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Have you ever just wanted to sell everything and MOVE?

Posted by wagerwitch • 6/11/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: honesty. questions, move or not to move.

This will tell all of you a LOT about me - which I can't tell you a lot more.

I am in a situation that the whole town knows about - where I have been painted to be an evil person by the very people that were supposed to protect me.

Think of it as being 10 times worse than the SCARLET A woman.

So - right now, I am humiliated, depressed and terrified to go out in public. No matter how much I KNOW I didn't do anything wrong. No matter how much I know that the evidence MIGHT point one direction - I know in my heart - which direction it really was.

Anyhow - I have the ability to move right now.

I can sell my condo - and my pick up truck - and have a garage sale. And just go... Wherever I want.

I can continue my lawsuit from anywhere in the world.

I would have about 50 to 60 thousand in my pocket if I did this.

I don't have a job - and my career choices were just ruined yesterday...

I expect to win several million in a lawsuit - but that - as we all know - could take forever.

So - do I stick it out - in my condo - which I wouldn't go outside in the public - where the cost of living is OUTRAGEOUS...

With no income.

Or do I pick up and move some place cheaper.

I own my condo - but - wouldn't qualify for a housing loan ever again.

So - what would you do?

I want to breathe again - and I want to be able to walk outside without people knowing who I am --- and believing the worst of me - no matter what.

Only my true friends have stood beside me and they know the truth.

So - again - what would you do?

User Comments

6/11/09

dbowles1017

Yes, but unfortunately I'd only get about 50 bucks. I actually was going to something similar to this, but some financial things prevented me from doing so.

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6/11/09

Rory

Hell Yes! That might happen sooner than later if I don't find a job soon!! Stupid economy.

I understand money goes further in Thailand ... !!

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6/11/09

boytrotters

Perhaps move someplace cheaper? Not only might it benefit the ol' hip pocket, but some physical distance might help you to achieve some more emotional clarity too (should you need it).

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6/11/09

MissSuzie

I'd move and figure out a way to make it work. If Dick doesn't put our house on the market within the next couple of weeks, I'm packing up and moving out. I'm tired of the negativity around here.

I truly wish you the best of luck with whatever you choose.

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1. 6/11/09
  
  Rory
  
  Don't you "own" 1/2 of that house? Force him to sell it, take your share and move away from him. Then, enjoy the peace of mind!!
2. 6/11/09
  
  MissSuzie
  
  Unfortunately, I can't force him to sign anything. I can make his life a living hell until he does though.
3. 6/11/09
  
  wagerwitch
  
  Sometimes I think it might be easier to just RUN RUN RUN.
  
  SIgh.
  
  I don't know.
  
  THe part that kept me here is gone.
  
  AND my significant thinks we could have a LOT of fun looking around.
  
  Me - I'm afraid of just spending all that money - and not having anything in the end.
  
  Sigh.
4. 6/11/09
  
  dbowles1017
  
  You guys can all come to Kansas. Very cheap rent, nothing to do, ect.
5. 6/11/09
  
  wagerwitch
  
  Just HUGE tornadoes.
  
  And the Wizard... LOL!
6. 6/11/09
  
  MissSuzie
  
  @wager: If the part that kept you there is gone, you should be too. Just my opinion.
7. 6/11/09
  
  dbowles1017
  
  Tornadoes aren't bad. I think you would enjoy the Wizard
6/11/09

HollytheHousewife

Its a really simple answer. Do what makes u happy

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6/11/09

wagerwitch

MissSuzie
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MissSuzie
@wager: If the part that kept you there is gone, you should be too. Just my opinion.

Hmmmm - that was probably the most honest truth that I can see.

I'm happy with who I am and who I am with.

There is one catch.

I wouldn't be able to see my daughter - who turns 13 in a couple of weeks.

But I haven't been able to see her - because she is mad at me - for the last 6 months. And she only lives 3 blocks away.

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1. 6/11/09
  
  MissSuzie
  
  Wow. That throws a whole new wrench into everything. You have to do what you have to do. If you aren't happy, your daughter will never be happy. Even if you live further away, you will always be her mom.
2. 6/11/09
  
  wagerwitch
  
  I figure it might even make it easier for her.
  
  Which is one of the reasons why I'm seriously thinking about it.
  
  I'm sure life hasn't been easy for her at school because of this whole situation.
  
  Again - I know I didn't do anything wrong - but there are some people in this world who will point and scream that I did.
  
  So I just have to deal with it the only way I can.
  
