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Posted by bexablancas • 7 days ago • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: facebook relationship problems social networking
So today one of my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend's sisters friended me on facebook. I don't know his ex or her sister and I KNOW they were just trying to have a look at my profile. I told this to my boyfriend who doesn't quite believe that girls are that sneaky (oh, but they ARE.)
This got me thinking about the ways Social Networking Sites impact relationships and how FUCKED UP it can be. It's become so easy to "stalk" people and relationships can be hurt by the stupidest things, like reading too much into a wall post or comment.
My boyfriend and I have had our share of FB issues (nothing major, mostly me being curious and looking at old messages from his ex...something I DON'T recommend as it will solve nothing and only serve to make you feel insane) and I was wondering if anyone has ever had any Facebook/Myspace related problems like that?
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Facebook= evil. Gabby didn't have the nuts to tell me himself that he banged some chick in Germany, but one of my friends noticed the way she looked at him in a photo on facebook and come to find out he bagged her several times while over there and after I confronted him he half assed admitted it, I snapped out on him and told him never to speak to me again and a week later they are listed as in a relationship even though he is in Charleston and she is in Bamberg. None of this would have came to light, and I am quite sure would not have became a relationship, had it not been for facebook. On the bright side, she apparently has a fiance who is about to go back to Germany and kick his ass and according to google she is a scammer so its sort of a poetic justice. But still.. social networking sites + relationships = trouble haha-
I'm not at all sure that this can be blamed on Facebook. I kind of put the blame on the cheater.
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The last two questions we've received have been related to this somewhat. Women have discovered their partner's "other" relationships through past emails or texts. Facebook is another place people discover information not meant for them. I always wonder why people aren't more careful??? It's like they're hoping to get caught!
So yes, technology is certainly having an impact on relationships positively and negatively. Although it hasn't happened to me...YET!
THE GUYS have done a bunch of posts on online dating, facebook and the world of social networking.
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I suppose something should be kept from Facebook then. Keep certain things private, that is.-
Right!!
or use weird name.
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Makes you wonder how many people have gone to the lengths of having TWO Facebook accounts to keep from getting caught. Not only Facebook, but two MySpace accounts, email accounts, etc. etc. Just saying ....-
I actually have two facebook accts. One for people in my life, online and off, that I trust. It has photos of family and I use it often. I have my present and past inlaws and family members as friends along with various friends from my childhood to now (BC included).
My other facebook has 4 friend and I'm one of my own friends. I made it so my friend's son could talk to me and play games with me without anyone she doesn't know seeing him. She's paranoid about it and I respect her so I made the second page so he can play too. He's only 13 but I applaud her caution.
But my other half sees my page, even though he doesn't have one. Anytime he wants he can look, if I let him. I even have my exhusband, my exes wife, and all my ex inlaws as friends. I don't keep it a secret from him though.
That's the part that seems wrong to me. If you deliberately hide something from your partner then that's where the fault lies.
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It's not the Facebook which fucked up relations. It's the immoral behavior of people in social life. Facebook is just a social platform and nothing more. If you are sharing your account with your boyfriend, you should add his name to your title too.
Once i had a girlfriend who i am working together with the same projects. And i sent some messages about our works via Facebook. That was a mistake. She told me that i am sharing my account with my boyfriend and he is jealous of you bcs of your messages. I said there is nothing wrong with the messages they are all about the subjects we are working on. And she said she can do nothing. I never sent any messages, deleted her account and we are not even friends in real life now. -
ummm ... are you drunk ?-
Hmmm... Yes a little bit.. How did you know it??
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Facebook is just a social networking site....it dont invites u...u r the one who uses it...so y to blame it???? its the people u r connected with...do the site care about it???? NO... -
add me at facebook www.facebook.com/nyilinw -
Social networking websites like Facebook can be used for good and evil.
As pointed out some people use it to spy on other people, hookup with people, cheat on their partners etc. On the flip side it also helps you stay connected with friends and family.
I principally utilize Facebook to promote awareness of Gay & Lesbian issues via several groups and pages I have on the site. It has proven to be a very good platform for the activism work I am involved in part time. -
Same for me. I use it as a marketing tool, so I never put anything personal on it. -
I use face book to connect with family and friends... My only problem has been my exwife and I have blocked her from seeing anything. She is a bit crazy and reads everything that I write online that she can get too and re-fabricates it to use as a way to alienate my son from me. Before my whole family blocked her she was going around trying to friend all my mom's facebook friends so she could "get the scoop" on me I guess. Seems a little "Stalker" to me My blog analytics showed that she has spent 4 hours straight reading every article on my blog. I thought that it was odd that a single reader would go through my blog sequentially reading every article...then I got a phone call from my son asking me all kinds of crazy questions about my blog posts... his mom had been pretty much just filling his head with propaganda about me... that's why it is always important to only be truthful and thoughtful about what you write online... if you are an honorable person even attacks on your character cannot go far if there is nothing to support them. -
Facebook and relationship shouldn't be used in the same sentence. If they are it's a recipe for disaster. -
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I don't think that Facebook hurts relationship, people hurt relationships. Facebook is merely a catalyst.
I had a girlfriend who kept meeting guys on Facebook. The bottom line is that she would have met guys anyway, she was a cheater. Facebook just allowed her to do it much faster and more efficiently.
The bad news, sites like facebook allow people to show their true colors much faster. The good news, sites like facebook allow people to show their true colors much faster.
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I only facebook people i know in real life so i don't have the cross-over between the internet and the real world there. And i think its just a tool to be used, people have to have the need to use it in a malicious way.
Case in point: My Best Friend had this boyfriend- who didn't like me because my BFF spent time with me. This boyfriend was the particularly needy/whiny/self-centered type. My BFF used to have to lie to him whenever I was around. Finally my BFF got fed with this guy and dumped him and stopped answering his calls/texts/FB chats/etc. That's when this guy tried to Facebook friend me to as a method to get to my BFF. I mean its not that much different than this guy driving past my BFF's house to see if anyone is home.
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