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Do we are ready to accept others as they are ?

Posted by friend4all • 10/08/07 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: beliefs, beliefs-and-causes, Culture, humanity, philosophy, social culture, society

Hello,
I was reading a book lastnight and it was metnion there--most of us are not ready to accept our next person as they are. It was in my mind all night and I find that Yes, that’s true, most of the time we are not ready to accept others as they are. We always try to modify others.

what you have to say friends? give your comment and let's discuss here.

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10/08/07

MiLan

Yes thats true. If you are able to accept others as they are, then you are Nelson Mandela, you are Gandhi or Mother Teresa.

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10/08/07

djumbox

No, it usually just means you don't have any problems with yourself.

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10/08/07

exinco

sometimes, but i can say more than 50% people refuse people at first stage

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10/08/07

gosmelltheflowers

Exactly djumbox! If oyu want to change the world start with yourself as the Gandhi phrase goes.

To accept others as they are lose judgement, most of us under 3 years old can do this before society and conditioning take hold.

www.gosmelltheflowers.com/blog

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10/08/07

friend4all

i like to comment here, does it tooooooooooo difficult to accept others as they are? i don't think so. It's easy to accept once we belive them equal smart to our self.

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10/08/07

monkeytale

Generally I can accept most people as they are. But that doesn't necessarily mean they'll ever get an invite to dinner though.

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1. 10/08/07
  
  antibarbie
  
  Well put.
10/08/07

Naturalwoman

yes, i guess you kind of have to. if you don't...then i would say don't deal with that person.

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10/08/07

scorpy01

You can't control anyone other than yourself so you either accept them as they are or avoid them.

I usually just take people as they are. If they're truly toxic, I avoid.

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10/08/07

friend4all

If we accept people as they are than i m sure it will be easy for us to deal with them.

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10/08/07

footiam

Should we? I don't think I would go round accepting everyone. Life is too short.

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10/08/07

friend4all

Scorpy01,
it's not about to control to anyone. People try to let other change as per they want. rathern then accepting them as no way out, i lilke to let you know, understand them as they are, accept their good, bad side.
I m sure it will be more easy for you to deal with them.

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1. 10/08/07
  
  ThriftShopRomantic
  
  Hi-- I think you might have misunderstood what Scorpy was saying.
  
  She posted that it ISN'T possible to control other people if you don't like certain things about them. That the choice is either to accept them or, if their problems are too great, to avoid dealing with them.
10/08/07

friend4all

Footiam,
YES, Life is too short. Let's accept all as they are good or bad. Love them. When Lift end we don't know. Right Footiam.

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10/08/07

friend4all

Hey Thrift,
Thanks for correcting my understanding. The way u explain, i think i take it in the same way.

My intension is that we need to be positive about others though they are bad/ toxic. That keep my self COOL and HAPPY.

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1. 10/08/07
  
  antibarbie
  
  being positive about bad people isn't always logical and I honestly don't understand why I would treat people with love who aren't deserving of it. Why be positive about a child rapist or an axe murderer? I believe in treating people with respect even if they are different from myself (have different lifestyles, views, ect.) but if I honestly consider them horrible people, I can't imagine sticking around them long enough to be loving towards them. Bad people are toxic to your emotional well being. Just my 2 cents.
10/08/07

friend4all

Hello antibarbie,

When we talk something, do we need to talk about extrem negative people, a child rapist or an axe murderer? do we face those people everyday?
what i m talking here is of people who live around us. NOT EXCEPTIONAL EVENTS.
Let me explain with example
IN 24 hr i meet 20 person. do i try to accept those 20 person as they are? do i m going to meet a child rapist in my day to day life?

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1. 10/08/07
  
  antibarbie
  
  considering the statics, you just might. I have nine registered sex offenders in my area, but I live in a decent sized city. Scary thought though...
2. 10/08/07
  
  monkeytale
  
  Since it is conceivably possible to meet a child abuser in a 24 hour period when meeting 20 people I'd say antibarbie raised a valid point.
10/08/07

friend4all

ok, accepted what antibarbie raised. they are child abuser, so , what we need to do with them?
There are mad people in society, even here on net too, what we do with them?
Best way to ignore them.

I stick with what i say, We need to accept them as they are. I not mean to say we need to love them, haahaha. Just accept them bad.

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10/08/07

onegassygbaby

I think that it is hard to accept others, and a lot of it is unintentional. I don't think alot of times were are aware of what we don't accept. Sometime I don't think that we accept certain parts of ourselves. You know the saying you can't love others until you love yourself. I think the same goes towards acceptance as well.

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10/08/07

monkeytale

I'm sorry, but there are cases where "accepting people as they are" doesn't work. Some behavior, actions, thoughts are not acceptable. Ignoring may work, but not acceptance.

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10/08/07

MiLan

'gosmelltheflowers' either I have misinterpreted or you. Question is... are you able to accept the people as they are? Let me give you my own example. I am from relatively high society family as compare to my office colleague. My life style is obviously different. So the question is... would I be able to accept them as they are with their habits, even if they yawn & belch loudly while work (Ohhh I hate this act)

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10/08/07

friend4all

Online Money,
I think u understood 100% corret. But don't restrict it with lifestyle and their habits. My Main issue is do we ready to accept others with their bad emotions, anger, jealousy, short temprament, all those emotions which we are not ready to accept cuz we don't have those things in us.
Do we ready to accept others if they get mad on us with that understanding that He/She is short temper person, so it's obvious he/she act this way. LET US ACCEPT HIM/HER.
I hope it's clear to OnlineMoney as well as others too.

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10/08/07

MiLan

Hummmm!! well I can accept them for short term not for long term or forever.

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10/08/07

friend4all

YESSSSSSS, just accept it for shorttem. Your LONG term is made of shortterm acceptance and actions. If you are accepting others in shortterm, i m sure you are going to accept them in longterm cuz shortterm + shortterm + shortterm = Longterm

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10/08/07

MiLan

hummm. I hope jessica accept me for short term. (Of course its Jessica Alba)

;-)

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10/10/07

Empath

That depends.

Your question is sooo loaded for me (I can think of a hundred different answers, each with a hundred different variables)...

But, for me, the last 2 friends that I made, I never had it in my mind that I could/should change them. But, both of them picked ME.

Maybe this is why I didn't want to change them?

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10/10/07

friend4all

Thanks for Comment Empathy.
I like to know all hundred answers, each with hundred different variables.

The reason i ask this question is that, i m trying to accepting people around me as they are, good or bad, i accept them without any modification. The reason behind this action is that, i like to make my self flexible. Flexibility is very much important in life.

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