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Do you dislike anyone?
Posted by Selvia • 6/15/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
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I get on well and mingle easily with the people around me but there is one woman that I dislike although I dont want to use the word hate. I dislike her because she tried very hard to get my husband attention knowing that I was his girlfriend at that time. She was nice to me but behind my back she was doing this. She even tried her best to ruin my wedding. I will never forgive her for what she has done.
Do you have anyone that you dislike as at today?
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i am very straighforward with people and my feelings. if i don't like someone, i tell them and it usually ends up in us being friends, so no, there isn't anyone I dislike.
Besides any woman who comes close to my D. will get knocked the F* out!
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I dislike people who try to spread hate and discontent, whether it is in person, in public, or on the 'Net.-
ME TOO - Today - I dislike HollyTheHousewife ..
www.blogcatalog.com/discuss/entry/what-counts-as-an-act-of-god#comment_9914...
Who said this about me:
twitter.com/HollytheHousewi/status/2185515538
So there is like this crazy sextoy freak @Petlvr that won't leave me alone at blog catalog all because I believe in Jesus...#iranianelection
easycaptures.com/3089149200
It's petty people like that that ruin twitter and hashtags. -
Make that three of us.
I dislike members who boast of their inclination to be troublemakers on other members' profile pages, who send me hateful name calling shouts full of f bomb obscenities, and who when caught in a lie about her missing blog then has the temerity to post a hateful forum thread for soley for the purpose of launching a personal attack against me.
FWIW I have never said a single negative thing either to or about this member. And all shouts that aren't marked "private" can be found in yahoo's cache.
hatingtherain said:
I lost my blog because I took it down myself. I was trying to leave BC, and didn't want anything of mine on this site. But the never deleted my account here, as I requested. So now I just stay around here because there are a few people I like. And occasionally cause trouble when I'm in the mood.
June 9th 2009
It's petty people like this that ruin social networks. -
I dislike the fact that my comment about 5 ducklings was removed. I still can't figure out what the reason for the deletion was www.blogcatalog.com/discuss/entry/what-made-you-smile-today#comment_990148
Unbelievably I had to post it again.
- This is the second time I am posting this. Yesterday, I saw 5 Indian runner ducklings go into a deep pond for the very first time. I watched them playing in the water, learning how to swim and dive and I laughed as I watched them have fun. Previously they had only had shallow bowls of water to play in. This is what the breed looks like www.runnerduck.net/photo_album.htm
I have no idea why another member would have reported my comment about laughing at the antics of the 5 ducklings enjoying their first day in a deep pool at my friends place.
I have no idea why Admin would choose to agree with the member who reported my comment above and delete it "removed by the community". There was absolutely nothing in it that broke the guidelines. There wasn't even the link to the duck breed site that I included today.
I feel like I am being harassed.
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HUH??
How did I lie about my blog being taken down? That was a shout that I said in someone ELSES profile, publicly. Because they asked me.
What are you even talking about?
Why do you CARE that I don't have a blog on here?
The rest, however, is true:) -
Unblock me from your shout box, and we could even discuss this privately. How about that?
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I find idiots to be quite loathsome.
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Unfortunately, the definition of "idiot" can be very subjective.
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Agreed. In fact, I wonder if an "idiot" is usually only someone that we've decided to dislike. -
Agreed. In fact, I wonder if an "idiot" is usually only someone that we've decided to dislike.
Indeed and what's not to dislike about people who post libelous blog posts defaming you, send you hateful shouts, hateful and threatening emails and blog comments, and also defame you on twitter? I believe such behavior could be labeled as "idiotic" but IMO the "neurotic" label is probably a more accurate one. -
I agree. It's hard to like someone who actively sets out to dislike you... especially so publicly. Bleh.
But if it's any consolation, I like you. Cass does too!
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I also like Cass and you too T.
