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Getting Older... Thoughts -- Yours and Mine
Posted by wagerwitch • 5/14/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
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I'm officially an "older" woman.
OK - to some people I'm really old.
To others I'm young still.
I get told I look between 25 and 35.
My current significant --- is SIGNIFICANTLY younger than me.
I don't FEEL old.
I don't look old. In fact - I look at women my age and compare (sorry, it's true) and I haven't found very many of them that don't appear to be their age.
I don't know why age is so important.
It bothers me that women on television are all under 30... All perfect in size, skin and clothing.
In fact - very few headliner women appear to be older than teenage years.
I find it unfair that men are treated the same whether they are skinny, fat, ugly or goodlooking - yet women... They MUST be young, tender and perfect... in order to get any attention or fame.
I don't like getting older.
Not because it is what happens, or your body breaks down...
But more so because getting older, especially for women, means turning into something NO ONE appreciates any longer.
And that bothers me.
We aren't considered sexy any more once we hit 50. I mean - how many 50 year old women do you see in Playboy? How many women have you seen as the sexy 50 year old in ANY movie?
Why is this?
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I have a thing for older people....I don't mean standard-looking pensioners...but I'd much rather have a tumble with Helen Mirren or Jeremy Irons than Jessica Alba or Justin Timberlake.
These stereotypes are stupid and annoying and I hope it's going to become outdated very soon. -
Yeah - but have you seen Justin Timberlake lately?
He's matured quite a bit - in such an interesting way --- away from his pure "BOY TOY" image.
But stereotypes - it is soooo true.-
young men are really not my thing...not at all! blech...
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I know -- but you mentioned Timberlake - and he's not so uhmmmm Young looking any more. He's quite matured lately.
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to be honest I was struggling to think of the name of a young man! haha! I don't pay any interest to them!
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But --- I do have a question.
Those STANDARD LOOKING PENSIONERS...
Weren't they those good looking boys or girls once?
When did they become OLD?
When did we lose sight of them being sexy.... And WHY?-
I suppose it's something to do with the way people carry themselves and view themselves. If you see yourself as sexy you are more likely to appear sexy to others.
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I'm thirty, but look and act much younger. I have no problem with it at all. My personality seems to attract people and that seems to never change no matter my age. -
Good - Cause I'm ALWAYS gonna be sexy...
As long as they make batteries...-
hahahahaha
Man, how can I go to sleep when you guys are being so fun?!
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You're only as old as you let yourself be... (granted i'm only 2x)Act younger and you will feel younger.-
you're only as old as the person you're f'ing - is the term Im told.
So I guess I'll be turning 37 this year.
I could totally go a jennifer aniston, and most of the desperate housewives -
haha, that's a good one. That would make me... lets see 22+24+26+23, well let's just say I'm pretty old
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I am definitely attracted to older men. I could totally go for Jeremy Irons. George Clooney looks better @50 than he did in his 20's.
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Woman after my own heart...I even wrote a post about this ages ago!
siuilaruin.wordpress.com/2008/01/15/confession/
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I definitely dig Robert Redford and Patrick Stewart. I have never seen the actor you wrote about in your post, so I can't comment on him. I do think Al Pacino is sexy.
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you've never seen Oliver Reed?! The sexiest man who ever lived and you've never seen him?!
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Oliver Reed? GAWD yes!! Gorgeous, and he just oooozed sex appeal!! Too bad he died.
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I feel like I'm still 18. Or thereabouts.
My body doesn't always agree with me and on some days I feel like I'm 140.
But... I truly wonder - do people who are 80 feel the same?
I can't imagine feeling any different then... Other than seeing the world with experience.
But WILL I be pushed aside?
Will young men look at me and wrinkle their noses in distaste if I even pretend to flirt with them?
Will they stop opening doors for me?
Will they stop hitting on me? (no - not for my purse or to cross the street... LMAO)
But --- will I lose that "ATTRACTION FACTOR"?
If so --- when?-
I can't speak for other guys, but I personally find flirting with older women (like 70+) to be very fun. Especially when they tell me they've heard that one before, it's a great time. And I open to the door for everyone, so I will open the door for you.
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I think there is a medium to it - some quite trying and some go way over the top and end up looking like mutton in lambs clothing. But if you're somewhere in between that when you can get away with being a little bit more "ageless". I think having a sense of self respect and style has a lot to do with it
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"Shirley Jones, who is known to Baby Boomers as the matriarch of the ever-so-wholesome “Partridge Family,” may pose in the buff for Playboy - at age 75. Shirley’s hubby/manager, Marty Ingels, told the New York Post that his wife is “drop dead gorgeous, and at the age of 75, a natural beauty. I’m her husband, and I think it would be sensational. Mature women are relevant.”"
