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Do you believe in Online Dating? Drop a comment

Posted by Nerd • 4/25/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: blog, blogger, blogging, Dating, internet, love, nerd, network, Online, Romance

I mean come on , we are all bloggers , so is it that bad to meet that possible one online? Share some experiences and leave your url for your blog if you want. To answer my question about my personal feelings is this, I meet my dream girl in Morocco of the net, and I feel blessed. What other device would connect two individuals on opposite sides of the world? We don/t have to settle for less now!

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4/25/08

ursobranco

Yes I do! I even married my online date and moved to Brasil.

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1. 4/25/08
  
  Nerd
  
  See there we go we have 1 success story. Can I ask you what service did you use or did you meet them randomly?
2. 6/03/08
  
  LGramlich
  
  I moved back to the US from Canada to marry my internet sweetie. We've been together for almost 5 years now & we're both still blissfully happy.
4/25/08

lisamcglaun

I tried it without much luck but I think it's a viable way to meet people.

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1. 4/25/08
  
  Nerd
  
  Did you use certain dating services ? And don't give up hope. I always purpose this one question? Where can we meet people other than a bar lol. I don't know if thats where people should go to find the love of there life or maybe Im wrong. I just like the idea of getting to know someone personality first , then once you meet them, the looks just fall in place.
4/25/08

calais50

I think online dating is great. I know many people who have met b/f's, g/f's and even husbands/wives that way. And most of them would have no problem whatsoever finding a date the old fashioned way. I have seriously dated some guys from online (plentyoffish.com, yahoo personals). My current boyfriend messaged me on myspace. One of the things I like about online dating is it is great for picky people like me. I'm not elitist, but I just don't seem to "click" with men well unless they have really high IQs. I will probably not come across that many men in my every day life who fit this description, but I have met several online.
Online dating used to be for losers. Now it is mainstream. It doesn't matter how you meet someone, all that matters is that you HAVE met someone.

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1. 4/25/08
  
  Nerd
  
  This is well put, It is mainstream now . I have used yahoo and came up with no success. Myspace , I have meet several diff women, the best part, NO SUBSCRIPTION heheh . THanks for your comment
2. 9/16/09
  
  Sebastyne
  
  That's exactly right, it's great for picky people, because there simply isn't enough unusually intelligent + good looking people around. And most people I know usually go out into the same IRL places (night clubs) over and over again, and the places have the same people going in over and over... It doesn't take that long to have checked out a whole small town. I've met great guys both ways, but by far the highest success rate (in terms of compatibility) is through online dating.
4/25/08

JillSaxon

Yeah online dating is cool. About 4 or 5 years ago I met a few people "offline". I think we met on MSN chat or something. The dates were about as bad as they would have been if we had met through more conventional methods.

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1. 4/25/08
  
  Nerd
  
  Well you win some you loose some
4/28/08

Nerd

I've been online dating for about 6 years and I think its more exciting than traditional relationships.

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5/23/08

joyseth32

Yes I believe online dating, A lot of people meet their love one from online dating.. and it is really cool..

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6/02/08

G8rbryan

I believe it can happen. I did a personal ad but all I happened to attract were some freaks. Anything is possible, tho.

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1. 6/02/08
  
  wolfcreek
  
  Doesn't seem to be any different from going to the bars.
2. 9/16/09
  
  Sebastyne
  
  You always get freaks, you just have to edit the profile a bit and hope it reduces the amount. What helped me was that I started publishing idiotic emails on my website and had a link to it in my profile, together with a warning that if you insist on being an idiot, be warned that you'll become a public idiot.
6/02/08

focusorganic

I met my husband online back in 2000. We met in a chat room on AOL, lol. What we didn't know was that he had actually been to my house years earlier, to pick up my cousin.

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6/02/08

mikeny07

When I told people in the 90s I dated people online and it was a great way of meeting someone I got laughed at.

Now everyone does it.

