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   4/27/09

   deoangel

   I just read your blog post. I am not a mother,but I am a daughter. I would be very disappointed if my mom did something like that.

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   4/27/09

   timethief

   I also read your post. It's sad that your wife has behaved the way she did.

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      4/28/09

      iyaayasmoderator

      I put in major effort. Why? She is my daughter. Also, she lives some 22 hours away from me. Everything I do is countered in some way. I, now, cannot believe a word out of her mothers mouth. Sad thing is that her mother is a Captain in the United States Air Force.
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   4/27/09

   Stillthinking

   I am so sorry you went through this. I had a situation that severed my relationship with my father and to this day, I have a hard time with it. In that case though, his actions were at fault and he is unable to heal the rift. It's hurtful and difficult for everyone involved. The biggest thing you need to know is that you have to be the one who keeps reaching out no matter what.
   
   Good luck.

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   4/27/09

   cookingasshole

   As a Father I wish you good luck.

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   4/27/09

   iyaayasmoderator

   I thank you all for your kind words. If I can add one thing to what I posted tho. Between the three of us, my ex, daughter, and I, when communication goes amuck, it goes deep. When I have spoke with her mother, she tells me it was for L.W.'s own good if she doesn't have contact with me and sees it as she is doing us all a big favor. Fortunately, L.W. has seen this in action for herself. Does it change the gaps in time?
   
   I will tell you that time does not heal all wounds. Time is more often than not, the salt in those wounds.

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   4/28/09

   fruitcake

   I am married and if we were to split, I would never deny my children the chance to see their father. Kids need both parents (even if they aren't together).
   
   I wish you the best of luck with your situation.

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      4/28/09

      iyaayasmoderator

      Thanks for the kind words. I'm sure somewhere deep down, my ex has a heart, a really small, dark nub of a heart, but a heart all the same.