  But I don't want to be seen as sticking my tail between my legs and running. I'm not running - I'm still fighting - but I can fight from wherever I go.
3. 6/11/09
  
  MissSuzie
  
  Trust me, she'll know that you are still fighting. Kids are perceptive like that. She'll thank you for it when she's older. I do wish nothing but the best for you.
4. 6/11/09
  
  wagerwitch
  
  That made me cry.
  
  Thanks for that Suzie.
5. 6/11/09
  
  boytrotters
  
  Maybe if you want to move away, do it... just be sure to keep in touch with your daughter via letters perhaps. That way it's less obtrusive if she wants nothing to do with you, but there'll be the chance that she just might read the letters and get to see how you really feel about her.
6. 6/11/09
  
  FreakSmack
  
  I've done this. I am a runaway, I left when I was 14 and never looked back. I went over a 1000 miles. Part of me has always regreted it though. If you do decide to do it I'd try and fix your relationship with your daughter. She's going to need you wether she is mad at you or not.
6/11/09

nothingprofound

Nothing is better than moving on and leaving everything behind. Everybody loves a new beginning.

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1. 6/11/09
  
  wagerwitch
  
  Awww - thank you. That was VERY sweet.
6/11/09

HollytheHousewife

Yea,that's true but I could never leave my daughters. I would take them with me. Nothing is more important than raising your kids.

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1. 6/11/09
  
  MissSuzie
  
  I agree wholeheartedly, but sometimes sh!t happens. My kids are taken from me every other weekend by their father. I can't do anything about it and hate that it has to be like that. All I can do is be there for them when I can.
6/11/09

HollytheHousewife

I just can't imagine. I know that's one reason I will never leave my hubby. I never felt safe and secure as a kid. I never want my girls to have that feeling.

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6/12/09

IntoTheAzureSea

If you need to talk, I can lend an listening ear.

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1. 6/12/09
  
  wagerwitch
  
  Awwwwwwwww - seee your shout.
6/12/09

HollytheHousewife

I sure hope everything works out 4 u. I will say a prayer

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6/12/09

rfburnhertz

If it were not for the no income part, I'd stick it out and opt to pack up and move the day my name was cleared.

In the few situations where I've had to defend myself when I should not have to had defend myself, I tend to want to hunker down and take on all comers.

Not always the best thing to do though.

I'm not really one much for revenge, but when an innocent person has their character smeared, I hope to see that person rub the truth into the face of those who turned on them.

I hope your situation works out.

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1. 6/12/09
  
  wagerwitch
  
  My situation WILL clear itself - it has to.
  
  Just so you know - in the long run - it won't matter, I am fighting for the rights of EVERYONE.
  
  Trust me on this.
  
  I'm taking on the State AND the City - when I found something corrupt.
  
  But - in the end - I WILL WIN.
  
  Only thing is this is a small town - and my name and life have been slandered - so staying here - is really hard on me... I don't go anywhere anymore. And I hate feeling like this.
  
  I also know because of what is going on - that my daughter is facing some issues in school.
  
  I've never RUN - so to speak... But it would be cheaper for me to live somewhere else - and I'd at least be able to get a job.
6/12/09

roentarre

Wagerwitch

I have sold many things in life but not my soul

The funny thing is that all the camera lenses I sold always get a profit. I am gifted in lens sale I presume

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1. 6/12/09
  
  wagerwitch
  
  James - thanks dear. Your lenses make the world a beautiful place.
  
  You capture the imagination and the perspectives of life.
  
  Thank you for just being YOU!
6/12/09

SweetViolet

There is a difference between running away from something and running TO something. And while they may look the same on first glance, the differences are profound...as is their effect on you.

Don't do anything hastily. Selling your condo, if you can rent it out, is hasty. Moving far away, if you can find a place in a nearby community, is hasty. Scramming out of town before the dust settles and you can see which way the wind is really blowing, is hasty.

Make sure you have something to run TO before you take the first step in dissolving your present life. Make that your focus, because if you run away you will bring with you regrets and what-ifs and years of wondering if you did the right thing. But if you run TO something better...or at least different...you will have the knowledge that, regrettable as the move might have been, you took steps to improve your life and in doing so, the lives of those you love.

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1. 6/12/09
  
  wagerwitch
  
  Just so you know - it wouldn't be considered Running away.
  
  It's just too much here. And too hard to deal with.
  
  Running away would be hiding. I'm not hiding.
6/12/09

Epicharis

Sounds like you've already decided, to me. You know what you want to do so you should do it and make yourself much happier. Best of luck to you.

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1. 6/12/09
  
  wagerwitch
  
  I have decided - but there is still a part of me that is hesitant and worried. Scared spitless to put it truthfully.
  