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6/02/08

abdelrahman

no i don't think so , online dating will cause problems to both after some time

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6/02/08

mikeny07

The people online are the same people you see in public though. The thing was early on everyone somehow thought that people online never went out of their house.

Now everyone uses the internet and goes online and chats. Those people on the dating sites today are the same people on your jobs.

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6/02/08

wolfcreek

Online dating...well, I don't buy into the "Umpteen Points of Compatibility" crapola, but I know that you can find a lifelong partner from it.

I met the She-Wolf online and will be celebrating eight years of prolonged love, affection and mutual flea removal this fall. We share a beautiful cub and just eat up our life together.

I think that the key is honesty and relevance to life in discussion, and don't base it on the "heated" conversations but how you relate to real life matters in type, and in person.

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6/02/08

Norski

Depends on what you mean by "online dating."

Two of my daughters are using www.avemariasingles.com/ (blatant shoutout), one of a number of online services intended to help people who are interested in establishing permanent relationships find each other. I think these are a great idea - and seem to work fairly well.

On the other hand, I'm a bit dubious the sort of 'dating site' that got a young nitwit in the news earlier this year. He hooked up with a hot chick, and wound up being robbed. Oddly, the chick was real: but she had a scary accomplice.

As far as 'escort services' go, I really don't think these are a good idea.

Again, it depends on what you mean by "dating."

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6/03/08

mythailovedating

seek your real Love www.mythailove.com/

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6/03/08

Closeoutindustry

38 Year old blogging male who enjoys movies, music and like minded ladies.
Apply within comments. Your blog or mine. Friends first though-

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6/03/08

mattclark

I do believe online dating is a very good way to meet new people, for friendship and romance. In fact I'm thinking of setting up an adult dating site. BTW, if anyone else is interested in adult websites don't forge to join my new group here at BC, www.blogcatalog.com/group/adult-webmasters

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6/03/08

timethief

I believe that long distance relationships have always existed and that the internet has extended these possibilities. I believe that online dating is here here to stay and that it makes sense for anyone involved to follow some basic guidelines.

The internet has its share of love and heartache. With so many people using the internet odds are against you, but you may find your mate, provided you use common sense, a lot of patience, and a willingness to take a budding online relationship into the real world.

If you are interested you can read my post on this
Online Relationships: Internet Dating thistimethisspace.com/2007/09/05/online-relationships-internet-dating/

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6/03/08

Daudleikr

I totally believe in it. I met my ex fiance on the internet. I think it's a really good way to meet people who share your interests and views, and it's an excellent way to keep a long distant relationship intact.
I think people do need to be a bit careful with who they meet though, you never know who's a psycho. I wouldn't recommend meeting people after only talking to them for a couple hours.

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1. 6/03/08
  
  timethief
  
  @daudleikr
  I agree with you. I have friends, several couples, who have met online and later married. They strongly feel that if there is attraction it's necessary to meet early on in the relationship face-to-face. I'm interested to hear what you think of the guidelines in my blog post.
2. 6/03/08
  
  Daudleikr
  
  I agree with meeting early on. If you wait too long, your view of the person can end up being based on an illusion.
  With my ex fiance, I think we chatted for a couple of weeks before we met - and when we did we instantly clicked. We dated for two years then broke up because I wasn't ready to make that commitment after all.
  When I was younger (lots younger), I had an online relationship with someone. After about a year, of me being completely smitten by him, he died - and I found out that he was actually engaged to someone.
  
