It is hard for them to get away usually and when they do they are kind of forward.
  
  If I am looking for a long term relationship I don't want them to have kids. It is less likely they will want anymore and I don't need to deal with the ex being in their life. You have a whole level of additional drama. Plus if things don't work a break up is much harder with a kid involved.
5. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Ah, sounds like hypocrisy to me. Most divorced women are looking for a good stepdad for their kids but frown on a guy that has kids in house.
6. 4/21/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  Well I have kids, but I would actually be able to go out much more since the kids would go to the other parents' house often. I feel like single parenthood might almost be better for me! (I guess b/c it would be more like shared parenthood, than single)
7. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  @TBE, is that a pass?
8. 4/21/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  Hey, if you smelt it you dealt it!
9. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  LOL, not gas, a pass. Are you making a pass at me
  Well, probably not after the passing of gas
  Oh you're too funny.
4/21/08

TheBloggerExposed

See, I feel like I will be that much wiser. I actually think I have more to bring to a relationship than I did as the naive girl who walked down the aisle. Partly due to what I have learned, but also just because I'm older.

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1. 4/21/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  Ah yes, well said. That naive girl ... we were all her at one time. I'd hate to be her again! And I loose my patience sometimes when I hear naive women going on & on about life. I need to remember we were like that at one time. But I'd hate to date a guy who was naive to the realities of life. I'm sure I wouldn't even be attracted to a guy like that or vice versa.
2. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Me too. "Hand me downs" are much better
  That's a Rob Thomas reference BTW
3. 4/21/08
  
  JillSaxon
  
  What constitutes naive? (I'm actually just curious)
4. 4/21/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  For me naive would be someone who hasn't been in a long-term relationship. So they'd be naive about the complexities involved in making a relationship work and the complexities that happen when the relationship falls apart.
  
  There's one thing to be very bright and understanding the world, but another when you've actually experienced it first-hand.
5. 4/21/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  Honestly, it really even depends on how long-term and the circumstances of the relationship. Of course, there are other factors influencing one's naivity besides relationships, but since that's the topic here, we'll stick to that.
  
  In any case, I feel that I have been somewhat blind and naive about my spouse up until recently (probably the last year or so) and I've been married for a long time! It's not about cheating or anything like that, but actually more complex issues.
4/21/08

ttiger

id the ex husband is 6'6'' only in muscle tattoo loaded and very jealous i'll pass my turn. since i'm not really a believer and marriage mean nothing to me so in normal time it's doesn't matter to me if she's been maried or not!

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1. 4/21/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  So how tall are you and how many tattoos do you boast? (Just trying to figure who you'd give a good fight)
4/21/08

ttiger

im 5'10'' with my whole back tatooed but im not a fighter:(

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1. 4/21/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  I wouldn't frown about not being a fighter. I mean, seriously, is anyone with a little dignity a fighter once they reach adulthood? I find fighting to be quite trashy and unimpressive.
4/21/08

UncleJeet

I'm currently a single divorced married man, living a strange and confusing, but always interesting life. If you don't think it's confusing, then you've never been single, divorced, and married all at the same time. And no, I don't belong to a polygamy cult in Texas.

Basically, we were separated for a year but are trying to work things out, but things are still open, except when they're not. I don't think I'm doing a very good job dispelling any confusion, so I'll just give up now. That's what my blog's for, anyway.

To answer your question, though - it wouldn't bother me in the slightest to date a divorced woman. Well, any more than it would bother me to date a non-divorced woman. I don't get dating, really. I do get meeting lots of people and enjoying each other's company, but why everyone has to suddenly jump into a relationship stumps me. It perplexes me now more that I've been in a marriage, and it's definitely not something I would advocate to anyone.

However, to stop speaking for myself and to start representing my gender, I'd say that to a lot of men looking for a serious, exclusive relationship, having a divorce on your Permanent Record (See! All those years in school and you never thought it really existed) will be a knock against you. Unless they have also been divorced, in which case it will work in your favor.