This isn't the first time I have turned the other cheek. She fades for a few months and then comes back to do her "thing" all over again. BLEH
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i dislike ahmadinejad. he has torn his own country apart. i hate that fascist. -
i dislike archiegottlieb-
and i you.
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@selvia I feel for you. No one should have to put up with someone hitting on their guy. It's totally disrespectful. It's worse when someone does it right in front of your face, just to piss you off. And then goes behind your back and tries to get them to break up with you.If someone did that to me, there's no telling WHAT I might do. It could get really ugly.
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Thanks for your kind words, I was having sleepless nights during that time. She is still around but dare not do anything since I got married
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I dislike the actions of jealous girls -
I am a person who believes that EVERYONE has something good about them.
It has been my mantra - belief and life.
Recently I have had to deal with some people who are liars and they feel as though they have the evidence - no matter how much that evidence was faked - to back it up. No matter what I say, or do, I look guilty - even though in my heart, I know I'm not... And even though the original complainant admitted that they lied and set it up.
So - here I am trying NOT to hate the people involved. Trying to believe that there is a reason for all of this - trying to hope against all hope that TRUTH will prevail.
But there is a small part of me that feels anger and hatred towards them - even while I am trying to understand WHY they are doing what they are doing.-
I believe everyone has good in them as well.
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Yea, that part is called being human. That's how god wired us
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I thought God wired us with free will
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HAHAHHA!!! I see these Huge rainbow colored hands, wrapping barbed wire around a human. Man I wish the guy with the drawing thread was here again!
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Sure I do. It's only human. -
Only the hypocrits, the immorals, the nasty and people who think with their spinal chord instead of their brain and the intellectual cowards which put their head in the sand -
The list is too long -
That is a good way of to describre these people
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yeah i think everyone do -
It's ridiculously easy for me to dislike someone, especially if they were mean to me, or even just looked at me wrong or ignored me. This is something I fight against every day because I don't want to be swayed by every little whim and feeling I have... it's not a healthy way to live.
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I dont about all you friends out there but I personally cannot pretend to be nice to some one that have hurt me. I can forgive them for hurting me but I cannot and will not forget what they did. If I dont like someone I rather stay away from them for good.
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I can see what you're saying, Selvia. It's the not forgetting that makes me rather find some common ground with whoever wronged me, because it'll eat my mind alive if I don't!
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Mostly, I believe personalities have balance-- and you can find something in common with virtually everyone, even if you might not care for their personality as a whole.
Very few people have I met that I've completely disliked. Often, I find if I can understand why someone behaves the way they do, that helps me appreciate them for their more positive points at least.-
Even if they try o intrude in your personal life? Like what happened to me
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Those folks are usually pretty rare-- at least for me. I know of one person who's intruded to the point I know he and I will never come to an agreement-- and I avoid him. I've also learned, though, that he's had problems with MANY other people who don't typically have conflicts with people. So my answer has been to minimize contact.
In his case, I'm suspecting the law will (and possibly has/is) found him as dislikable as I have.
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you have the right to hate her girl. I would feel the same if it happened to me. Fortunately, there's no one that I hate so far.-
Thanks for understanding,She still haunts me once in a while
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well for me personally what had happened to you, mine is worst,why?she managed to steal him after he promised to marry me.since she used her dad to beg him in the name of rescuing her from her 'fragile'state because of her ungrateful junkie husband.but for me its just a nonsense and filthy excuses.and what makes me dislike her the most is,she held the wedding on the same day as my brother's wedding which planned months before her.-
I really feel bad listening to your side of the story. These women act as if there is no other men in the world, these type of women can be called b***hes. I hate them even though my religion teaches me to forgive and forget. Even now after reading your post, I am only getting more and more angry.I simply cannot control my self when I hear this happening to othes as well
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You may want to think about your situation another way: you were fortunate to get rescued from a man who was weak enough to be swayed by another woman's posing as helpless. She did you a favour, exposing him for the weak and easily swayed man he is BEFORE you were married to him and then having to deal with a wandering husband.
