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Getting Older. Is it just a cliche?
Posted by DrRick • 11/19/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: Blended Family, marriage, parenting, stepfamilies, stepfamily, stepmom, womens rights
Getting Older. Is it just a cliche? I don’t think so.
Getting older is real. More forgetful, get tired sooner, can’t stay up as late, can’t eat anything and everything without the Rolaids handy, creaks and aches that come out of nowhere. As my mother used to say, “Getting older is not for sissies!”
On the other hand, better insight, stronger ties to family, more mature attitude (sometimes!), better decision making, higher tolerance for disappointments. This is me. How about you?
Dr. Rick
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No,not a cliche, and while I agree with some I disagree with the notion that some have stronger ties to family, higher tolerance, better decision making. I have just met too many older people who are cranky rotten buggers whose decision making is no better than when they were younger. On the other hand I know some old people who are no longer having stronger ties to family because they realize life is too dammed short to put up with family just because they are family.
Getting older has it's blessings and it's curses. -
It's not cliche and young people suck. -
Well.... My thoughts on it is it all depends on the person.
My parents are older then my husband's (5-8 years different.) Mine are VERY active. Yes, one has some illness but it doesn't stop her.
My husband's parents (mom that is..his father just passed away not but a few months ago) is younger then mine but doesn't leave her home, doesn't do much in her home, and lives an "OLDER" life style with less illness (I am not saying she isn't ill but you get my point I hope.)
I feel even if people experience the SAME exact things they can react completely different to them. So, the outcomes are different.
I don't feel old yet myself (and don't like to tell my age) but I can feel when it's going to rain, go to bed earlier, get up earlier, and know now that I knew less then I thought I knew when I was younger (ok that sounds funny but it's true)
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Well, I don't think everyone will have health and other age-related problems. Just need to look after yourself here and now, eat better, exercise, avoid junk - usual stuff. -
I already have the aches and pains and limited mobility as I have a condition called hypermobility syndrome so I can't imagine my old age will be much different, it'll just be more severe.
I can't wait to be old! Sounds odd but I really can't! I find being young very frustrating...no one takes me seriously, people assume I don't know anything, people expect me to stand up on trains/buses for everyone else (when I need the seat because standing is painful), people assume that my personal life is there business because I'm of the younger generation...I hate it!
...I can't wait till I can get away with being cantankerous! That is my aim in life! To be a cantankerous old woman being innapropriate and rude to people I don't like! It'll be wonderful! -
Now that I have reached the half-century mark...
I am losing all that beauty and brawn but have more wisdom too. I wouldn't want to be young and foolish again for all the gold in China.
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@ the Tucan ... "You know dahling ... You look Mahvelous!"
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I had a moment that I felt REALLY old, I think it must have been a full on 30's crisis, but I got over it (for now anyway), but it taught me that age does creep up on you one way or another.
I haven't gotten the physical effects of age as of yet, but I'm sure they'll come. -
Well these are all very different feelings about age...I gues like my wife says it's not how old you are but how old you feel (and look and act).
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Getting older is something that is never going to happen to you.Personally I feel better now than I did when I was younger, mentally! Physically. menopause. I think its a time to be wise and very very silly and stupid.And to read 'Women who read with the wolves' -
I'm 36, I'm in the best shape of my life. I've never looked better. I'm taking charge of my life and doing things I've always wanted to, and learned that life is too short to spend it doing things you don't want to with people you don't want to.
This growing older thing is working for me so far.-
Sounds lovely! Its a great age. Glad you worked out the not doing things you dont want to now. Wish I had found that out earlier.
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There is only one other option to getting older... dieing young.
As we start to get older, we feel good about it. We're in the best shape of lives, loving life, more mature and in control. You know, all the cliche stuff.
When getting older starts to really kick your butt, your blood pressure and cholesterol starts to creep up. Don't mention that knee you hurt waaaaay back in high school is showing signs of arthritis. Before you know it you're taking a handful of meds, you can't live without. That's when you long for younger days.