My recommendation: Don't bring it up. Seriously, until the relationship evolves to a more serious level, what does it really matter if you said I Do and then I Don't? If, once you and the guy get to that level where your past is relevant because you're looking to take things to a more serious place, the divorce bothers him and he bolts, then consider yourself spared a lot of needless misery and drama.

It shouldn't matter at all in a casual relationship, so just don't mention it. If it's a problem for the guy you've dated for a good while and who you think is Mr. Right, then it's a good way to find out if he is or if he isn't.

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1. 4/22/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  I'm curious about how you say you and your wife have been separated for a year and are still trying to work things out.
  
  I guess I'm wondering what it is you guys are hoping/needing to accomplish in order to decide whether or not to just make it or break it. I know that I would need closure so that I could move on if it didn't seem like it was going to work out.
  
  I'm currently trying to decide similar things myself, so I do understand how complicated it can be.
2. 4/22/08
  
  UncleJeet
  
  Things fizzled out between us for a few reasons. First, we were too intensely right at the start, and when that happens there's just an enormous pressure to keep that up, at first in private and in apperance to the outside world, and later just the latter. Second, I made the mistake of changing my lifestyle to better suit what I thought a Good Husband should be. The problem with changing yourself, however, is that you fundamentally alter what attracted your mate to you in the first place. The irony in my situation, however, is that I changed precisely because if I'd maintained my lifestyle prior to her, it surely would have killed the marriage.
  
  The biggest nail in our coffin, however, was that changing my lifestyle also had the unfortunate effect of putting a cork in my writing. I found myself creatively constipated and flushing my career down the toliet, while I was funding her going back to school and helping her find her own identity.
  
  Anyway, she moved out and now she's moved back in and we're trying to get things back on track. I'm writing again, but I write experiential essays and it took me going out again to realize that it's neccessary for me to have something to write about. I see us going one of two ways. Either we'll have one of the oddest marriages in history, with her letting me go socialize and womanize at will in order to feed my career, or we'll just own up to the absurdity of the situation, divorce and remain friends. A betting man would put odds on the latter.
4/21/08

chicky401

As long as they are divorced and not still married I have no problem. Being divrced does not make you a bad person. I am divorced and I may be naughty and crazy but I don't think I am a bad person. I wouldn't let the fact that a man has kids stop me from dating him.

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1. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Even if the kids lived with him? That was the problem I noticed. After getting to know some divorced women I understood it a bit more.
2. 4/21/08
  
  chicky401
  
  My girls live with me most of the time. I am ok with it. I think maybe they are concerned that your attention will be more on your kids then them. Some people do not like to share the attention.
3. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  "EXACTLY", that's what the majority vote was.
  My daughter has since moved in with her mom. That's probably the way it should be
4. 4/21/08
  
  chicky401
  
  I hope you at least get to see her frequently.
  If a woman let that stop her from dating you then that is her loss
5. 4/21/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Yep, every other weekend.
  And thanks
6. 4/22/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  How is your daughter doing with the change? I guess if she's 13 or 14 (based on the turkey baster incident) then she should be OK. And yeah, I guess at that age it is probably better for them to live with their moms, only because of all the associated issues that they need guidance or advice on. Nothing against dad's at all!
  
  And yes, if a woman doesn't want to date you because you have a child at home, then obviously she would never have potential to fit your life anyway. So the sooner she's out the better, unless it's a mutual decision that the relationship is just for fun anyway.
  
  That's my two cents on that.
7. 4/22/08
  
  ekim941
  
  TBE, the funny thing is that "All the associated issues" my daughter would rather talk to me about. I'm not going into details, I do see your point but it doesn't apply to this particular case.
8. 4/23/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  That's very respectable, ekim. Yes, some people are easier to go to about things than others, regardless of gender.
4/21/08

Lilysdivorce

I'm going through a divorce and it doesn't seem to matter to the men I have dated, only two since I'm still going though the divorce. But men are attracted to someone with experience I think. I dated several men that were divorced before I married.

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4/21/08

Norski

Answering this question would require a definition of "dating."

Whatever the definition, the reason for the divorce would be much more important than the divorce itself. And, the belief system of the parties involved.

Life is complicated, isn't it?

