Blog Catalog Discussion: Have you ever felt betrayed?

Halconite on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

Halconite — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 00:24:41 -0600

Yap. Especially by our politicians ...

footiam on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

footiam — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 00:22:06 -0600

It is good to be able to tell the difference.

SweetViolet on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

SweetViolet — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 02:37:04 -0500

There is a considerable difference between feeling betrayed and actually being betrayed. Some of us cannot tell the difference and end up blaming others for hurt feelings.

footiam on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

footiam — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 02:21:52 -0500

At least it is a lesson well learned.

footiam on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

footiam — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 05:39:18 -0500

I am bound to agree with you! The best thing perhaps is not to promise!

inmyredhead on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

inmyredhead — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 00:34:46 -0600

Sometimes I think betrayal is the single most personal offense that can be made.

It's easy to say just don't expect so much and you won't be too disappointed. I employ that thought process as a general rule. But I think the reality is that everyone has to have SOMETHING that they believe in. And when that thing betrays them, it's so deeply personal and sooo hard to recover from. We don't want to be bitter all our lives (aka 'not expecting much') nor do we want to be naive. So you end up completely messed up, not knowing anything anymore. The aftermath is a feeling of being completely helpless and utterly lost in your own world that once brought you comfort.
It's horrible!

People... if you make a promise... KEEP IT. If you know yourself AT ALL.. and you know you are weak... DON'T MAKE THE PROMISE.

I am a cynical person. Yet I have taken promises to heart and put my faith in them. I don't think it's entirely fair to blame the trusting for the fallacies of the weak.

footiam on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

footiam — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 23:50:09 -0600

We are all human.

footiam on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

footiam — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 00:16:28 -0600

I'd do the same thing too. Why bother with people who don't value you=

luvikavi on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

luvikavi — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 13:39:29 -0500

Yeah I have. I'm pretty clear with the person when they do betray me. When I get angry, it really isn't pretty, but after a while I forget about it as well as the person. If the person made a mistake, I try to forgive. Most of the times, however, I just stop talking to the person. I'd rather not have the person that betrayed me in my life. I'd rather much move on.

SweetViolet on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

SweetViolet — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 13:32:46 -0500

Many modern biblical scholars believe that Judas didn't truly betray Jesus. Some think Judas was actually acting on Jesus' behalf because until he was arrested and crucified, Jesus could not fulfill his destiny.

buffedstuff on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

buffedstuff — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 13:16:22 -0500

sure, but it is all good, people who don't know any better, can't do any better, so I forgave them wished them the best and decided to delight in each heartbeat I am granted.

exinco on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

exinco — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 09:53:32 -0500

the reason was he is betrayed me because of greedy, backstabber and selfish. And this is all because of money
i was contribute 100% but get 0% in returned.

kat822 on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

kat822 — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 08:40:14 -0500

betrayal leaves a bitter taste in your mouth

irtiza104 on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

irtiza104 — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 08:21:45 -0500

i felt

footiam on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

footiam — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 07:38:32 -0500

I guess our family members will feel as hurt if we are the one who does the betraying.

mekap04 on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

mekap04 — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 09:14:06 -0500

I think everyone has been betrayed at some point in there life. Its all about how you deal with it. I think being betrayed by family is the worst of all and hurts the most. I know first hand.

JanelleV on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

JanelleV — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 08:51:14 -0500

I've felt betrayed before (more than once). I'm sure everyone here has.

jafabrit on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

jafabrit — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 08:25:13 -0500

yes and after the anger I looked at what role I played in the friendship and how I excused the red flags because I "needed" a friend. Never again, so in a way I got a gift. I learned something very valuable from the experience.

footiam on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

footiam — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 08:21:28 -0500

People can help but expect something,I suppose.

morgantj on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

morgantj — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 16:31:02 -0500

BloggerExposed, this isn't something one would really have to "practice." One only needs to "understand" it. The understanding makes one, well, more understanding. :)

I agree with you on having a healthy amount of skeptism in regards to what people tell you. Sorry things haven't worked out with your husband, but I think its good you are acknowledging that things are not working out, understanding why, and moving on.

TheBloggerExposed on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

TheBloggerExposed — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 15:51:11 -0500

Anin! Talk about betrayal! You said bacon and egg?? You cannibal!
(Ok, I'm only kidding, I know you're a freaking aardvark) But I still think you kinda look like a pig!

TheBloggerExposed on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

TheBloggerExposed — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 15:42:35 -0500

Right, MTJ. That was my point--that I agree with you completely in theory. Yet it's the practice I find unlikely.

You bring up another very interesting point about believing what people tell you. This is yet another issue in my marriage. I have gotten screwed and/or made poor judgment calls based on taking to heart what my husband tells me. Even if the information he gives isn't intentionally inaccurate, misinformation is misinformation. And while I have felt a lot of anger toward his assured answers which sometimes prove to be inaccurate or biased, I am more angry at myself since it is ultimately my responsibility whether or not to believe something indisputably.

The problem is, if you can't trust someone to give you true and accurate information, then you may as well not communicate with them at all. I don't have the time to double-check every single fact I hear via word-of-mouth.