  I agree with your post. And there's so much more to dating, attraction and chemistry than just personalities matching. There is a whole physical process to it. It's so easy to "fall" for someone online if you have a lot in common, but you kinda need to slap yourself back to reality and ask some questions.
  There are too many liars, players, and people who are just looking for comfort.
3. 6/03/08
  
  timethief
  
  I just recently wrote a post based on some advice I gave to a friend that dovetails with what you are saying about early meetings, attraction (chemistry) checks, confirmation that the online person really is the same person in person that they purport to be online and, that their circumstances are really what they purport them to be. thistimethisspace.com/2008/05/09/courtship-in-cyberspace/
4. 6/03/08
  
  Daudleikr
  
  Haha, talk about bursting someones bubble.
  I read some years ago about the physical process of attraction, that if our genetics are compatible we smell good to each other, but if they're not we smell bad to each other. I once met a man online, and met him offline the day after, I swear to God he smelled like poo. And I had to watch Pearl Harbor with him. Sigh. Not a good date.
5. 6/03/08
  
  JillSaxon
  
  Even without the poo smell, having to watch Pearl Harbor is awful enough on its own.
6. 6/03/08
  
  timethief
  
  The smell thing is real. It's in the genes. No kidding I've blogged on it.
  Male Body Odour: Vanilla or?
  thistimethisspace.com/2007/09/16/male-body-odour-vanilla-or/
  
  I was interested in the subject in the first place because I know a man that smells like cat piss to me but doesn't smell that way to my girlfriend.
1/11/09

aryotejo

Dating Online??
Sure, we all dream about meeting the right person . . . the one that we are meant to be with forever. Dreaming about it is all fun and easy, but the real question is, where do you find this soul mate of yours? Fate ? Well yes, if you believe in fate, then yes, it will have something to do with it, but not without effort on your part. Fate needs you to give it direction so that as a team, you can find the person you have always wanted as a part of your life..

www.inloveholic.com

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1/11/09

SweetViolet

I met my husband online and ultimately moved from the US to South Africa, his home country. We've been together 7 years, married 5.

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1/11/09

jonmcollins

I met my last girlfriend online and, while no longer together, we are still best friends. My good buddy met his fiancee on a one week trial of match.com i think... works for some, doesn't for others.

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1/11/09

jackpayne

I once contemplated an ad for Craig's List:

Dirty Old Man seeks volupuous, drop-dead beautiful Goddess between the ages of 28 and 40, who seeks to nurture such an unrepentant slob back to the status of normal, civilized human being. Must be a virgin.

Am penniless, a chronic complainer, ugly as sin, and otherwise have nothing to offer.

But then I sat back, thought about it, figured I probably wouldn't get a rush of offers, so put the whole project into Limbo.

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1/14/09

letters2soulmate

good discussion- what about online dating for 20 somethings, is that too young? is online dating for an older crowd?

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1. 1/15/09
  
  jonmcollins
  
  That's a good question. I don't think that online dating has quite caught on for the younger (20 somethings) demographic, but I don't see any problem with it. The concept of online dating is only going to grow as the internet grows, I don't see it fading away. However, I think it might begin merging with social networking perhaps... My really good friend and ex (it's ok, you can re-read that, it baffles everyone) I met through Facebook, perhaps that is the future of online dating... Sorry for the uneven writing, I kinda felt it out as I went...
2. 9/16/09
  
  Sebastyne
  
  I think the 20-somethings don't even think about it as they do it, they've grown up with computers it's a non-issue for them.
1/16/09

crazedmama

I met someone in an online chatroom. 5 1/2 years of marriage and 3 kids later here we are!

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9/16/09

Sebastyne

Today is my anniversary of 5 years together and 4 years married with my online date. (By a coincidence we set the wedding date to the same date we met in person a year earlier.) I found him on a Finnish dating site City.fi - or he found me, rather. The site is unusual in a way that it's more of a social networking site than a dating site, but has strong dating precence to it. He was living in Finland at the time, but we later moved to Australia, where he's from.

I am the biggest fan of online dating, and I started blogging about it too at www.intimateonions.com and I am currently designing a dating site of my own, as even though I LOVE online dating, I also think it could be done a lot lot better still.

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9/16/09

timethief

OOPS! I just noticed this is an old thread that I previously posted to.

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