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HELP ME, I HAVE A CRUSH!
Posted by LolitaV • 8/05/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
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I am madly in love with D. but i feel myself developing a crush on someone we both know who is VERY similar to him (personality and looks). I avoid all contact with this person and the sad part is that he does make my heart beat fast but i still love D. the same.
How do you "nip" a crush in the "bud"?
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Stay away?
That's all I could think of!-
i try, makes me think of this person more. just writing about this my heart is beating faster.
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no, staying away just makes you think of them more... *thinks*
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yeah take a lot of cold shower.-
NEVER, i hate cold water
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that's the point. if it is pleasant then it wont work
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lol, when do i take this shower?
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the moment you feel the urge
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LOL!!! at his house, in his shower? that would not be good!
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The best way to nip a crush in the bud is to nip them. Nip meaning bone...is that a possibility? Nothing gets me over a crush faster than seeing it through. How well do you know him? Possibly sqashing the fantasy with a taste of reality would help...like having a conversation, finding his flaws. Of course if he's totally wonderful in every aspect...your doomed. -
i know why i am having this crush and it is the same reasons why i fell for D.
i am having dirty thoughts but he is 19 and I am so afraid. he never says much but he looks at me as if i am not wearing clothes and i blush, i blush for god's sake and he is just 19??!!!!
ps: but a hot 19 though, lol! -
19 year olds are usually pretty stupid. Problem solved.
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lol, my cheeks are sore from me slapping myself out of it. but it only makes my heart beat faster. I mean my hands shake in his presence
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Lol well how can you make love to him if you're doing all that shakin?
I'll say a pray for ya, I have a shoe in with the Big Papi -
lol, even i will pray and maybe i should go to confession. i am not catholic but there is a church beside my salon.
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It's okay to have a crush, just don't act on it. We're always in control of our actions, but not our desires.-
NP I fell guilty to me having a crush on another person is cheating on the one i love. I am trying hard, HARD not to do anything stupid, you know and I am trying to control my desires and not act but this is proving HARD. i wish i could take a pill and not care about his quiet, mysterious ways.
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A crush, a thought, a fantasy is not cheating. It hurts no one, and gives you pleasure. There are no consequences. If you act, that's opening a can of worms. But that's your choice and your responsibility.
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if it hurts no one why do i feel guilty and why is my heart aching NP?
i always looked down a wo/men who can't remain faithful. -
You feel guilty because you're confusing thought with action. You feel you're betraying D by having feelings for someone else. You're not. Enjoy your feelings, indulge them by masturbating or using them in your relations with D. In any case, you're responsible for your actions. No matter how much you want to jump on this other person you don't have to. Believe, I've faced this hundreds of times myself.
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I understand and agree with this and i will not be weak if i can help it.
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I have a crush on E but who is D, my dear lolita-
D. is my husband
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3some-
i am a feminist
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What does feminist have to do with it?
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cant watch videos on my phone
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too bad for you
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i will feel degraded being with 2 men. I could never, ever do that unless high and i don't do drugs
and DB u r supposed to help me get over it, not enable me like Jeunelle
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Well in that case this will solve your problem FOREVER
www.youtube.com/watch?v=2eQ1VXn06c0&feature=fvsr -
LOL!!!! but who will raise my kids once i m hauled to the jail/morgue?
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Ahhh Haaaa you never said nothing about kids
This is worst than I thought you seriously need help -
THANK YOU!!! I always put my kids first and i have never been weak before, i never put myself in these situations and D. is the same. he never cheated (i checked) and this is turning my world upside down and driving me nuts!!!
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I GOT THE ANSWER
Put a full body photo of him over your husband and let him wear it and that way you can have the best of both worlds, sort of, then see how much you shake
and don't let D log in here. -
lol, i am hoping this thread gets deleted somehow and he doesn't know about "theblog".
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Ask yourself what is this new cat bringing into your life that D hasn't already brought?
If you can't find a reasonable answer then your mind is wandering and you are feeding into it too much.
If you find something then ask yourself if you can somehow pull it from D and if you think you can then there should be no need to travel outside from the source.
There is something in human nature that wants the other white meat.
In the tarot "the Fool" travels away from his source and somehow after all that fussing returns to his source.
There you have it, Saint Jeunelle has spoken -
there is nothing he can do for me or give me that D. hasn't done or given to me before. D. is a hard act to follow and his exes are still not over him (thank god we are separated by an ocean)he is a good guy yet he is rugged and very good in bed. he is kind and very smart. he is like 5 guys rolled into one and i dunno why i have a crush (1rst since D.) now but i am gonna keep my thoughts to myself, ignore the way his lips curl up when he smiles, the way he looks at me and just let time heal my heart. i'll light a candle.