It kinda sucks!

morgantj on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

morgantj — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 12:00:59 -0500

I explained further below. :)

morgantj on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

morgantj — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 11:58:44 -0500

Shiley said, "that is the way it is supposed to be."

Yet another expectation. Who has the final authority on how things "ought to be? What I have said IS realistic. That is the reality. I'm only pointing it out. Just becuase we have expectations of society which we enforce with laws and consequences in an attempt to try to maintain some level of control doesn't negate the fact that it is because of these expecations that when they are not met it causes these feelings of betrayal. Just because we think we need expectations to maintain what we feel is orderly, it doesn't disprove my point.

Shiley said, "If we as a society can learn to talk instead of be destructive there wouldn't be betrayal."

Yes there would, for there not to be feelings of betrayal, we would all have to have the same expectations and adhere to them. If someone was talking to you and told you some BS and you believed it, then later found out it wasn't true, you would feel betrayed. You expected them to be honest with you. Even in talks there can be betrayal. It is the expectations that would have to be removed. Which probably wont ever happen, so there will always be feelings of betrayal to go with it.

Shiley on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

Shiley — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 11:02:46 -0500

Precisely, it's not realistic. You expect love and kindness from your family. That's the way it's supposed to be and as a family you have to learn how to meet those expectations. Otherwise you have disfunction. If we as a society can learn to talk instead of be destructive there wouldn't be betrayal.

TheBloggerExposed on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

TheBloggerExposed — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 10:55:17 -0500

MTJ, Your very last sentence is an excellent point. I mentioned this very thing yesterday in a discussion about marriage. The main reason I feel marriages fail when they do is because the individuals, or the marriage itself did not meet their expectations. You're therefore left with disappointment and often a feeling of betrayal.

If you do not subject expectations onto the person they are marrying, they can not disappoint. Yet, I don't think that is necessarily a realistic perspective.

TheBloggerExposed on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

TheBloggerExposed — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 10:55:10 -0500

MTJ, I definitely agree with this; however, it is easier said than done!

Plus, shouldn't we hold certain people to certain standards? Such as spouses, friends or leaders in government or other areas of the community. I agree with a lot of things you say, so I'd like to hear your perspective on this because perhaps it will open my eyes to think about the subject differently.

morgantj on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

morgantj — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 09:08:37 -0500

If you "can't do that", then you will feel this feeling of betrayal. You expected them to behave differently then they did. You think they "ought" of not done that. Had you of not had this expectation of how they ought to act, you wouldn't have felt the betrayal.

The point is, the blame can not only be put on those we feel are betraying us. For it is our own expectations that we are judging by. When our expectations are not met, we feel betrayed.

Shiley on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

Shiley — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 08:28:34 -0500

My gram passed away. When my 2 aunts got to the house they began to misbehave. They raided my grams room like a couple of looters. I don't think my gram would have wanted it this way. I had expected more of my grams daughters. They're family to say expect nothing means the same of your family. I can't do that. I expected talk and remembrance. Instead there was fighting and stealing.

morgantj on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

morgantj — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 08:11:56 -0500

Expect nothing. That usually avoids feeling betrayed.

praning5254 on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

praning5254 — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 08:09:01 -0500

betrayal is inevitable... but we can only be affected by such when we expect too much
I've been betrayed several times and it's because i let myself to...
I guess i learned my lesson and that is to leave something for myself...

joni on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

joni — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 07:24:07 -0500

Yes, I felt betrayed. You know what's the painful thing of being betrayed? It is when you never expected that the people you consider as special will make fun of you. It is when they think it is JUST a funny thing to do well in fact it hurts you. That is why I use to defend someone whom I think is being betrayed because I know how it feels.

vfanblog on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

vfanblog — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 06:51:26 -0500

When the guy I dated for 5 months at 16 cheated on me and bragged about it to all my friends.

aningeniousname on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

aningeniousname — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 06:21:38 -0500

Yes, this morning I bought an egg and "bacon" sandwich. But when I opened it, this supposed bacony treat contained just one slice of bacon!!! One slice in my humble opinion does not constitute a bacon sandwich.
Betrayal comes in many forms but I think most people would agree with me that this is one of the most soul destroying.

EcoInsomniac on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

EcoInsomniac — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 04:05:33 -0500

I've felt betrayed a few times in life, but mostly during my teen years and the feeling shouldn't have lasted as long as it did back then.

footiam on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

footiam — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 03:16:21 -0500

I'll get paranoid too!

footiam on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

footiam — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 08:36:55 -0500

I second that.

footiam on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

footiam — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 01:20:33 -0500

I'll flush him down the toilet. I hope you would too.

JillSaxon on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

JillSaxon — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 09:55:48 -0600

I felt betrayed when a guy I was seeing called another girl from my bathroom. He even said he loved and missed her.

I don't think I've ever felt such rage.

reasonablerobinson on 'Have you ever felt betrayed?'

reasonablerobinson — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 08:35:44 -0600

Now THAT'S the point mlinauer I totally agree - its the affect it has either way. Is it possible to get thoruhg life without trusting anything at all I wonder...