Getting old is not cliche. It's lurking around the corner, and it will get you! -
I'm the black Peter Pan, nobody can tell me otherwise. -
I am older... I love it... I have never felt better... I can't wait to get out there and do things that I have on my do before I die list. -
I feel pretty good for 51, but I think I have arthritis in my toe, and have problems taking a dump sometimes. And if I don't get eight hours sleep, I get kind of cranky the next day. And I'd rather stay at home and read or watch a movie than go out somewhere. And every time I get a haircut, it seems like my hairline is a little higher. But other than that, it's not too bad. -
age is just a number...
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Can't do some of the things I used to do. It can get a little frustrating. Just gotta find new things that my bones can handle! -
My mother-in-law is 63 and she is old. She thinks old, dresses old, even walks old. Her friends are "seniors" and they go together to do "senior" things. Don't get me wrong...I think this is just fine, but I think she is self-identifying as being old, and making many life choices that are compatible with that.
I, on the other hand, am 62 and I am not old. While I am not mutton-dressed-as-lamb, my wardrobe...including my shoes...is fashionable: comfortable, but fashionable. I don't dress old, think old, act old. In fact, I don't feel any different than I did when I was 40, and even the health issues aren't, in my mind, age-related since they've plagued me from my younger years.
I think it is a choice. My mother-in-law and I are 15 months apart in age: she is an old woman and I have yet to exit middle age. It's all in how you see yourself.-
Hi That must be strange having a motherinlaw the same age!Do you find you get a bit competitive?
My partner is the same age as you im nine years younger. I keep telling him he has to start looking older or people will think he is out with his granny.
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Hi That must be strange having a motherinlaw the same age!Do you find you get a bit competitive? Not really. She was just glad he finally got himself a girlfriend...he was 30 and had never brought one home! She overlooked our cultural/race/religious/and age differences, she was so glad for him finally getting married!
My partner is the same age as you im nine years younger. I keep telling him he has to start looking older or people will think he is out with his granny. I am one of those fortunate people who does not look her age. I'm usually guessed for being in my mid-forties; he's balding early and is usually guessed for his forties (he's 37). So we don't get that kind of thing. We get more stares because I wear the red dot on my forehead (he's Hindu)!
How did you get through the menopause without getting fed up? Fed up with what/whom? I'm fat and my doctor says that fat tissue generates estrogen, so that helps soften the effects of menopause. It wasn't that big an issue for me!
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It's my birthday today, I am officially a year older, but only a day older than I was yesterday. Age is just a number so the saying goes and I totally agree. I wont act / feel any different just because I'm one number further up the scale! x -
Who is that blonde American actress ??? she said the other day 50 is the new 30 grrr ??? who, who, I'm not twenty and my memory already sucks-she played a schoolteacher and a gangster moll ??? dammit who is it. -
Wouldn't know, but it doesn't sound too great. -
Michelle Pfeiffer that's who
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Some people are old in spirit at the age of 25. It's all a matter of perspective. We are having the time of our lives! We travel, don't have responsibilities like raising kids anymore and I'm finally comfortable with who I am as a person. I have a new career and two dogs that give unconditional love. It's a given that you need to stay physically healthy, but the mind needs new challenges. Oh, and humor goes a long way. No matter what the age, a person with a good sense of humor is appealing and has a vibrancy the makes chronological age less relevant. -
I sleep less than when I was a student, I eat what I want and rarely suffer for it. I'm more confident than when I was young. Family ties - no different really; if anything a bit stronger since I moved further away.
Mentally I got stuck at 18 though physically I'm almost 51. My husband is 15 years older but often seems much younger than me.
And a 70+ man recently got banned for skateboarding in the UK.
It's all down to attitude. Lighten up and do something silly once in a while. And don't worry what other people think of you (that can be very aging). -
I am 47.
I don't feel like. But this is reality
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Satchel Paige (a great pitcher from the old Negro Leagues) had this to say about getting old:
"How old would you be if you didn't know how old you are?"
"Age is a question of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter."
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