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I'll light a candle.
Me too lol
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that can be negotiated. what do you think lolita?
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you don't know D. he can't even share me with himself.
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visit a poor village in India. It will take your mind of things for some time.-
trust me, that won't work. with all the cuties running around (sonu sood in particular) India, I might never return, then i'll be doomed
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make sure its a poor village, with no electricity.
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LOL!!!!!!
why no electricity?? that would be worse because in the dark, all you'll do is feel your way up/down. how would i know what i'm getting?
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Our heart and feelings can be control. It's human to like men or woman. I am married but I still like beautiful woman. But my love and respect for my wife helped me in my stormy nights.I am not telling I may not fall.
But I will not think over it or let it go round my mind. I will try to forget it as soon as poss.-
i am trying to get over it WB that is why i want help to do so. I don't want to slip, specially with this person
i am so scared that i even might tell D. about this. Should i tell him? -
NO cuz if he loves you then he will let you free.
Dont loose the one who loves you. -
he loves me more than he loves his mother and i love him above everyone else besides the kids. i am trying best not to do anything stupid and i am 90% sure i won't when not around "that" and only 51% sure when he is in the same house as me and when he is standing there, i can't think so. but I am gonna pray, even though i never do and don't even believe in a god. but i will today and take a cold shower and workout to punish myself. and maybe read to forget about "that"
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Sounds like you need some negative reinforcement.-
what is that Faith?
Seriously, anything that will get me over this i'll try except doing "it". -
When you have a thought about this 19yr old punish yourself in someway...like if you didn't like hot pepper seeds you could put that in your mouth...that way thoughts of him would be associated with a bad experience.
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the thing is, i like pain, spices, hot water, etc...
i mean is there anything i can do or take like a pill? -
Sorry no magic cure but you have to find something that you find distasteful that you can do to modify your behavior....if not take lotusb's advice and do it and hope the experience is bad.
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it won't be. i have seen him dance
maybe i should pretend to hate him and soon i will? the punish my thoughts won't work because when i think of him, i am filled with such envy, such joy then shame and guilt -
@Lolita, hmmmm...not good seriously negative reinforcement works to curb behavior. Find something like the cold shower if you detest cold showers every time you have a thought of him hop in a cold showers eventually your mind will associate the 19yr old with the cold shower.
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i will. but i am giving the shower a week to work because i hate cold water. i'd rather not shower than shower with cold water. i used to be tortured with it growing up so..
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If you truly love D and value his companionship, then it is not worth taking the risk with Mr 19-
i do not want to ever, ever, ever take that risk Selvia. I am so in love with D. it hurts. but this isn't about that. this is about how do i, how does someone get over a crush without committing the relationship crime?
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Avoid Mr 19 as much as possible, keep your mind occupied with other things. It may sound easy but trust me it is not. Having a crush is a torture if you are already involved with a loved one
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i will try. my best. to avoid him. even though we were at their house 2 days in a row since the day before yesterday, have to go to a bday party there in a week, we are going to 2 dances with them after that
if i avoid him too much D. will think and he is VERY SMART and INTUITIVE. -
Dont make things so obvious and do your best. I hope everthing goes on well during the birthday party. Over reacting will show immediately so be yourself. All the best
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his father said to me yesterday "don't worry, my son will be here soon to keep you company" and when he smiled i thought maybe he knows?
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maybe you can move your feelings to a spiritual one. we call it 'courtly love'.I got that from the story of king arthur...you kn know the thing about lancelot and guinevere...that's the example. but it's just a crush . it will go away .
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My dear friend this isnt about Macbeth, Romeo and Juliet, King Arthur or hamlet. This is about our friend Lolita, I am sure you can help her with better ideas
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I know i am just adding humor to it
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you are great
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Oh celtic, only if this was fiction, then i could explore it to the end and still get out of it with D. by my side, unfortunatly this can hurt 100ds of people.
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Argh! My stupid internet ate my response to this thread TWICE!
To be brief, I can't think of anything that might be of help to you because I've never had a crush on anyone before.
However, if I were in your husband's situation and my wife told me she was developing a crush on another man, I would be glad that she was honest enough to tell me. Then we would work it out together. But I'm not like everyone, so it might not be a good idea.-
if you were in a car driving with your girlfriend and she happens to look at another man, would you be jealous? because D. is like that and if i tell him my heart didn't listen to me and still made a tiny space for someone else, he'd faint!