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4/21/08

Juliemccoy

I think you all need to check out my blog - I discuss these and many more questions having to do with modern dating.

Is it really possible to find someone older than 35 who is single and not divorced and who doesn't want to wear diapers or have some other fetish??

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1. 4/21/08
  
  Norski
  
  Quite possibly.
  
  I was nearly thirty when I married: for the first time, and it would appear for the last as well. Not too many more years, and I would have been part of the demographic you referred to.
  
  In my case, it wasn't wearing diapers: it was more a matter of family priorities, and a less-than-suave social style. You might say that I was a geek, born ahead of my time.
  
  I even carried a number of writing instruments in a pocket-protector.
  
  And no, I did not have a fetish about them: I had uses for the various colors and technologies.
2. 4/22/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  I've heard that one before.
3. 4/23/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
4. 4/23/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
4/22/08

earthandeconomy
I don't think the history should detract from the appeal, in fact it should make one wiser. What is very important is how does one handle the history or "baggage"?
1. Hide it in the closet for no one to see
2. Unpack it and put it away nicely
3. Carry it around like you are going on a trip
I have never been divorced and I don't intend to. My parents were. I was the son that was there for a mother during hardships; the son who listened.

Divorcees, the best thing you could ever do is learn to take the baggage and unpack it nicely and put everything away where it belongs and don't carry it around...or you might find yourself on a trip—a trip to find another date because the first one was scared away.

History should not detract from the appeal unless someone carries it around like baggage...that is a turn off. History should be portrayed as wisdom and experience.
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1. 4/22/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  That is exactly how I see it. Like I said in a comment above this somewhere, I feel like I will actually have more to bring to a relationship than I did when I got married because I am older, wiser, more mature and have experience to draw from. I'm also developing my identity and therefore becoming more self-confident.
2. 4/22/08
  
  ekim941
  
  I think that it's a fine line. If you date right away, you still have baggage, if you wait a while you are considered "Damaged goods". There seems to be no right way.
  Also, BloggerExposed, I thought you were still married?
3. 4/23/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  I am. But, I will be moving out soon. I've actually been "living" in the guest room for months already (not that there aren't conjugal visits, but it's more the principle )
  
  I'm not planning on dating right away. There aren't exactly any fish in this desert of a sea, anyway. I'm just curious about this topic and wondering if I'm doomed to end up an old maid (er, divorcee).
4. 4/23/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Oddly, I think women outnumber men like 2.3 to 1 (I think I actually date the .3 of a woman). So I would think it to be slim pickins if you're a woman but I haven't personally noticed that.
  Then again, I don't get out much.
5. 4/23/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  ekim,
  So to recap, you're saying I'm screwed.
  
  Well, figuratively, not literally.
6. 4/23/08
  
  MadameX
  
  Well, all things being equal, perhaps, TBE, but they're not, are they?
7. 4/23/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Statistically I am saying buy some Harlequins and stock up on batteries
8. 4/23/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  fine advice ekim
9. 4/23/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Did I hit close to home Drowsey
10. 4/23/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  you obviously don't read my blog on a regular basis ... so I'll let that one go.
11. 4/23/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  MadameX,
  
  At the risk of appearing dim-witted, I'm not quite sure what you are referring to.
4/22/08

myriadlife

Yes I've been married but found it made no difference, surely if someone likes you as a person it shouldn't. If it does affect their perception of you, move on, they're not worth knowing. History is history and we all have one.

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1. 4/22/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  That's very true. By the time you're my age (early thirties), everyone has surely had long-term relationships at some point which, if one is dating, have obviously had to end. It's just that some of ours were legally binding.
  
  If they haven't had a long-term relationship, that would actually be more of a turn off for me because I am not interested in showing the ropes. That's pretty much why my relationship is ending. I'm tired of spelling everything out! I will gladly put in my 50%, but I'm done doing more than my share.
4/22/08

crkian

I do, my 12th wife had recently split up with her husband

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4/22/08

flamingpoodle

If she's hot and we share similar interests, she gets due consideration.

