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Have you ever broken someone's heart?
Posted by DaniG • 21 days ago • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: broken heart, guilt
If so, do you still feel guilty about it?
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yes, and yes.-
For me, twice. The first I felt guilty. The second was deserved, so no guilt. Were you tempted to give it another try?
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Yes, but it was too late, I had already recommitted myself to another and didn't want to make the same mistake twice.
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I just finished getting over my 7 month guilt trip over breaking my ex's heart over and over again throughout a 3 year relationship in which I proposed to her to get married and couldn't ever follow through. Needless to say, once she finally got herself a new man, I said, f-ing excellent. Now I don't feel an single ounce of guilt at all, even though I was a shit boyfriend and fiance. And, now I'm ready to blaze hell again.-
And I am sure you have already.
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Yes, no. -
Nope just the recepiant of broken hearts-
Well, it just breaks my heart to hear that.
Oh Hey!! There ya go
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nope and yes! -
yes several. Long story and no I didnt fell bad at the time it was for the best -
I don't think so. -
Yes and no. I didn't do it intentionally, but I did not feel the same about most of the young men I dated before I married. I did feel bad for a long time, but later I let it go.
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I suspect I have. Usually, if you break someone's heart, they find a way to get even, and then you need not be consumed with guilt. -
Yes I did, and no. Well in the beginning I felt guilty, but it wears of after a while. -
Sadly I have to say yes to both... -
Yes. I loved someone truly and it was returned. But, we didn't want the same things from life, so I broke it off.
Two weeks later, his father died. That was about 15 years ago, and I still feel remorse that I wasn't there to help him through it.
About 2 years ago we met again and talked it over. He was insistent that things happened as they should have and that the right choices were made. It helped to hear him say that.-
Wow, Midwest. Great that you two got to talk it over. The guy I hurt hid for years from me. That was made worse because his family still adored me and I'd become best friends with his younger brother's wife. On one dinner we were invited to, he refused to come in - it was 30 degrees outside. Finally, he came in and hid inside the house. (I hadn't even known he was THERE.) I saw him, walked over and knelt in front of him and apologized. It was very awkward, but I invited he and his new wife to come with me the next day on a buggy ride with my horse. We made terrific in roads through that. I always did feel bad about that one. But, I did the right thing. He and I would not have worked. He just did not know it at the time.
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I know that feeling (about being sure things wouldn't have worked.) Still, it isn't easy to have to give up something real like that and it's worse when making the smart choice involves breaking the heart of someone you care deeply about.
I'm glad you had your chance to address it, though.
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My Best Friend...and I continue to do it every year... -
This may be sad, but I usually dont realize I've done that until one fine day! -
As cold and heartless as I can be sometimes I also have to say yes to both. I did not realize the impact that love and denial can have upon someone until I had my heart broken. It really made me sit back and think about all the times that I had done it in the past. -
Probably not. I tend to be the back-up choice for guys who just didn't get the girl they REALLY wanted. -
Ouch, being Plan B would suck!
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Heh, yep-- but think of the poor Plan C girl!
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OMG - You're the PRIZE Girl...
You're the one that they don't LUST AFTER - but realize is the PERFECT WOMAN for them...
You're the one that doesn't have any horrible personality defects just because they are the MOST Beautiful, pretty, popular (insert choice here) , etc.
You're the one with patience and understanding.
You're the one that is willing to see the faults of the man and yet, take him anyway - even though he had originally set himself up for MIZZ Perfecta - he realizes he finally could NEVER reach that sordid Goal of actually hunkering down with that SL - You know - T.
And when he finally uncovers what a GEM --- YOU ---- are... he marries --- YOU ---- and lives happily ever after...
Only to think about MIZZ Perfecta once in a blue moon maybe while showering alone... or something...
But most of the time his belly is full, he is satisfied, he has the remote in hand and he is a HAPPY, HEALTHY, CONTENT MAN.
ROFLMAO...
THat is my opinion of Plan B girls. -
Heh, you're a sweetie, WW...
And ya know, I think this was my very first official WagerWitch multi-paragraph post. -
Some men are maroons, I vouch for Jenn's Plan A status.
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No hasn't told me yet, so I currently don't know. -
Yes and yes..
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Not quite and no.
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Not even my own. -
Probably yes & no (any such incidents were LONNNNG ago now.) -
You don't mean with a spear, do you?
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yes I have broken many heart but my heart has been broken many times.. the world works in mysterious ways -
I've never broken a heart, but I have ripped them out, shredded them to bits, and burnt them as peace offerings. Not once did I feel guilty. -
twice. yes. -
yes and yes, though recently it seems Karma cuaght up and bit me in the arse big time-
Funny how that works.
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Yes, and it was an awful scene. Someone had proposed and I had asked for a little time to think about it. That night we were having dinner in a chi chi restaurant and when I told him I didn't think we were right for marriage, he started crying. Whew! He was not the crying type, which made it doubly shocking. As to feeling guilt, no - not when the truth is involved. -
Yes, and I never feel guilty about anything. :-)) -
Yes....and not at all. It was the best thing I ever did. -
Yes and not really. Heartbreak is a part of relationships.
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