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[if you were in a car driving with your girlfriend and she happens to look at another man, would you be jealous?]
No, but I'm very NOT a jealous person. I don't think I own or possess the people I have a close relationship with. All I own is my share of the relationship itself, and that's something that cannot be replaced. That's how I look at things, anyway. -
any woman will be lucky to marry you. D. and I are very possessive towards each other. the thought of him feeling this way about someone else tears me apart. it kills me
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I once had a crush on my boyfriends best friend.He was very cute and sweet and we used to flirt a bit. At first I was trying to convince myself that i didnt have a crush and that made things worst cause i kept thinking about him. So finally I decided to admit to myself what I was feeling but decided i wasnt gonna act on it...eventually the feelings disapeared. So for now I think its best to just hang in there and maybe it will go away, maybe you'll realize it was more of a fantasy..GOOD LUCK!!!-
i am gonna try Stella. thanx for the advice. i have already admitted it to myself and now to you guys. next step is to wait for it to disappear and yes he does flirt with me. he looks at me WEIRD! like i am nude and he looks at me only when no one is looking.
like i kiss and hug everyone at that house but i shake his hand because i don't know him. yesterday, he came home from work and i was there alone and he kissed me on the cheek. but as we were leaving, he just ignored us. then i am stupid to be thinking about someone 5 years younger than me (although he looks older than me and is taller) -
there are some people that just push your buttons, and when u try to figure out rationally why u like them, there are usually more reason not to...but hey emotions and attractions are a tricky thing
Im sure you'll figure it out..your Lolita after all -
yes, yes I am and no 19 soon to be 20 year old can play my emotions like that. So what if he walks around with no shirt on with his soocer player's bod, so what if he looks at me like im naked and smiles every time he makes me uncomfortable or stops at the top of the stairs to stare. I am gonna get over this and fast.
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Sometimes enigma can make us become more obsessive towards a person. i know because i always have crushes on unavailable people. Either thay are married or their orientation is not swinging the other way. What i usually do is that i confront the situation. I listen to my feelings . It's telling me something. Then I get to try to know the person more. I realize that there are qualities I don't really like. After sometime the feeling just disappears.sometimes being in hiding can make it worse sometimes it helps. different folks for different strokes.
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Celticmusicfan, I really admire your strength
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Oh Selvia I have to do it or i will go crazy lol! Thanks.
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he is single. but i try telling myself that he is too young for me. i try to guilt myself about his age, although i am just 4 years older than him seeing he is turning 20 soon. but i am gonna get over it one way or another. i hope he doesn't feel the same though because that will make it easier for me.
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Lolita, you're acting as if you're not in control of your actions. Passion cannot force you to do anything; if you sleep with this guy, it'll be your choice. And why should D. be jealous if you tell him you're attracted to someone else? It's only normal. Maybe it'll excite rather than enrage him, knowing his wife is such a hot baby. I used to love when my wife told me about her crushes, it turned into a really wonderful form of foreplay. Stop beating yourself up. Enjoy your attractions. You don't have to do anything about them.
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i am following your advice. I am in control, i will not slip up ever and i will enjoy the thoughts (but away from D. because then guilt will kill me)
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Lolita whatever you choose to do or react think twice and dont say anything to D to sc*** things betwen the both of you.
got to go now, have to tuck my son to bed.Take care-
i won't tell him and i will keep it together.
you too Selvia, thanks again!
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just forget about him and have a crush on me, you wont see me so problem solved.-
LOL!!!!! yes, yes that't it. my new crush is SC the invisible man.
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Oh brother, Lolita you sure know how to get around lol
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i know, i know, i am becoming quite the virgin slut, lol!
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Lolita, honey, I think you need a new hobby. Get your mind off sex.
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Exactly, take up Yoga or something and snap out of it.
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have you seen her blog? I do not think this will happen!
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wp
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yes I try to make daily visits
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Hey SC, leave the girl alone. Don't get your hopes up.
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LOL!!! I have loads of hobbies and the sex is only every 2 days and i write about it then forget it. I don't have a crush with this guy's body NP it's the way he doesn't say much, he is mysterious, yet kind (i see him with kids) he is also emotional and very mature. its the side of his personality i saw. but maybe i should give more time to my beading that my sexing
and if i leave the sex, D. will be miserable and horny
LOL! NP i think SC was joking -
I was just kidding I have a girl, just making a joke. I think she will be fine if she loves D.
