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Does your spouse, significant other, or friends read your blog?

Posted by latonyarich • 6/24/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
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Recently, I told my husband about a post I was writing. I thought it was pretty good, more so funny. He's not big with computers, and does what he needs to do, then gets off. The internet is the road less traveled for him. Any way... I printed off the post and handed it to him, but he didn't take it. I was almost offended. I wanted him to read it. I send my post to my friends and family as well, but I'm sure only a few read them every now and then. What about your family and friends?

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6/24/09

MissSuzie

I get asked this all the time (probably because I bash my ex a lot). He is aware of the blog and read the first couple of posts, but I don't think he reads it anymore.

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6/24/09

timethief

I see no reason at all for you to be offended. All my friends and family members are aware that I blog. My husband does not wish to read my blogs and that's fine with me. My blogging is aimed at targeted readers and I know my husband, family and freinds are not my audience.

From time to time I notice my family members and friends have visited my personal blog in my stats. I asked them early on how they felt about me mentioning them or posting their images in my blog and they said "don't do it". I have respected their privacy so my personal development blog does not include posts about my relationships with them.

P.S. I visited you blog. I consider it to be a personal blog with posts containing observational humor aimed at women in their fourties.
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1. 6/25/09
  
  latonyarich
  
  Thanks. I mention my family from time to time, but never by name. For some reason, they think all I write about is them. Not! I'm more than just a mother and wife!
2. 6/25/09
  
  Rory
  
  @Time ... I gotta disagree with you on this one. If my spouse refused to read something I'd written and handed to her (i.e. showed no support of my accomplishments), I'd be hurt, embarrassed, offended, mad ... etc.
  
  I can understand not keeping up-to-date on an entire blog, but if there was a specific post that I'd printed up and asked her to read and was rebuffed ... well.
  
  But, that's just me and the intimacy of our relationship. Everyone's relationship with friends and family are different, so I can't impose my opinion on anyone else. And, I don't know what Laton's relationship is like with her hubby.
6/24/09

cookingasshole

I wouldn't take offense. You don't know what he is thinking. He may just not care but he also might not want to invade your privacy (even though you tried to hand it to him). Rather than force it on him I would just let him know it exists and before you know it curiosity will get the best of him.

My family and friends read mine.

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6/24/09

freshtunesfinland

It's true what timethief said about her family not being in her targeted audience. That's pretty much how I feel too; if they find the content interesting they should read it, not because of a blood bond. Of course they should always be supportive, but following everything your special other does would require quite the amount of time and energy.

This doesn't mean that you shouldn't still pester them about it every once in a while

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6/24/09

dcarroll

I used to get annoyed that I would tell a friend or family member about my blog and see in the stats that they only looked at one or two pages.

I'm not sure of a target audience, but maybe my point of view and humor are so well known that they can "get it" in person.

I'm not bothered anymore. It's just the way it is.

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1. 6/25/09
  
  latonyarich
  
  I totally get the target audience thing, I teach media and advertising. What I'm looking for is support from Mr. Husband and friends, every once and a while.
2. 6/25/09
  
  Rory
  
  You'll just have to tell them how much it means to you to have feedback and support, especially Mr. Hubby.
6/24/09

amybyrd21

My hubby doesnt read mine at all. A friend had to tell him I was writting one and what a blog was. He has to much else to do to be concerned with it but now he makse sure I have time to do it because a lot of his friends read it. He thinks that is funny they want to be up in our personal business like that. Now he takes time to read a few that I follow but that is rare.

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6/24/09

Shiley

My friends and family know and don't really care. They know what I'm about and I don't put on a fake face. There are things I choose not to mention. I do have limits but those boundries have a lot to do with my husband and children.

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6/24/09

hollypage

Sometimes I get upset when friends and family don't read my blog, but I'm much more concerned when I happen to write a post about one of them (however directly or indirectly) and they do read it! I don't make a habit of writing about specific people, but when you're struggling to come up with topics, it's easy to look at what's going on in your life and those around you for inspiration.

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1. 6/25/09
  
  latonyarich
  
  If you're struggling with topics, I suggest the 31
  Day Build A Better Blog challenge, or workbook. I did the challenge. It really helped me with ideas to write about, how to get more traffic, and being serious about blogging, and soooo much more. I have a link on my page, you should check it out.
6/24/09

Anok

My husband reads my blog regularly, and some of my friends do, and my brother as well.

But since I'm so vocal, they usually don't need to even go to my blog to know what I have written LOL.

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6/24/09

melindaville

Yes, my husband reads my blog--although he sometimes has to catch up on a few weeks--he's very busy. When I first started, he was really supportive and left me comments but now that my blog is gaining more support, he doesn't do that as much.

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6/25/09

lotusb

Well, my boyfriend of 4 years, dosen't read my blog. I think he may have read it like 5 times in the past 2 years of me writing it. My mother, sister, and favorite cousin read it daily. I get calls from them about the things I write. A few friends read it, because they subscribed. Other than that the majority of my readers are either BC'ers or perfect strangers. I write for myself, not others....whomever reads it can and if not I'm not then fine. I used to be offended that my bf didn't read it, but honestly...he never reads ANYTHING not sports related...so I let that go.

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6/25/09

LolitaV

No one in my RL knows about the blog. I figured that D. knowing might stop me from writing as honestly as I do and can you imagine sitting with friends and family if they knew what we do to each other. ROTFL!!!

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6/25/09

sensitivemuse

my family doesn't even know about it. I think some of my friends do I guess I'll never know until I start bitching about them and see what kind of comments I get

Besides, if they don't like what they're reading, too bad.

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6/25/09

PetLvr

I wouldn't get offended .. in fact, the first year I realized that there was absolutely no chance in hell my family even wanted to read my blogs ... I started to create tags like..

Christmas Present Suggestions,
Places I want to go on vacation,
Things I want for my birthday,

etc

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1. 6/25/09
  
  PetLvr
  
  (.. an no, I wouldn't link anything in that tag ... it just would force them to read the tags to determine that)
6/25/09

Adal

To be honest, the closest persons to me are the ones who are less interested in my blog, except my big brother and my girlfriend.People from around the world read it, but them. As the saying goes: you are no prophet in your homeland.

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