Now, SHE is stuck with a man who can be swayed by another woman pretending helplessness...and she KNOWS he can be swayed, so she will never know a moment's peace.
You, on the other hand, are free of that worry and have the opportunity to now find a man who is strong and will be true to you. -
I so agree, SweetViolet.
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thank you.we're on the same boat,but yours is better than me in the story.you just have to keep your man whatever it takes.never to let her in your way.as for me,i would never forget what she'd done,and never want to see her again.actually,in my story is more hurtful than what i've wrote,but i dont want to share it all here.
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just fight for your and your husband sake,coz u have the right to do that.
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Thanks I love my man and will keep this bi*** away from him. He doesnt like her as well. Anyway life has to go on. You are a very strong person. I truly admire people like you.
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I dislike 3 kind of mentalities: 'spreading hate', 'discriminating the others' and 'hypocrite' regardless their race, gender or religion. -
I dislike about a 1/3
tolerate about a 1/3
find mildly entertaining about a 1/3-
You left out the fourth third.
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which is?
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...am a cuddly teddy bear for everyone else?
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I cant think of someone i dislike..as for now.... -
You must be great
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I'm just easy to forgive..
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My ex hubby- with good reason
the teenagers that run their motor cycles 90 miles an hour up my very curvey road all day long then again at one in the morning.(I have the windows open or it wouldnt be so bad)
And last but not least any one smoking pot around my kids (do not care if someone snokes it at all. It is kind of bad when my 4 year old asks what the smell is) (you know who you are) lol.-
Why dont you tell them off
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Honey - please don't take this the wrong way...
But...
You might want to rethink things if you have GOOD reason to hate your EX and there are people who are smoking pot around your 4 year old children.
In fact - while I am a cigarette smoker - anyone under the age of 16 should NOT be subjected to smoke and especially not POT Smoke.
If you are the mother - you might want to consider your circumstances...
And if you have someone in your house that you've found that has smoked such things in front of your child, this might be the time to stand up and say something.
Because - happening to YOU is one thing - but happening to your child is a completely different story. You should be a tigress and a protector.
I don't know the situation - but I recently met this family who thought it was OK to do this - and I had to tell them. Second hand smoke kills.
I showed them by opening their blinds letting the sun come in to make those "rays" where you see dust particles - and showing them how much smoke was in their living room - and asked them breathe by one of those sun rays. They saw...
They also realized that second hand smoke is NOT filtered.
I'm truly sorry if I am stepping in the wrong spot - and if you've already dealt with this situation...
I'm actually trying to give you a bit of determination if you needed it --- to help out - cause sometimes we find ourselves in situations that we feel is out of our own control - and sometimes it just takes one person to be behind us mentally to be able to realize we have control over our own destiny.
Much luck to you - may you be a GREAT mother - and may you never have to go through your EX ever again!
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Oh god, yes. People usually tick me off at one point or another, but I usually get over it fairly quickly. I do have a constant state of dislike for my ex though.-
It has been 23 years since my divorce and I feel the same way...
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I dislike very few people and I hate no one. I just don't do hate.
Hate is more about you than it is about them. -
I really admire your strength SweetViolet
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No, I don't dislike anyone. When somebody rubs me the wrong way, I just figure it's something inside me, and I deal with it. -
Loads of em.. If I start now.. it'll take me atleast a week to finish the list -
Disliking someone takes too much energy, so I just tried to avoid them but darn I can't help disliking a certain colleague! And I can't even my bitchy self around her because I just might cause a 'hostile' working environment, Now I have to tolerate her and drink my stress away... Ah, the blissful state of obliviousness that comes with alcohol abuse! -
my Ex ......-
can we trade boobs?
plzzzzzzzzz??
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It takes a lot of patience and kindness for someone not to dislike anyone.
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Well .. it's a new day and I do not dislike anybody anymore
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Me too. Thats a good idea.