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SC I LOVE D. MORE THAN ANYTHING ON THIS PLANET. I gave up my family for him (until they realized i was right in doing so and we are now one big, messed up family)
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SC-I know you were joking. I was joking, too.
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Perhaps some negative image substitution? Positive thinking helps, I've been told, so maybe negative thinking will too...
Imagine the guy with buck teeth, hairy ears, an uber-tiny dick and a complete lack of any kind of sexual prowess. He's probably a horribly bad kisser too. -
impossible to think bad of him, he is cute and clean.
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I would go to opposite of negative; have some crazy romantic fantasies about him while you please yourself. I've used this multiple times to get rid of crushes. The fantasy is stimulating, and after a little while the real thing doesn't measure up to what the mind has created.
If it doesn't work, at least you got some good self-sex out of it.-
i'll try and see how it works, lol!
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Absolutely. Why do you think I participate every day in these discussions with all you brainy ladies? Crazy romantic fantasies.
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Is it a harmless crush? If so, then I see no problem with it. Perhaps you should even tell the person and your husband and all get a kick out of it. I think it is normal for people to be sexually attracted to other people--it's acting on those urges that is not good.
If it is a serious crush then I would probably stay away from the person--I would not do anything to sabotage my marriage, personally.-
i will stay away because i know that it isn't harmless and i cannot mess up my marriage because of him. i have a crush be he isn't worth me losing everything.
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Well, I'm sure you know what would happen if you gave into the crush. You ruin your relationship with D, you get your yayas out, and what? You're left with a broken home, a sex only relationship with a 19 yr old kid (Because a 19 yr old isn't ready for the real deal nor do they want it), and your life in shambles. Sounds great doesn't it?
We all have temptations. You just have to be strong enough to think with your brain and your heart and not your hormones. Butterflies are great, but they'll go away eventually and what will you have to show for it?-
i am hoping the butterflies go away soon because this is painful. I will not pursue this because i know exactly how much is at stake and i can't afford to do this to us.
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I've done wrong, I've made that mistake, and once you do it there's no going back, there's no relationship counseling, it will hang over your head until your relathionship is over. And all the time afterwards you think of how things were different before, how your partner looked at you differently, cared for you differently. And in those silent moments where you are wondering whats going on in their head, you know there are no words you can say to rebut it, because you gave them the ammunition, and they will shoot, and shoot, and shoot.
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D. will simply leave. I cannot bear the thought of it. many times I have wanted to leave him because i am truly undeserving of his love but he never let me because he loves me so and i love him the same but my thoughts and feelings i cannot control and i am gonna worry about my actions, like NP said.
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Many a ruined life could have been prevented, if only one had been wise enough to follow positive advice. Too many take chances and linger too long at some pleasure, trying to enjoy as much as possible without falling into the evil that is there. People are so afraid of missing something, and so they step closer and closer to actual transgression, until, like a waiting spider, it reaches out and entangles them.
There are so many temptations, which annoy us in our daily life. We shall never be entirely safe from them. For as long as we are in the world, we will have to protect ourselves from them. All around us there are people or things, which may appeal to our weakness. When we cannot avoid them, meet them with patience rather than with anxiety or thoughtless severity. Correct and remedy what we can. As for things, which cannot be remedied, bear them patiently in His Name.
God's Word is very strong against any kind of sexual relation outside of marriage. He strictly prohibits any flirtation or illicit love affair by either married partner with another person. One of the great blessings of a Christian home is the fact that husband and wife can trust each other when they know that each is faithful to the other in thought, word, and deed. As they serve the Lord together, it becomes a "little bit of heaven," free from the deception, suspicion, jealousy, and unfaithfulness that wreck so many homes.-
i am not christian but i am very faithful to my spouse not because a book tells me so, but because i want to. i agree with most of you so beautifully said! thanx for your advice.
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Even Jimmy Carter lusted in his heart. But he didn't share his peanuts with her.-
so should i keep my cherries to myself?
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If you don't get it, ask someone over 50.
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what's age got to do with it?
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You would have to be a certain age to remember the whole Carter fiasco I was talking about.
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Take him for a ride ones..
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okay aren't you the one wanting to ban porn?? now you are telling me to cheat on my beloved??!!!
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i wanted to ban porn from the internet...
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LOL!!!! now you want to participate?