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1. 4/23/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  Flaming,
  But is that the same standard you hold to any woman? Or do marriage virgins only have to be hot??
2. 4/23/08
  
  flamingpoodle
  
  That's the same standard I hold for any woman.
  I'm in my mid twenties and most of my friends are either getting married, getting divorced or getting married again.
  
  Most first time married people get divorced. Being divorced doesn't make a difference to me.
4/23/08

acousticguitarist

I think it depends on how mad they are. If they are totally crazy, well it's a definite yes. If they are very ordinary and extremely boring, well no. Give me a complicated woman anyday.

And...they must have a diet of fruit salad and bamboo shoots

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1. 4/24/08
  
  flamingpoodle
  
  Do you also like them with red fur?
2. 4/24/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  I have a feeling he's not that picky. Red fur is just a bonus.
3. 4/24/08
  
  acousticguitarist
  
  :-)
  
  Must eat bean shoots..must eat bean shoots
  
  they must be extremely complicated
  
  The 3 woman closest to me say I am the most complicated human they have ever met ..(in a nice way)
  
  Now today friends we are doing computer script as a form of recreation
  
  Actually, I am very very picky...must be beautiful for a start, yes that's shallow....then they must have a brain....emotional intelligence....and very funny
4/24/08

flamingpoodle

Well, I'd like a three breasted woman with six cooking arms.
*sigh, a guy can dream.

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1. 4/24/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  Flaming, dream no further!!
  
  I have a brain (if only), high emotional intelligence (not to say I don't get frustrated), and I am very funny (looking).
  
  Do you want me wrapped or in a gift bag?
  
  (Just please don't super-size me)
2. 4/25/08
  
  flamingpoodle
  
  Wrapped, please. And imported.
3. 4/25/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  Will I have to go through customs then? Not sure I want that much fondling...they're pretty scrupulous these days.
4. 4/25/08
  
  flamingpoodle
  
  Just don't wear anything resembling a towel.
4/25/08

alexmcone

I once dated a married woman.

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1. 4/25/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Well, I did too but I wouldn't admit to that on a public forum.
  
  Oh crap
2. 4/25/08
  
  alexmcone
  
  Ah ha ha ha!
  
  Now we're both going to be outcasts.
3. 4/25/08
  
  TheBloggerExposed
  
  Outcasts? Shouldn't you two be worrying about Hell?
  
  Oh wait. I forgot this wasn't a religious discussion. Never mind then.
4. 4/25/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Oh yeah. Of all the things "I've" done, you think I'm going to hell for "That". Gosh and I thought you knew me.
4/25/08

myriadlife

Wish I'd dated when I was a married woman, might have been a lot happier!

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4/25/08

UncleJeet

Marwwiage, that bwessed occassion...

I don't see the point of marriage, really. All it does is add all sorts of legal hassle when things go south. Why not just be with someone if you want to be with them, and if it lasts the rest of your lives, then great! If it doesn't, then you can both just go your separate ways without having to go through any official proceedings. Assuming, of course, that you're not going to bicker too much over who gets what.

In fact, I no longer see the point of declared exclusivity at all. All it's good for is eventually making one (or both) of you jealous, suspicious, angry, etc...at the other. People aren't property, and as much as us tripods might have some leftover animal instinct of marking our territory, it just isn't so.

Go out. Meet people. Have fun. Things will always be fresh and new.

Unless, of course, you're goofy looking and can't get a date. And the whole theory starts to fall apart the older you get, I guess. I don't really buy that, though. Everyone seems to be scared of ending up alone and crossing this imaginary and arbitrary dateline when, if by then they are not with someone, they feel they never will be. That's just complete silliness, and it plays right into the other most common mentality today - frantically worrying about dying so much that you don't really live at all. Health food, the gym, early to bed, early to rise, vitamins, supplements, all manner of prime-time advertised pharmaceuticals for conditions you never knew existed but are suddenly sure you have (or at least need to prevent), diets...it never ends. Everyone is terrified of getting old and doing anything they can to look young while never really bothering to feel young. God bless the USA!

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4/25/08

RTBjr73

@UncleJeet

I am goofy looking, couldn't get a date, and won't try to look younger, so I got married. Thank goodness my wife's a hottie and puts out!!!!!

Life is Good

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