I even like YOU today. -
You are great
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You are wonderful Selvia.
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Thanks, I find you to be great too
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If you spend time thinking
how much you do not like someone... they win.-
If you spend time thinking
how much you do not like someone... they win.
Indeed we become losers when we choose to cling to our aversions to any specific person, thing, or event, because in doing so, we give our power away. And we won't get our power away until we let go.
The same can be said when viewed from the opposing direction. When we choose to be attached to a specific outcome, thing or person - we give away our power. It's only when we stop trying to control other people, things and outcomes that we are powerful.
What influences us to remain powerless losers is our refusal to recognize our egocentricity, pacify our inner self, and and transcend the state of being "self" centered and outwardly focused.
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Timethief... your so deep.
"What influences us to remain powerless losers is our refusal to recognize our egocentricity, pacify our inner self, and and transcend the state of being "self" centered and outwardly focused."
I've found the thought written below a wakeup call for me,
but what do I know... I am just a simply guy :
"If you judge people,
you will have no time to love them."
Mother Teresa
Lord forgive me for all the time and energy
I have wasted in not loving people.
Teach me to love people with your love...
even the ones that are soooooooo hard to love.-
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned.
--Buddha
The followers of some religions believe that compassion or love (the two are very similar) is the most important spiritual quality but they fail to develop any wisdom. The result is that you end up being a good-hearted fool, a very kind person but with little or no understanding.
Other systems of thought, like science, believe that wisdom can best be developed when all emotions, including compassion, are kept out of the way. The outcome of this is that science has tended to become preoccupied with results and has forgotten that science is to serve man not to control and dominate him. How, otherwise could scientists have lent their skills to develop the nuclear bomb, germ warfare, and the like.
Religion has always seen reason and wisdom as the enemy of emotions like love and faith. Science has always seen emotions like love and faith as being enemies of reason and objectivity. And of course, as science progresses, religion declines.
Buddhism, on the other hand, teaches that to be a truly balanced and complete individual, you must develop both wisdom and compassion. And because it is not dogmatic but based on experience, Buddhism has nothing to fear from science.
The highest wisdom is seeing that in reality all phenomena are incomplete, impermanent, and not self. This understanding is totally freeing and leads to the great security and happiness which is called Nirvana. However, the Buddha doesn't speak too much about this level of wisdom. It is not wisdom if we simply believe what we are told.
True wisdom is to directly see and understand (experience) for ourselves. At this level then, wisdom is to keep an open mind rather than being closed-minded, listening to other points of view rather than being bigoted; to carefully examine facts that contradict our beliefs, rather than burying our heads in the sand; to be objective rather than prejudiced and partisan; to take time about forming our opinions and beliefs rather than just accepting the first or most emotional thing that is offered to us; and to always be ready to change our beliefs when facts that contradict them are presented to us.
A person who does this is certainly wise and is certain to eventually arrive at true understanding. The path of just believing what you are told is easy. The Buddhist path requires courage, patience, flexibility and intelligence.
Buddhists believe that our attachment (craving desire within) to witness or to be a part of specific outcomes, as well, as our aversion to other outcomes is the cause of unhappiness.
When there is a sequence to our thoughts, they have as their object either something pleasant or something unpleasant. If the object of our thought sequence is pleasant we begin reacting to the thoughts with liking that grows into craving, a clinging, an attachment. If it is unpleasant, we begin reacting with dislike, which develops into a rejection, a hatred, an aversion.
Four types of attachment
(1) attachment to my desires, to the habit of craving
When I desire something the thought arises first in my mind and is accompanied by physical a sensation. As soon as my desire is fulfilled the sensation is gone but my mind generates a fresh desire so that the sensation can continue. I become addicted to craving and I multiply my misery.