I hope she does...kinda...mixed feelings... -
Ooooooooooooh
Now that is EXTREMELY interesting and may, in fact, give some women a chance at reality... That is interesting.
Now -- dbowles, I'm assuming you're under 25? LMAO - so is my husband.
So ya better darn well open that door for me.
I'm also not older than 45 nor younger than 35.
But - I do hope that when I AM 70 - that people won't make me feel invisible or "OLD" or unsexy or unappreciated.
I would be the same person at 70 as I am now. Wouldn't I?
How do people deal with getting older?
I mean - aren't I the same person that EVERYONE is hitting on now?
What is the difference of me now -- and me in 30/40 years down the road?
I'll be the same person... But I'll have more wrinkles, right?-
I think it's entirely about attitude...Just look at Edith Piaf, she married someone 20 years younger...Elizabeth I had a romance with someone 30 years younger!
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I think excercise and a good diet is the key to a good physical appearance - but your personality would also have to evolve to fit both your age and the time.
What I mean is, you dont have to act your age, but dont act like a teen.
EDIT: actually I'll re-phrase that, don't act any younger than the person you're trying to attract/impress. -
Yea, Under 25 and also under 22.
I don't have to worry about getting old because I will become sexier as I age.
The difference you ask? Sagging. You're also not even close to old if you're under 45.
Oh also, hustler or penthouse has a cougar hunter section...
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The obsession with "youth" is a relatively new thing. Fifty, sixty years ago nobody mentioned it. Compare movie stars of the 30s and 40s with those of today. My parents couldn't care less about being eternally young and beautiful, they just wanted to be responsible adults and raise their families. Sixty has as many pleasures and enjoyments as 20, maybe more because there's so much trivia and nonsense you no longer care about. You appreciate each new day as an incomparable gift and realize what really matters in life.-
There are different priorities now than ever before, especially in the role of the women - who are far from being homebound. They're more career driven. So its understandable that courtship and pairing off has changed throughout the years
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Yes but Dbowles... Eventually EVERYONE sags.
Does that mean... that they are a different person on the inside?
I mean really?
Just as it happens in the condos that I live in... The couple a couple doors up are: Her/58 and He/31
My significant and I are like that --- not quite as many years apart - but close. And I've never met ANYONE in this world who thinks like I do, except for him...-
"Does that mean... that they are a different person on the inside?"
Depends what sags...
(sorry, couldn't help myslef)
People are stupid...ignore them! If they are blinkered by this idea that people should date their own age that's their problem. Women's libidos increase with age, men peak in their 20s...seems a natural match... -
Oh I understand that, and it doesn't change anything on the inside. But for many people (thanks to the media) old looking is out. And because we are exposed to these images from childhood, we are taught that beauty is more important.
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It's interesting to hear all you "young" people discussing the possible tribulations of growing older. I'm already there, and I tell you it doesn't make a bit of difference. Each day is a day of your life and you live it the best and fullest that you can.
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Yanno Sam - that may be the ABSOLUTE truth.
I went after my career - had a husband and a family life... It ended on his infidelity and me getting extremely sick for a couple of years.
Getting sick changed my outlook on life.
And my current spouse is much different - now it's for fun... for love... Not for necessity.
Strange - you may have just hit it on the head: about the new pairings of older women/younger men.
But -- about getting OLDER.
Are we not the same humans as we age? (Beyond each individual's life lessons)
When do we lose that sexiness? That ALLURE?-
you lose the allure as soon as you stop believing in it. Confidence is just as attractive to men as it is women. The only non sexy people are those who lack the confidence within themselves.
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Well, I can answer that by simply saying that most of us tend to not find that attractive because we're lead to believe through all sorts of media that its not attractive to age.
We're just too brainwashed.
But its my belief that love is beyond looks - focus on who you're trying to impress, if you truely love someone then its beyond looks. Sure physical attraction is important but if you've aged WITH someone then it shouldnt really matter to them.
Its like seeing your child every day - and then one day when you're at the shops you bump into an old friend and they tell you how much your child has grown - you hadnt noticed yourself because you'd grown with the changes yourself.
Get what i mean?
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Thank you Dbowles - then you've just made me Sexy until I die at the ripe age of 125.
Because I will NEVER stop believing that I am a sexy, alluring, loving, kind person.
Now, I just have to figure out how to stop the sagging without spending millions of dollars.-
Hit me up in a few years if I decide to stick with med school (plastic surgery)
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Oooooooooh Dbowles - YOU keep in contact now.. Ya hear?
