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Do You Hang On To Crap From Your Ex?
Posted by faithsju243 • 10/17/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: exes, relationships
I have a general question: Do you hang on to items from your ex? If so, why?
Here's my story;
chaoticallycalm.blogspot.com/2008/07/my-lucky-shirt.html
P.S Children don't count. Happy Blogging TGIF!!!!!
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No or she would not be my ex in the first place...
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Whatever you know you still have a shrine in your closet!!!
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lol I have something from each of them. Most of my exes are great friends still so it's no surprise. -
Huh. I wouldn't say "crap". I still wear clothes that belonged to my ex-husband sometimes, and I definitely have gifts he's given me. Of course, many of those gifts were given AFTER he was my ex, so I don't know whether that counts...-
Gift so don't count but the clothing you still wear does....any particular reason why you hang on to it?
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Mostly it's just stuff I like--that's why I appropriated it in the first place. But maybe a little bit of the same reason I wore it to begin with. I have a great relationship with my ex and still know that we're "on the same team", so it's possible that on those days when the cold seems to reach inside his sweatshirts seem a little warmer than mine.
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I still have our "book about us" and pictures but that's just so I can always remember how happy we used to be, It reminds me that it can happen and it is out there. -
I still have old letters and cards and ticket stubs from all the movies we watched. I keep them around just in case I forget what it's like to love someone as much as that. Also, I'll share some with my kids someday so they will know that we loved each other and still do.-
I like that answer especially the sharing with your kids, I think it's important that kids know their parents conceived them in love.
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Hmm, many children are conceived in lust, not in love.
But does not mean that children conceived in lust are not loved. -
@fran....Not at all I'm sure the kids conceived in lust are loved no less than those conceived in love, however, in my experience all I saw btw my parents was borderline hatred so it was nice when my mom sat me down and explained how she and my dad met and the little things they used to do before it all went terribly wrong.
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Well, obviously men are from Mars and women are from Venus...
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I keep a lot of junk, from exes. Mainly for DNA purposes.
When cloning becomes more advanced, I plan on cloning all my exes so I can have revenge for all the times they crushed my heart.-
Umm yeah there has to be a 12 step program out there for you, of this I'm sure ha ha
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I had a box of love letters and notes that I've acquired since I was twelve - some letters were from old girlfriends and I had a Trapper Keeper stuffed with poems and love letters (in chronological order) from my HS sweetheart. I ended up throwing it all away so my ex would stop making a big deal out of it. I regret having to do that now.
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I did the exact same thing (but with a shoebox), and now I am always really peeved that I tossed it. Now I have one less ex that I can clone. Damn
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I'm sure there was something witty and intelligent that you wanted to say here!
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No comment?
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nope, none at all-
You gotta give me more, there's gotta be a reason why you didn't hold on to anything come on not even the one little love letter.
In my case I just forgot to check the hamper and have since refused to give the shirt back because the story behind it is so funny.
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Lol..."crap" I love it. Yeah I do. I keep souveniers from all the men I've even been with, it's a little strange, but thats how I am. I have watches, tee shirts, movie stubs little things. I like to keep things from experiances that made me who I am today, men, friends, school, hospital stays, whatever. I keep it all. It helps me write.-
I like when people aren't too inhibited to share their quirks....mostly I hang on the photos which I have stored in the back of my closet hidden from the naked eye or the guy of the moment of pictures I took of exes. It's so true that these people helped shape who I am today so it's only right to hang on to some crap as I like to call it.
Come on it's not like I have a tooth bruch shrine or something....I know some sad sad individuals outside of the blogger world. -
Exactly, I totally agree. Plus I dated a lot of men who were in the limelight, and if one of them ever gets famous...I want proof that I hit that.
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No...In order to cleanse oneself from an ex you need to purify or get rid of everything that can resurface memories...unless its something EXPENSIVE like a couch or food or gasoline :-)
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Food, yep I can see now that you're hording 6 month old McDonald fries somewhere in your place as a memory of some past love. Don't worry it's ok the fries will last a lifetime!
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Why would you want to "cleanse" yourself of someone who had been important to you? I mean, if he turned out to be a serial killer who kept you in an underground box for weeks on end, I can see that, but just a regular breakup?
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Come on now Madamex you would at least hang on to the chains to remember what used to be!
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maybe I'm an oddity,but most of my exes ROCKED. With the exception of one, they were all really awesome guys whom I have mad respect for. No need to cleanse myself, thats what the break up was for.