(2) attachment to “I” and “mine”
I cannot bear any criticism of my “I” or any harm to it and that attachment includes to whatever belongs to “I” and whatever is mine. The attachment would bring no suffering if whatever I believe to be mine could continue to be mine eternally and the “I” could remain to enjoy it eternally but the law of nature is that sooner or later one or the other must pass away.
(3) attachments to beliefs and viewpoints (preconceptions)
I have an attachment to my viewpoints and beliefs and cannot bear criticism of them and I suffer to accept the viewpoints and beliefs of others that differ from the ones the “I” calls “mine”.
(4) attachments to rites, rituals and religious practices
When I fail to acknowledge that these are just outwards displays that contain no essence of power other than what I give to them I suffer.
Breaking the Links
The opposite of allowing things to be as they are is trying to change things to align with our attachments, and there are very few things we have full control over. Allowing things to be as they are is about choosing to become detached, yet, keenly mindful and living a conscious life in the now moment.
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I dislike people who are mean, negative, rude, disrespectful, sexist, and racist. I also dislike people with the aforementioned characteristic that try to use this forum to gain attention. -
Today there are several people I do not particularly care for.... all but one are aware of it. The one who is not, it would be in poor taste to let him know since he is having a hard time and my dislike stems from my abhorrance of personal weakness (in other words it is my own picky standards for people that caused the dislike and therefore it is my problem and not his). -
My father's family. They are the worst!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My friends are way more family than them. They are just a bunch of strangers to me. -
Timethief - "The followers of some religions believe that compassion or love (the two are very similar) is the most important spiritual quality but they fail to develop any wisdom. The result is that you end up being a good-hearted fool, a very kind person but with little or no understanding."
I guess... I'm just a good-hearted follower of Jesus...
trying to learn how to love more people with His love.
"Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another,
because love covers a multitude of sins." - 1 Peter 4:8
Do not short change the power of loving others,
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Edited: to remove confusion about hands created by my original comment.
I do believe you and many other Christians are good-hearted followers of Jesus. To me that means you and others like yourself are endeavoring to surrender your egocentricities to the Holy Spirit, so a transformative work can be done within you. The results of doing so is that it will no longer be you (your ego) that lives within, but Christ (the risen Jesus - wisdom, love and compassion) who lives in you.
I also believe there are many "religious" Christians, who do not die to self, and who cannot manifest the combination of wisdom, love and compassion depicted in 1 Corinthians 1 - 13.
lol ... I like you, so I guess our conversation is somewhat off-topic in this "dislike" thread for those who can't or don't read between lines.
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So Timethief...
tell us which hand you are grasping and holding onto today? :-)-
@waxedman
Please see above. I could tell from your question that I had not expressed what I wanted to say clearly. By stating 'on one hand' and then stating 'on the other' I caused you to miss the point I was trying to make. I apologize for that and I hope the editing I just did has clarified what I am trying to express.
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Timethief - "lol ... I like you, so I guess our conversation is somewhat off-topic in this "dislike" thread for those who can't or don't read between lines."
I enjoyed the rabbit trail we got on. It was a bit off-topic, but it was great to share some of our thoughts together.-
@waxedman
I also enjoyed the rabbit trail exchange too and I want to thank you for taking this trail with me. :-)
When I find that I dislike someone my approach is to find out which egocentricities are involved (ie. what my specific attachments and aversions are). Then I can pacify my inner self, and transcend the state of being "self" centered and outwardly focused. In that secure and safe state I don't have any inclination to give my power away. Consequently, I can frequently come full circle and turn my feelings toward the other person around.
If I can't do that, then I can forgive (first myself and then the other person), knowing that if I don't forgive I am making the choice to give my power away and to be "bitter", rather than gaining back my power and choosing to get better. www.blogcatalog.com/discuss/entry/do-you-dislike-anyone#comment_993616
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I tend to dislike everyone. It's a wonderful way to make your blog unique (although I do actually believe the stuff I say on the political part of my blog -- it's not all just an act and showmanship, although there is an element of that).
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