I want to do somethings - but I soooooo do not want scars.
I had to have a couple surgeries in the last couple of years and I would LOVE to get rid of those scars... -
I'll be around, but I can't make any promises. I pretty much despise school so we'll see
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All that matters is that this is hot:
doinaberchina.files.wordpress.com/2009/04/helen_mirren_bikini-picture.jpg
And this is not:
dyn.ifilm.com/resize/image/imgentity/6/4/1/0/64103.jpg-
Holy crap, I hope I look that good when I am her age!
Do you think she has implants? They are awfully perky.
Which reminds me, I had a bra fitting today. The sales girl actually grabbed my tits and told me they were big but very perky. I was a little horrified and flattered. -
nope, she's a natural sex-pot...with a really good bikini!
She also flashed them quite recently in Calendar Girls! -
Siul - dang - she looks as good as I do... I'm going to guess tho that she's in her 60's?
And I most certainly will NOT look that good then. LMAO! -
yep, she's 63. I bet you'll look great when you're in your 60s...even if your boobs are by your knees you have a killer voice and you're clearly a sex-pot...
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When you get old you won't give a damn about how attractive or sexy you are. All that stuff goes with the wind. You'll be glad if all your parts are in working order, your mind is still lucid, and you have friends and neighbors to talk to.
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buzzkill central
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Yeah -- but NP --- will my neighbors still want to boink me?
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If your neighbours don't want to boink you then they probably aren't the type you (and your kinky ways) want to boink...
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@Siuil: Reality central. I'll see you when you get here.
@wagerwitch: When you get there, you'll see if you care. -
boink....I mean bump
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hahaha!
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LOL
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I met my husband when he was 29. He told me that women do not become sexy until they are at least 40, when their bodies become "ripe."
He is now 37 and his opinion hasn't changed. He admires what he calls a "mature" figure...he hates "stick girls" and refers to most women under the age of 30 as "little girls."
Good thing, huh? (I'm 62)-
I'm in my twenties... But I agree with SweetViolet.
The sex-appeal of a person lies in how he/she carries himself or herself.
The way you dress, speak, confidence, your knowledge etc; especially the knowledge. And i dont mean the bookish one.
The wisdom of having seen the world, and to be able to guage the depths of things, makes a person very sexy to me.
Dumbheads, no matter how good looking, are a total turn-offs.
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WOOHOOOO -- You are right there with me - I'm younger than you by a good twenty - but yeah - the age difference is about right.
Still - I hope that I remain as sexy as then as I am now.-
I don't think I am any less sexy now than I was 30 years and 100 lbs ago. I am just sexy in a different way.
Men still flirt with me...I get winked at or get that slow, appreciative smile in the supermarket, at malls, even in restaurants. I am not especially beautiful nor do I dress to show off The Girls, but I am well-groomed and know that there is a lot more to being sexy than showing too much (augmented) skin and painting myself up like a trollop. A lot of men know that, too.
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Old age is something that bothers me because i know i won't be able to play around like i do now. -
What sort of question is this?
Of course we dont associate old with sexy...
old is wrinkly, saggy, droopy, loose ... which are definately not the traits of sexiness....-
That's a very shallow view. There's a lot more to sexiness than what your eyes behold.
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It really depends on how you define "Sexy" ... not to be confused with "Appealing" or "interesting"
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Why is this? I believe it comes from "social conditioning." Even the rich and famous women of the world are treated differently as they age, hence all the cosmetic surgery.
My own experience with getting older has actually been a pleasant surprise to me. I am going to be 59 this fall, and like you, don't look or feel old at all.
When I divorced three years ago, I was surprised that men still found me attractive and interesting enough to ask out, but they did. Although, by choice, I did not date for a full year after the divorce became final. I was living alone for the first time in my entire life, and found it to be an enlightening and freeing experience.
The very first man I did choose to date was 10 years my junior, and it bothered neither of us.
Embrace your age! I am so busy and so in love with life that I don't factor in age often at all.
As for women "of a certain age" still considered sexy at 50 or older:
Jamie Lee Curtis, Christy Brinkley, Helen Marin, Raquel Welch, Sophia Loren, Renee Russo, Farrah Fawcett (God bless her and help her), Diane Keaton...need I continue? LOL
So take heart and live and love to the fullest.
Karen-
Are you hot?
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PS...did you by any chance see the commercials of older and very older women posing tastefully nude in the Dove Pro-age commercials?
If not, go the www.dove.com and find the "models" section. I think it is still up.
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