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Help wanted - the best way to help someone with cancer?

Posted by irelandpropertypro • 3/24/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: Cancer, Help

Hi, nothing to do with blogging - but maybe you guys can help - an objective view wanted:

My friend has just found out he has cancer - he may or may not survive the next few weeks - how to help - what to say - any tips appreciated!

thanks.

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3/24/08

ekim941

You will want to be supportive and spend as much time with him as you can. He may not want the main topic of discussion to be about cancer and death. Try to keep the conversation positive, cancer doesn't have to be a death sentence. It is a rough road to recovery but it is easier if you have the support of a friend.

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1. 3/24/08
  
  irelandpropertypro
  
  thanks for that.
3/24/08

Shiley

Be supportive. Be a good listener. Be a shoulder to cry on if needed.

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3/24/08

acousticguitarist

www.thework.com

tremendous support stuff for all lifes mysterious challenges

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3/24/08

irelandpropertypro

Many thanks for those tips.

I just feel so useless - I wish there was more I could do.

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1. 3/24/08
  
  Theblogladies
  
  Your care and support means more than you realize. It's certainly not useless. Just be with your friend...as you always have. I will send postive good thoughts your way: you can pass along.
  
  Blog Lady Dee
  Blog Lady Elle
  Another thread that may help you:
  www.blogcatalog.com/discuss/entry/how-do-you-talk-to-a-dying-person
3/24/08

irelandpropertypro

Thanks

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3/24/08

ender

be normal. don't totally avoid the topic of cancer, but don't act like it's the only thing either.

so much depends on the person and how that person is tolerating the treatments. i wanted to go out to movies and be with friends doing normal stuff - others want to chill at home.

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  irelandpropertypro
  
  Thanks Ender.
3/24/08

voodooKobra

Tell them about dichloroacetic acid.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dichloroacetic_acid

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3/24/08

globalgirl

Love them. Serve them. Be present even in silence. Read to them. Pray for them. Just be with them.

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3/24/08

kdawg68

let them know how much you value your time with them. Let them know that they are an incredible person that you value being able to spend as much of existence with as you can. How honored you are to have shared this moment in space and time with them. Most importantly, just let them know you are there for them.

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3/24/08

PoliticsTodayUSA

Like everyone has said be supportive, spend time with him, keep him laughing. They say laughter is the best medicine. Also, let him know that you are there for him. Friendship can help people get through the toughest times.

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6/06/08

irelandpropertypro

Thanks to all who replied to this message posted last March - friend had a major op and thankfully is now on the mend - things are looking really good for him.

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