  I've never just jumped up and gone - without a full plan before. Never left everything behind and just plunged forward.
  
  My life has always been planned and prepared for.
  
  So this is like - OMGOMGOMGOMGOMMGOMMGOMGOMGOMGOMG - LOL! At the same time - the prospect is tremendously exciting.
2. 6/12/09
  
  Epicharis
  
  Go for it! It's what you want to do and it'll be an adventure! It sounds like financially it won't be a problem but rather a benefit, so you don't need to worry about that. And if the only thing that is really holding you back is fear of the unknown then there is no reason not to! Go on...you only live once!
6/12/09

Selvia

You are a very strong person indeed. Those who doesnt know the truth will know who you really are one day. Keep up the strong will power cos life has to go on.

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1. 6/12/09
  
  wagerwitch
  
  Thank you selvia. Very much for those words.
6/12/09

jafabrit

In this day and age there are so many means to keep up with your daughter, and while it isn't the same as being physically there, being there on a daily basis with skype, texting, im etc will make it easier to maintain those bonds.

As for selling everything to move, yes, we did that when we moved from the UK to the USA. If you are planning it it isn't as scary and it sounds like you are planning it.

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6/12/09

Alcomum

God love you - sounds like you are really being put through the mill.

Part of me would want to say F*^k them - no one is running ME out of town. And the other part would be half-packed...

Only YOU know what is right for you and yours - the only ones who matter.

And having been the Scarlett Woman (and worse!) on more than one occasion, I can asure you that things really do get better with time.

Good luck either way. xox

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6/12/09

idealpinkrose

We didn't do anything wrong but we think that our happiness is not here even we have everything that we need so we travel to some countries to find the perfect place to live in. If we found the right place then we are planning to sell everything that we own now. If you're not happy there, then it's time to move since you have enough money to start in another place.

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6/12/09

QuietWatersRise

Hi Wager, it sounds like you have already decided, so I just wanted to stop in with a hug and tell you that I hope things go well for you.

I am the same type of person who has to plan out all the details and not just jump in. But slowly I am learning to let go of that fear and have found that it's the times when you do jump right in that usually end up being the greatest.

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6/12/09

PotatoChef

Move to Las Vegas...Nobody cares about your past here.

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6/12/09

txtface

I did sell everything and moved... and it worked out wonderfully. In fact, I've now done it a few times and have travelled the world, just about. No baggage. When you travel light, you'll travel far. Do it, make the move. Life is too short to stay just in one place.

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6/12/09

wagerwitch

Wow - thank you guys - all of this info and well wishes from all of you is astounding.

Thanks.

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6/12/09

IntoTheAzureSea

I do sympathize with the notion of wanting to drop everything in one's life and wanting to be free, living life on one's own terms.

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6/12/09

GenuineWoman

I moved to another country without looking back at all. I don't regret about it.

If your heart tells you to move, just follow it! Maybe something good is waiting you in new place, and this current problem is the reason to get out of the town you live now!

I wish you luck and happiness in new place.
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"I can choose either to be a victim of the world or an adventurer in search of treasure. It's all a question of how I view my life." Paulo Coelho

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6/12/09

wagerwitch

What a great quote by paulo. Excellent - thank you Everyone - again. Thank you.

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6/12/09

HeadStones

I agree with GenuineWoman. We have done this a few times our selfs. If you guys are ready to make the move and your heart says lets go then do it. It may be the best thing you ever do.

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6/15/09

jyotishman

Miss Wagerwitch, I Do Not Know What Have You Decided. You Have Moved Out Or Still Giving Some Second Thoughts. I Don't Know. And I Wish You Good Luck!

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As Far The Question, Yes, I Do, Often, Want To Sell Everything And Move Far, Far Away!...

One Fine Day, I Will Sell The Nails, Of My Hands, Of Head, And Even Of The Soul. May Be I Will Grow Old, Or May Be I Will Become A Snail, And May Be By Then I Might Have Had Inhaled The Frozen Vapours Of Hundred Years, But One Reckless Wind, And I Will Break The Shell, Only To Walk On The Another Edge, Another End, Of The Blade. Sharp.

Bleeding, I Will Run Away. And I Will Run Faster!...

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6/15/09

dcarroll

I feel your question in my bones.
When I was in my twenties, I vowed to never do anything for money. Since then I have done a Ben and Jerry and sold out my original principle.
When I bought my first house, a friend who was an accomplished veterinarian stopped by and asked how I liked my house.
I said, "Life was better when everything fit in my pickup and I could go where ever, when ever at a moment's notice.
There are still days I recall how much more free I was then.

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