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Oh goodness. This is how affairs start. It is normal to have crushes though, just because you're married/in a relationship, doesn't mean you'll never be attracted to anyone else. So don't beat yourself up too much over it.
But I agree with Cathy. If you don't want to cheat on D, then avoidance is your best bet.
Edit: And maybe avoidance will make you crush on him more initially, but it'll fade eventually if you don't see him at all.-
i am trying and i hope for the best. but knowing myself, i am very faithful. as long as he leaves me alone, i am never gonna do anything wrong. am i responsible if he kisses me though, lol?
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It seems you really want him to have sex with you... why supress your feelings then.
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no, i do not. and even if i do, i am not stupid enough to let it happen
hopefully!
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You can't put all the responsibility on him. In order for him to leave you alone, you must leave him alone.
I can only see this situation escalating if you continue to see him. If it does go any further, it'll be your choice and you'll have to deal with the consequences. Guilt is a useless emotion.-
i will leave him alone, ignore him totally and hope for the best on his part.
just posting in this thread makes my heart beat faster!
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Take a shower with a blow up of him / her / it.-
my hubby will see the doll besides a cold doll won't do nothing for me.
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Is D into sharing? are you into sharing?-
he would murder me before he shares me, lol!
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Then in that case.....dreams are free, keep it in your head and take control
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LolitaV - If you love 'D.' like it seems you do (both on here and according to your blog *cough cough*) I don't think you're in any danger of doing anything stupid with this other guy.
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thanks for believing in me more than i do myself.
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no problem. In the end love will conquer all, even your own imagination. Dam that was corny...
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trying to very hard
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Or just have sex with him once and get it over and done with. Then you'll see that the reality is never as good as the fantasy. And then don't tell hubby. Ever. Your guilt will be your punishment and your burden. It'll be your secret to carry with you.
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You need a spanking... That's not good advice.
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she wants me dead
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No, it's not good advice.
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i wish there was a pill for this. maybe tylenol?
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Lolita, leave the country
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no, he leaves. he found me here!!!! he came 3 weeks ago
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He better leave. A storm is brewing.
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he won't. we live 40mns apart yet HAVE to see each other
if i avoid him too much, they'll know.
his dad talked to me about him and had this smile that told me he might know -
I know how you feel - It doesnt help at all when parents of all people start dropping those hints about others, it only feeds those feelings you have for that person even more knowing that there is even the smallest chance that the feelings are mutual
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Lols - I've waited to answer this.
But I have to tell you this: I think you should totally distance yourself away from this crush.
My reason for this: New found romance is almost ALWAYS a stronger pull than your real love. It's easy to get yourself in a bad situation - where you think - "it'll be ok..."
Or it just feels too good to say no.
I've been on both sides.
New infatuation is sometimes too good to let go of.
Because the MAYBE will always be there.
The very fact that you've allowed yourself to go into fantasy mode - where you get the butterflies and weak at the knees tells me that you need to maybe look inside deep - and ask yourself what this person is giving you that D isn't - that YOU need.
You may not even know what it is...
But something this young man is doing - the way you react to it - is something that you are NEEDING - Craving - and you're not getting it.
I don't mean to presume to tell you that you can't handle it - or that it won't happen - that you can't ever tell - and you've already said that you DON'T want it to happen.
But trust me - I've been there... You DO want it to happen.
I don't know why - each person is different - but it's a hard call.
And putting yourself in that position Lols - man - that's gonna end up tearing YOU apart if something happens.
I mean - seriously - imagine the worst happens.
Cause it often does.
Imagine you GET with this guys... It's totally Hot - and now - you're in LOVE with him...
And he's in love with you - you with him... But now you'll have to make a decision about D.
And then D finds out - and everyone gets hurt.
And I mean hurt.
Drama - fights - leaving - sadness...
And then the new guy meets a new girl - and you're by yourself.
I say - and this is just me save yourself the problems - save yourself the pain.
The fantasies feed the "want". So if you come across a fantasy - don't feed the flame - because the bigger the flame - the bigger the want.
Hugs babe - it's a seriously difficult decision to make.
On the other hand kiddo - if you do end up with this guy - he COULD be the most amazing guy in your life.
He Could be the soulmate of your heart.
You just never know.
I suppose - after all is said and done you'll just have to look at the situation and decide what you really want. And what you really need.
And heck - you could always ask D - he might be open to a 3-some... Or watching... Or just letting you try it out - if that is your fantasy..