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I'm with you lotusb I don't really have any loser stories you know outside of the love of my life calling me at X-mas time to tell me he was getting married. But you know (snobbing to myself) I'm over it, no hard feelings.
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Well, you two really suck for drama LOL!!!!
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DAYUM!! That is harsh. I got one....Night before Christmas I got a call from my fiance's girlfriend telling me to tell him to come get his sht and give her back her key. SHOCK!!!
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Well, I guess she would not fit into THIS thread now, would she.
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Christmas time just brings out the best in people what can I say. At least you walked away with the man all I have is that story and some stupid pictures of us at a car show. I should call his Grandmother and tell her what really happened to her coffee table. No I won't that's mean and it might give that ole bat a heart attack.
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Or worse, she might laugh and tell YOU about what she did to a coffee table back in the day...lol
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LMAO. Sorry I neglected to insert a tiny factoid; X-FIANCE. I threw his ass out that night. He came back a month later after stalking me all night while I was on a date, broke into my house and threatened both of us with a metal baseball bat. Stories I have, sister, stories I HAVE. He was the ONE crazo I had in my dating history. And frankly, one is ALL I need.
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Wow!!!
I think I like the thought I had about the coffee table better.
The only action our coffee table gets is me and the boys with coloring books while watching Sesame street.
I'm am STILL the best colorer in the house!! *Thumps his chest* -
lotusb: Did you keep any mementos from the X-FIANCE?
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I used to until I realized that its not that healthy to hold on to the past so I threw away letters, pictures, cd's, t shirts..... even pajamas lol. Theres no use to holding on to these things I found it just made it harder to move on. -
@ faithsju243: Mcdonald's fries are expensive. I can get about $20 if I pond them right now.
@ MadameX: IMO the person is an "ex" for a reason. What would your new beau say about a certain object that you have from an ex? Would that be concidered a "cant let go" syndrome? -
I'm not an emotional masochist and mementoes of past relationships have the power to dredge up emotions--usually negative--surrounding the relationship and its end. Since I was not in the habit of ending pleasant relationships, all that "crap" was reminders of bad times, times I would prefer not to relive in my mind or heart.
I have many mementoes of my last husband...ours was a good marriage and he died after 9 years. He is very much alive in my heart and I still have some of his personal items which evoke pleasant memories of our life together.
But crap from ex-husbands/boyfriends/lovers? Gone with the man. -
I have nothing from my ex, not even a picture oh wait, I got all the lawyers bills still! will be paying them off for years to come, though he has something of mine, he is still living in my house! -
I'm actually really, really, really good friends with a lot of my x's - despite wicked, nasty breakups. Somehow we just always kept a special bond. I guess I grow on people - like a mold or fungus.-
a bad smell you just linger lol
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indeed - and yet they can't get enough! Actually, come to think of it, about the only friends from high school, etc that I'm still in semi-regular contact with are x girlfriends. It's weird.
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Of course. I have every single thing he gave me.. though he probably threw out all my stuff.. :(... tragic really...
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Nothing spells closure like bonfire. -
No sell them all on ebay -
She said crap. Not much value...
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They all died in a plane crash i booked for them to fly ! lol, noh ~ who hears all crap, just moving a little bit over how the other one is experiencing and knowing that it is crap,,, in such times, people with crap shud be left alone to realise or whatevr they wish to realise, and just escape out ~ i dont hav any ex, i have people... sweet ones that i had to leave back , for i was on move.... -
Yes and I hope to change that... I am letting go everyday.. -
Items sure, crap no. I have too much stuff that is classified as crap to keep anyone else's crap. Example my ex-roommate who went to jail and was there when the lease was up lost two 200 WPC adcom audio amps, 4 Thiel speakers and misc other audio gear was kept. His music along with the gay porn collection was crap and left at the curb when I cleaned out. Ex-girlfriends tended to take more than was theirs. -
Firstly, you have to analyze whether the previous relationship was worth remembering. Certain items may bring back bad memories and that stuff should be discarded.
If the relationship ended smoothly and it was without regret, then hanging on to some stuff may not be harmful but maybe even beneficial. -
i have.. i do hold on to it for a little.. but eventually i end up just tossing it out.. not even purposely just when im cleaning.. i guess becayse after the break up your still a little attached .. but time heals. it really does. -
My ex never really got me anything & we never really went anywhere, so no. Even if there had been things to save, by the time I left I was already SOOO over him.
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