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Do you have your funeral planned out?
Posted by amybyrd21 • 7/23/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: funeral, planning
My hubby's grandmother who passed away two months ago at the age of 91 had her funeral planned out since she was in her 60's. She kept a notebook. She would change it around if someone else on the list of speakers died. She had her music, speakers, and all planned out. All they had to do was get a coffin. do you have your funeral planned out? and what would the biggest thing you would want at your funeral to be? I would want my dress to be purple and live music not recorded.
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Yes, I have instructed my daughter to toss my body into quicksand and let it sink. That'll save any needless post-mortem expense.-
My mom said she wanted to be cremaited and put in the fmily garden so my dad can talk to her every year lol
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I know what song I want played - but other than that I havent put much thought into it -
I always told family to dig a whole out back or toss me in the river. I am not picky and whatever is cheaper. My Mom wants to be cremated as she doesn't want to be buried with the bugs.
I like nothingprofound's idea with the quicksand tho
Cheap, effective and easy to do -
@amybyrd21
- Do you have your funeral planned out?
There will be no funeral, no body viewing, no body rotting in a box in the ground, and no headstone, plaque or memorial of any kind.
After body is cremated (4 days after death) my ashes will be interred into the earth - ashes to ashes - dust to dust. Those who survive me will be attending a party.
I have made and paid for all arrangements. I do not want my loved ones making those decisions while they are in a state of grief. And I most certainly do not want them making choices that I would not agree with. I also think everyone ought to consider doing the same.-
Pretty much the same thing I have planned except that I will be in an urn for a while and when Hubby dies, we will be scattered together from the top of Table Mountain.
The cremation will take place after my useful organs have been harvested. But we tend to live to be quite old in my family, so they may be well and truly used up by the time I go!
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I want to be cremated like chicky's mom - I have NO desire to be in the ground.
I ALSO do NOT want to be autopsied. (Unless there is a reason like something to save the world - or help others...)
I have this really weird feeling - that even tho the body systems shut down - there is still some electrical activity going on in the nerves and brain - so that you're still semi "aware" for awhile until you're decomposed.
I just don't want to be aware of someone cutting me open and taking pieces out to weigh them...
I don't much else care what happens - whatever makes everyone else happy.
But - my main thing is - I want everyone to have a PARTY when I die - NOT a funeral.
I hate it that people would cry or be upset over me.
OR... AGHAST: no one came.
I would much rather they celebrated something about my life - and the common occurrence of death... I mean - it's NOT like it's NOT going to happen. I AM GOING TO DIE.-
@wagerwitch
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Donate whatever organs possible, and bury me in a cadboard box. Might as well become fertilizer!-
yea i like that
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i just want balloons. a coffin and balloons. and i really don't want my headstone to be shiny.-
The last place I lived, my back yard was a grave yard. The head stones that lasted the longest were made out of wood or the cheaper stone. Just a little fact. -
@Amesplaza: I like that idea about the balloons. Lots of balloons floating in all different directions.
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I just want to be buried in the ground without a coffin and let worms and whatever else eat me up. I don't want to be turned to ash; that would just be a waste. I want to become part of the earth again. -
Call me odd but I really believe in memorials. For me, funerals aren't about death, they're about respect and love, genuine love, for a valuable human being who walked this planet and left his story. They're about finishing a tale, finalizing relationships, and filling the depth of years with peace. They're about everything that's missing form the shallowness of the today we've made.
It's good to keep someones' name on the earth if possible, and there's soemthing genuinely beautiful about final respects and the old ties of loyalty being woven back in to your character. I think that as a modern society, we throw out too many of the older traditions and the more romatic side of life, the genuine love of people, and start to hate ourselves, which leads to nothing good, distorts our character, making us cold passionless people who are so sick and tired of being burdened that we do nothing good. We hate "bothersomeness" so much that we avoid living and call it "life," or worse, "niceness."
I especially love the idea of a town cemetery, and of everyone who has ever given their life to a community being buried together. I don't really belive in coffins (why not just lower the body as it is, or build a small wooden box like they used to) but a headstone, a few remarks, and a resting place with everyone else who made your neighborhood/small town/wherever is valuable and good and something I wouldn't even deny a criminal.-
Jeremy-that's kind of beautiful. You are definitely a person of deep feeling.
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I want to be preserved in a cryonic tomb till I rise again. He he just kidding.
even wrote a blog about it some time back.
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I used to say bury my like you want b/c funerals aren't for the dead they are for the living but as I grow older I'm thinking about it more and I'm beginning to have specific ideas. I'm going to make my own casket before I die and it's going to be just a wooden box like in western times. I'd like to be buried straight in to the ground and a tree grown above. That's the most environmental PC thing now. LOL The day of my funeral I want to be buried in my blanket and flowers around me while everyone has a chance to paint on my casket. The one thing in my will I insist on is that every one has a party that day. Remember all the good times, the tears can come later but when people are together they should share there good memories.
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I think to have my funeral all planned out at the age of 22 would be a bit weird, so no, I don't have it all organised! But I have thought about it and I would like to be buried in an eco-coffin, and have a tree planted over me so that that patch of earth didn't just become a derelict depository for my bones. And I really don't like funerals so if I was running it I wouldn't have any of the black formalwear and depressing speeches and music...bury me, plant a tree, be sad for a few minutes while you do it if you want, but then have a party and drink and dance and have fun!
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My husband and I both have living wills for those end of life decisions.
After, we both have the same post-death wishes, which is cremation. I want my ashes scattered around the following three places: the Egyptian pyramids near my ancestral village of Daktahlia, Egypt, Peet's Hill at the base of the Bridger Mountains in Bozeman, Montana, and the ocean off of San Francisco.
Like TT, we have specific money set aside for the funding of the trips to Egypt, SF, and Montana. We have specific funds set aside for a celebration of life, which will occur at the scattering of the ashes.
I agree, ashes to ashes, dust to dust--back to the earth in the three places that are most special to me. -
no i have't planned anything i try to live in the present -
You would think more people would..it's like the SUREST thing in life (no pun intended). But no, I don't. I'm 25 so it's not like I'm up in years, but you can still go at any moment. I suppose when I'm gone it's up to my family how they wish to greive me. In the end, how does it matter what happens to you?
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