Hugs - no matter what you decide - I'll still love ya!-
Oh WW you are making me cry. I cannot afford to break up my marriage because kids are involved and i LOVE my husband. but it SUCKS!!! i try not to think of him
but i can't help looking forward to the parties we are all going to. i think if i just pretend long enough and not look or talk to him (he is very quiet anyway) then i will slowly get over it. what hurts the most is the maybes and what ifs and the want to find out if the gleamer i see is indeed a rainbow waiting at the end. I feel so guilty i barely can look at D. but knowing myself and my strength, i know i'll get over N. -
I totally understand.
Just so you know - I left my EX because he did this... And I sorta did too. (Not completely - but yanno - enough inside to know that I was in the wrong thinking about it...)
It took me 3 years to leave my ex - and this wasn't the ONLY reason I left him.
But it was a facet of it.
I think if you are TRULY in love with someone - who gives you EVERYTHING you need - then EVERYONE and EVERYTHING else becomes invisible.
You don't think about others the same way - you don't even note that they are "sexy and you want them" - you don't get butterflies.
My hubby now - it's like that for us.
NO ONE ELSE EXISTS IN THAT PLANE...
I don't know how to tell you to stay away - because if it's that strong of a pull - there might be something there - and you might need it.
I don't want to tell you to do it.
But I will tell you - if you plan on being with D for the rest of your life - and you're sure that he is the one for you - then you need to stop yourself now... and make it stop.
But - if you think there is something there - then maybe you need it.
You're going to have to balance it out.
Life isn't always black and white.
There are a lot of gray things involved.
I can say with my hubby - no one else exists - there are no temptations there are no butterflies - there are no thoughts or fantasies - it just isn't there. And I've been in situations where previously I would have been weak at the knees and they don't even come close to phasing me now. NO ONE ELSE EXISTS.
And this is the first time in my life I've ever felt that way.
So - I believe that is HOW you should feel - if you're really in love.
And that love is giving you EVERYTHING you need.
Maybe you just need to find out what D isn't giving you that you need - and maybe see if you can add it to spice up your life.
Maybe it's that "FLIRT" mode that you need.
Maybe it's that "Mystery" mode that you need.
You are a woman of GREAT imagination - you CAN role play it into happening - and make it exciting again. Trust me - YOU CAN DO IT.
But if you really, truly don't want it to happen kiddo - then you're gonna have to make it NOT happen - and that means avoidance at all costs.
There are NO what ifs - if you aren't going to do it - if ya know what I mean.
Again - let me tell you LOLS - no matter what you decide to do - we'll all still love you.
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I don't think I've seen someone have this much trouble with this. It seems like you are setting yourself up to fail.
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probably but i won't.
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I got the answer.
Have Wager witch turn him into bird or toad OR
Have vodooKobra murder him OR
Have MarketBorn sell him to Korean Cannibals.
No mr 19 no trouble. We shall sin and for good and then confess at the box of the Naughty Nun.-
LOL!!!!!! u always make me smile and laugh.
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You can deal with the situation you are into now by either directly suppressing unacceptable urges, saying no to them or by hiding them deep inside. Hiding unacceptable urges means repressing full awareness of them by keeping them in the unconscious.
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that is my plan!!! ignoring them into oblivion.
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wow... sounds intriguing-
it's not. it is however dumb and painful and a waste of emotions!
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You have to discern as to whether it is a crush or whether it's love. It sounds to me, Lolita, that you've got a momentary fit of physical attraction: it will pass, such things tend to do. If you are having thoughts which extend beyond just going to bed with him, then you genuinely have a problem: the good news, however, is that he may not feel the same.
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Well said.
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i don't see myself with him (married and stuff) because he is 20 (his bday is this week) and i am 24 and i don't EVER want to be married again because no one can ever make me as happy as D.'s made me. but i am hopeful it passes and i hope he hates me and thinks i am fat, ugly and stinky.
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@lolita
That's just a physical crush then. I suggest you go away with D. for a weekend somewhere, do your "business" such as it is, and forget about the lad.
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act on ur impulse and lose D
and live with the consequences
but if u really love D there is no room for another not even a thought-
Sufi if my love for D. could be ripped out of my heart and placed online, it would make the internet crash. I have left everything for him and he has proven himself worthy of my love time and time again, to the point where i feel like i am not deserving of such a man and I wouldn't be wrong. If my love could control my thoughts and feelings, this thread would never exist because then i wouldn't have this problem. in the 7 years I have been with D. i have NEVER, ever looked at another man or woman the way i have him.
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what a !!!!! -
who is D ??-
U.
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